How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids will Talk

Hi Kaka. The book sounds great, and yes, I would think it could apply to many of our communications, with kids and all others.

Kids know and understand much more than many give them credit for, and we set a good example for them by taking their thoughts and needs seriously, and treating them with the respect we wish them to show others!

Thank you for the recommendation!

Karen

I have two sons, aged 21 and 22. We talk about everything, and there are secrets between us but they are of an intimate nature on my sons' part and that's okay. However, my eldest did call me one time to have me help him buy a "morning after" pill from a pharmacy that refused to sell it to him because he was only 19--his condom broke and he didn't think he was ready to be a father and knew his girlfriend wasn't ready for a child. He trusted me enough to call me and I helped him.

I started talking to my children (both boys) when they were in the womb. I read to them before they were even born. The book you are talking about is right, you have to respect your children as people with feelings and passions. If you start talking to them and LISTENING from the time they are born, maintain a mutual communication and never lie to them when they ask you the truth, you will have emotionally healthy children.

I still remember when my eldest asked me about the Tooth Fairy, which led to admitting that Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny was me, too. We all remember it fondly and laugh about it! Because I was honest and they knew they could ask me anything.

sounds interesting. I have never read the book but I do know that if you talk to and interact with kids simply as people because that is what they are that it works. They are kids and they do need guidance and discipline. Still they are people and their feelings and thoughts are valid.

How right you are talking to kids in a way they can understand stops so many misunderstanding.I always make a point of listening to my grandchildren as I listened to their parents.Make the repeat things if you cannot catch what they say.You hear some parents screaming at their kids threatening all sorts of punishment things they will never carry out.Sit them down and talk to them,take your time.If they are naughty explain why.Give good reasons for the majority of the time will bring its bonus's with a basis of a good solid relationship with understanding on both sides.

Well its good that this book teaches us how to talk,how to behave with kids and you say so i will try to read this book but according to me that we should understand their feelings and emotion and give some freedom so kids can express their thought and all problem and we should always with them and give good future to them

Hello my friend kaka135 Ji,
You have brought out a wonderful discussion, where everyone of us would learn. Learning of any kind is ever un-ending process. Children can grasp 56 languages at a time. They can differentiate. At pesent, as and when I go to bring my Grand daughter from the Creeche, at least one small boy always come to me, as I rubbed my palm over his face one day, next day i gave one chocklette piece. I also equally look for him. Children are most senstive. Let's always listen to children first and then only listen to others. This is time, when one can inject some of good habits for life long. You may be surprised, after our marriage and before becoming first time mother, we had promised each other not to utter any slang language in front of children, so our youngest daughter is 34 yrs and mother of 3 yrs old child, I always tell, what you said at your ending para.

" If we have made ourselves a better person, we can always influence the people around us. It'll bring happiness to ourselves and others too."

Wish you a very happy parenting.
May God bless You and have a great time.