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myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life3 months ago

My answer would be no I can't no matter how close that person is to me my parents for instance or my brother or my sister or my love I can't change myself for anybody,that doesn't I'm selfish that's because that's what makes me who I'm...all those things that I do..that I like..my habits...make me the person I'm without which I would loose my identity...

I'm telling who so ever wants you to change doesn't love u because who really cares about you should love the way u are with all the bad habits u have without wanting to change you in anyway....
But that doesn't mean that a person(ur loved one) who wants to u not to smoke doesn't mean he or she is ur enemy...

By change here I mean a subsequent change of ur personality...

A person who loves you,loves u for who ur ur individuality ur basic instinct and they'll always want u to be that way....

So what ur opinion on this it might defer from mine....


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tags:  change, personality, life, people, others
 
1. myLot reputation of 92/100. bettydeng5 (664)   ranked 1,983 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

In life change our character, custom for others is a difficult thing, because we have our character, our habits. which isn't easy to change because of other's requirement. Love one need to love their everything is right, so I think you don't need to change yourself for others.


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Yaa me2.. cool


myLot reputation of 43/100. IMEzekieL (505)   ranked 17,999 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Plausible answer. I second the motion.


muthuvijayans (4)   ranked 34,521 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Hi friends! I dont know why you people are thinking very selfish.we born only once in this world.we all are looking only for our happiness. For example:- if your mother always shouting on you means you accept that.what you first feel.if she change her character.i will be happy.so what my opinion is change your character if some one wish.be happy and make others happy.the world is yours.


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Okk...
Thanks for ur views.. cool

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2. myLot reputation of 94/100. Misterwit (1100)   ranked 6,028 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

Hello pretty....

What you say is true I will never change my self for any reason..

and it will be really difficult for to do...and I think nobody can do it

because if that is the case he will be a great pretender as he not what he really isthumbdown


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Hmm..

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3. myLot reputation of 96/100. corrycrystal (1081)   ranked 2,804 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

I would if the things I want to change will benefit me and others. We have to be reasonable on this matter. Sometimes, we do not realize that we are capable of changing unless we have tried to, and other times we do not realize that change is for a better and not otherwise. So, I would give it a try as what I have learned from this journey of my life, generally most people want us to change not because they want to control us or interfere in our life, but they do care. However, they should not force us as when they do, we tend to push all the ideas and become defensive, and that make us difficult to change.


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Thanks for ur views..
I appreciate.. thumbup

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4. myLot reputation of 89/100. notlistening2 (10955)   ranked 7,755 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

No I won't change because someone want to to, I say it like this, love me or leave me if you don't like the way that I am, then you don't have to bother, with dealing with me because, I am not going to change, to satisfy you, then I would be unhappy. happyhappyhappy


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Nice I like it.. cool

Love ur response.. thumbup

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5. myLot reputation of 86/100. Hatley (21501)   ranked 1,344 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

hi prettyindgal if a person really loves another person,
he will love unconditionally, faults, warts and all. If
this person cannot accept you the way you are, then he'really does not love you at all. Your personality is who you are'if
you are forced to change that, you will now be false to yourself
'and nobody wants to do that.I agree wholeheartedly with you,perfect love loves us just the way we are, the whole
package, the whole enchilada.


myLot reputation of 81/100. Archie0 (3139)   ranked 1,389 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

I think that everyone is used by another at some point in their life. I have learned to distance myself from those types of people. It is really all you can do. Don't change who you are because someone found a way to use your kindness. This means that they won. Stay true to who you are. Good luck. xox


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Thanks Hatley...
Have a good day.. cool


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Thanks Archie..

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6. myLot reputation of 87/100. mdvarghese (1026)   ranked 4,454 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

There is no need of changing for the sake of love. Because the lover loves you because of this personality. But we should not be that rigid. We should change, if it is useful for the others. I am not talking about the change of personality or habits.If we are indulging in anti social activity and it gives disturbance to others we should change . There I can not accept the stubbornnes. So whereever change is required, we should change and it is not wrong according to me


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Yaa I totally agree..
Thanks buddy..
Have a good day.. happy

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. tingtong (1322)   ranked 451 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

There is no need to change our character, our individuality, for anyone...But we can change our habits for the sake of adjusting with others. If we r stubborn that we would not change ourselves at any cost, life will become difficult...especially in marriage..


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Thanks buddy..

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8. idtrebor (32)   ranked 14,493 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

I Don't think a person can change, even if that person tries. I'm also talking about the personality, the inner self, not the habits, those can be changed, or alterd. People are born with traits, and only know what they grew up with, and it stays with them. I think if you are truely in love with a person, you want to change, but you don't. I would say that you can't change...God Bless


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

I think u can change ur personality if you want but u should not..
Thanks for ur views..

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9. myLot reputation of 94/100. 1anurag1 (718)   ranked 1,793 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

i think we do this every time.
even we wear clothes to look good that is for others. when we walk on road or meet anyone we take care about how the person will think about us.

most of the time we care for others.
and i am not the exception. but i think i ll nver be able to completely change for some one if even i try to do this.
it is very hard some time to take a u turn in your personality.


zhangyangjingmo (1)   ranked 34,563 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

I agree with you.


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Well personality and behavior are 2 different things my friends...


myLot reputation of 94/100. 1anurag1 (718)   ranked 1,793 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

You are correct but the personality consists of not only looks,
this is: personality= looks+behavior...

in any way if you dont behave well. your personality will not be considered good. but if you behave well.. it will reflect in the personality.


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

No buddy ur getting it all wrong looks and behavior are far away from personality personality is a different thing...
Personality is something that influences our behavior our character...

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10. gstitzer (37)   ranked 18,290 out of 38,443 in life   3 months ago

I would absoulutely not change myself for anyone. I have been in instances where I have found myself changing who I am for the other person and I became totally miserable and it wore not only on me but on the other person. So it wasn't fair to either one of us. So basically stay true to yourself always


myLot reputation of 84/100. PrettyIndGal (273)   ranked 1,837 out of 38,443 in life  3 months ago

Yaa that has happened with me when some one really close to me tried to change me I I kind of did and didn't realize but when I did I felt terrible...
Yaa ur right..
Thankss.. cool

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