Honey, where have you been???

Hi, Eileen! Thanks for your response. It's not that I have no interest in what he is doing, but sometimes, I just don't feel it's right to check on every activity he is doing. We always go out together either for leisure or whenever there are outings with friends and family, but my concern is when he works late and sometimes comes home late. When I ask, he will tell me where he has been, and I will believe him. However, lately I am thinking that I should ask him more or maybe 'control' him more?? And when you said that he might take it as I don't really care, that's what I am afraid of.

He is not your better half for nothing. So utter to him your apprehensions, your musings, your fears. Tell him how you feel insecure about him being elsewhere without you by his side. Tell him you would not want to stay complacent when distress is setting in. He must understand your worried wife situation. And because he loves you, and you love him, both of you will offer solutions to your predicament. Pray and sigh before you begin your script. Don't do it when he is tired. Probably cuddle up in bed with him where you can really make him listen to your wifely speech, LOL. But I mean that, huh.

You mean pillow talk? Yea, we do that sometimes, and I will feel good after that, but ughh! Hate this feeling of insecure. Maybe I should not be too worried... Could be I have seen something in him change, I don't know...

A little prayer helps. I'll include you in mine.

It is so kind of you, Eileen. Thank you so much. It really means a lot to me.

Have a great day ahead! God Bless You!!!

Reading your post make me realize that it might be selfish on my part that I seldom call him and ask him what he is doing, just to show him I care and not being suspicious, like you mentioned, because he is the one who will always call me and ask me if I have taken my lunch or dinner or what I am doing. I seldom do that... I do wonder whether he misses me or thinking about me, but normally he will be the one who calls me. I am not being consistent of expressing myself and most probably that is why I am beginning to worry if our relationship turns sour. I have been telling other couples to nurture their relationships, but I don't realize that I have been neglecting mine for a while. Thank you for your response and I really appreciate it.

You are very welcome! If he calls you often you could even show your excitement and love when he calls you and that would make up for the lack of calling. Or when he gets home you could have a little note written or a snack fixed for both of you to show him you were thinking about him even though you didn't call. Has he ever said anything to you that says he wonders why you don't call?

Normally I would tell him that I was busy with house work or when I was at work, I couldn't get on the phone often. I am trying to do what I used to do now, and I called him up just now to ask what time he's coming home so that I can prepare to cook. Fixing a snack seems a good suggestion. You know, your advices really do make me look back through all those little things that may not seem important, but in fact they really are. Thanks, again!!