How to Gain Forgiveness and Move Forward...

I think it will be good if you can ask him about the reason why he's decided to forgive you. Had I been in his place I might have done similar thing. Of course I don't know how bad the situation was, but I would prefer to sort things out than remain bitter and separated.

For me if I were to sort things out with my wife, in case she betrays me, the reason for which I would forgive her remains the same for which God forgives me. I don't think I deserve forgiveness when God forgave me of all my wrongdoings. Yet He chose to forgive me. And now if God could forgive me even if I don't deserve forgiveness, I think as His follower I would also forgive anyone who's harmed and betrayed me too.

I think God forgives anyone who says sorry. One does not have to use big words, but to say genuinely that one is sorry. I believe when the Bible says that Jesus died on the cross for the wrongdoings of all humanity, that is true. And since Jesus dead and resurrection are true, when one says sorry God really forgives. From the counselling point of view, sometimes one may deal with past better when one can find someone to whom one can share things of the past and pray with her/him. Cheers!

Good day!It is my pleasure to help or give you some advise as a christian we should help each other in times of troubles and needs,we need to comfort each other too.Although i can't relate to your problem because of my status in life as a single person but i can relate with you as a fellow christian who suffers too in many problems in life.At first in marriage God must be the center of it,remember that nobody is perfect and all of us can commit sin in God's sight,as a christian we all know the God's will in our life and we all know too what are his plans for us,the problem is sometimes God is revealing his plan for us but we are not doing it that's why he let us enter in some situations to realize that we should obey him.Marriage is not easy like that because God sanctify it and it says in the bible that "What hath God joined together let no man put asunder",and the two of you make a vow that you will be together till death in God's matrimony,there are a lot of things that's why your husband makes a way to patch things up,maybe he clearly see the plan of God for the both of you that's why he forgive you even it's hard for his side and he wants to do what God wants him to do,my advise for you is this,first pray and ask God for peace of mind and guidance, second forgetting those things which are behind (that is in the bible too)what i mean for this is "past is past" forget what happens for you to be free in doubt.maybe that year and a half is the plan of God for you to clearly see or experience to see the picture what will happen in the future and wants to realize the right decision,and maybe God worked too in your husband to understand all of the things that happened in both of you that's why he can forgives you easily.You don't need to ask God to forgive you because he already forgives you in all your sins already at the cross (remeber that/when you receive him as your personal Lord and saviour?).Yes he can in God nothing is impossible!just hold on him and pray so that doubt will be resisted.God Bless

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Person as we are, make mistakes.That's a big reality, no one in this world is perfect! right?. Through our mistakes we learned something. If you sincerely apologize or sorry for what happened, your partner can feel that. There will always be a second chance, you maybe wondering why he forgiven you that easily! will I guess the answer for that it's because he's in love with you and he want to work things out in your marriage. He really care about you. Think positive, he's your husband, key to successful marriage is TRUST! remember that! Trust your partner though you make mistake! Let him feel that you were sorry for what happened and you as well willing to work out you marriage. Take importance on your investment in your relationship. Your husband choosed you as his wife because he loves you so and he trust you. You are lucky enough to have a man like him which do all his best for your marriage.. Show him how much you love him! Past will be past, just make it sure that you will not commit same mistakes!.. TRUST your husband and trust on the promises that you've made with each other during your wedding..Believe me he truly loves you! think positive Good luck to both of you!

Hi Subtlesubmissive,

After reading your discussion I can tell you one thing that whatever happened is happened and just forget about the past and don't spoil your life thinking why your husband forgived you. First you say sorry to your husband and just confess in front of God and from now onwards be faithful to your husband and love him beyond the limits because God has given you such a good husband and lead a very happy life. Time is very precious, start collecting all the happy moments in your life from now and enjoy. Have a nice day.

Yes, if you are truly sorry and you go to God and confess everything, He will forgive you. I know this because it says in the Bible 'if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness'.

Personally I have to say that if my husband had an affair I don't think I would be able to stay. I have been through too much already and I moved countries to be with him - for him to throw that back in my face would be worse than the affair itself.

But it sounds like you have a good chance - he is able to forgive, God forgives - so you need to work on forgiving yourself.

I wish you well x

I think he forgive you because he love you so much and he can't let go of you. He want to move forward because he still had the chance to make you feel how important you to his life. Just let him feel that your sorry and you want to make-up with your marriage if you really still love him. God can be very forgiving if you felt sorry for what you did.Try to move on and make up with your life and to your husband.

People do forgive and want to have a fresh start. It is a fact of life. Although majority of those we know find it difficult to forgive, in doesn't mean all men are the same. What is even more difficult is to forgive ourselves. The memories will continue to haunt us and make us guilty. If you believe in God, as I presume you do, you can stand on His promises that He forgives those who are sincerely asking for it.

But gaining trust back is completely a different matter. It just doesn't happen overnight. It takes time. That's the sad part of the reality we have to face.

enjoy!

Well, he must have one big heart! If I were you, I would be very very proud of him. If we discuss about God, He forgives everyone so you don't have to worry about that.=) The reason that someone forgives another is that he or she wants to move on with this life, and never lets something stops it in the middle of nowhere, and avoid ending this life as 'useless'. It is very very easy to mention a lot theories about FORGIVING, but is very hard to practice it in real life.=)

I have been married for almost 3 years and we have been together for almost 11. In 2003, we hit a financial hardship that sent waves through every part of our relationship from talking to the bedroom to cleaning up in the same room. We couldn't be in the same room for any amount of time before arguing. He started drinking and partying again with his single friends and it was a matter of time before he met someone that he enjoyed talking with. We were young and I had the belief that he was being loyal to me like I was to him. When I found out he had been out with other girls, I was devastated. I felt betrayed, hurt, and alone. The world we had built together seemed like a farce. I moved in with my father who encouraged me to continue on with my life. For weeks, I couldn't eat. I had put my everything into us- what was I supposed to do now? After 3 months of being single, he called my phone at 3 a.m. All he said was "I miss you so much, Mary".

I was so happy and we got back together. I forgave him for a number of reasons.

1. I never met anyone that I felt like I could not see my life without them.

2. We were best friends before dating and he knew everything about me. And still loved me.

3. When I talked to guys while I was single, I compared them to my husband and they always fell short.

4. I learned a lesson, the hard way, that it is dangerous to put anyone on a pedestal. Everyone is human and if you put everything into them, you will be let down.

5. I loved him. and regardless of what he had done to me, I wanted him to love me.

People see us today and can't believe that we are still together. I have no doubt that we will stay married. We have survived everything and the one thing that was always the same, we loved each other. It hurts, no doubt. When I tell others my experience sometimes I still get tears in my eyes. He has every faith that no matter what, I love him and will always love him. Relationships take alot of work. Everyday we try to talk polite to each other, compromise for each other, and to not say things we don't mean.

Your husband loves you. It is amazing what people will do for love. Don't question it too much- just learn to be thankful that you have someone that dedicated in your life. And love him back....don't take it for granted. If you are going to cheat again, let him go. He deserves to be loved like he loves.

subtlesubmissive You must forgive yourself just as you know
God will forgive you, ask him,he will do it. Your husband
loves you very much that is why he forgives you, he dealt
with it because he figures you are sorry and he still loves'
you and count on that as being good. If you are feeling guilty talk it over with your husband,this should pass,he forgave you
now you just must forgive yourself and get on with your life.