What should i do in this situation?

India
October 13, 2009 2:47pm CST
I am in love with a girl. But don't have the courage to tell her. But the thing in my favour is that all her colleagues know about this thing and are willing to help me out of this situation. But now one more problem has cropped up. My family has announced that they are strictly against any form of love marriages. This has put me in a dillemma. Whether to carry forward with this or to accept what my family is saying.
9 responses
@android (894)
13 Oct 09
If all her colleagues know about this then what are the chances that one of them has given her at least some kind of clue about it? She may even know about it already. Just talk to her, get to know her and let her know how you feel - just don't rush into it, you don't want to scare her away. As for you family being strictly against any form of love marriages, do you necessarily have to get married? Can you still have a relationship with her?
• United States
13 Oct 09
Android is right there is a strong possibility she knows. Family always has an opinion. See for yourself if there is a friendship turned into love before you decided anything else. Besides you should ask your family why they are opposed.
• United States
14 Oct 09
You need to grow a pair and say something yourself. Letting some one else do your romantic promoting is both lame and unattractive.
@earth2jacq (1498)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
You are in love with a girl....and I don't see any problem with that. Since you are inlove with a girl I am assuming that you are a boy. Again no problem with that. I am a girl and I had been inlove with my best guy friend some time ago. I resolved to tell him no matter what consequence it entails. Luckily my friend did not back aways from me upon learning my feelings, there was a month that he did not talk to me, but then after that we are back to being normal friends. We may not had the relationship I wanted but it is easier to move on if you knew you did what you could to express your feelings. For all you know the girl may just be waiting for your move. I am not quite sure as to what you meant by this: "But now one more problem has cropped up. My family has announced that they are strictly against any form of love marriages" so I decided I won't comment on this part.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
What would make you happy? Your family may be your source of strength however can they be there forever? We sometimes have to counteract the situation to find what will make us contented with life.
• India
14 Oct 09
really it is situation of dilemma.its very difficult 2 decide what 2 do.whether 2 go according 2 ur parents wishes r express ur love.i also faced the same situation.but a little difference is i got married 2 the person whom i love with the approval of my parents only.if ur love is true n u r sincere 2 her,u need nobody's help.God only helps u in this situation.even in my case also,i didnt express my love 2 my fiance but lucky thing is both of our parents accepted 2 our marriage and they didnt know about our love before our marriage.we r sincere 2 each other and by God's grace we got married n r happy now.if u want 2 be happy,pls try 2 convince ur parents first and then express ur love 2 her.but remember one thing dont do too much late,ok.ALL THE BEST...
@Catwife (54)
• China
14 Oct 09
If you love her,boldly told her!Or indirectly,to let others help you bring together a look!Sometimes girls are shy,do not frighten her OH! As for the home,Well, if you truly love, will support it!Come on!
@shajerrl (309)
• China
14 Oct 09
please make your choice from your heart, if you love her, please let her know. life is too short for us, why not follow your heart? maybe you are afraid to be refused, but please don't worry about that, even you are refused by her for worst result, you also can touch her by your unremitting effort. Don't cleary understand what is the meaning for your second part. Do you means you parent don't want to have your marriage with love? if it is, which marriage they will accept? they will arrange a marriage for you in the future. Actually, you will with the girl you married for the rest of your life not your parents, so please go ahead but have a kindly communication with your parent about your decision...Good luck.
@forptc (287)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
I'm not saying it's an entirely easy situation but with the girl's colleagues being in favor of you and offering to help you out with her, then that is so much easier than just a walk in the park. They could easily build you up, set you up with her and would definitely just feed it all to you where the only thing you would have to do is just be yourself with her. Not much fuss there so let them help out. Wait, I don't quite get the "love marriage" part. If they're against "love marriages" then does it mean their for "arranged marriages"? If that's what it means, then the decision to push through with this is up to you. If you do love the girl so much, you either fight for her or leave her be so that she won't be hurt when she meets your family and vice versa. Ask yourself, would you want to live your life on your own or would you let your family live your life for you? It's your choice all throughout.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
Hi abhishek I think you should tell her that you love her. There is a possibility that she already know the you like her and she's just waiting for you to make your move. If your on the right age you don't have to worry about your family since you have the right to be happy. If you really love the girl tell her and satrt courting her before it's too late. Good luck...