Have you been asked to leave with your autistic child?

LOL. You certainly know how to make a person feel better. With me, it's almost a guarantee someone will ask us to leave.

haha, as long as nobody asks you to leave the toilet, you can survive anywhere!
So far that hasn't happened to me! I think toilet is more important than library or whatever office, after all, that is such an urgent matter you have to do in the toilet!
I think you should write more about autistic children, or start a blog to provide support for parents with autistic child.

LOL. Scheng, you better not have jinxed me for going to the toilet! I will be a little upset with you. LOL. I guess we should be okay there.

That's nice to know. I wish they had training in the public places. LOL The workers say they need to have it quiet. Guess what, wouldn't we all like to have peace and quiet sometimes. LOL I haven't checked into the autism society yet, but I really want to.

Yes the Austism society of the Philippines is really doing campaigns and strongly advocating for support for our special kids. We also have discount ID for special kids in movies, restaurants and fares. I hope this will be replicated in other areas so that we will have a strong support group for our kids creating a positive and caring environment for them!

As loyal and loving providers for our kids we really need a BREAK...A PEACEFUL/QUIET RETREAT to recharge and regain our strength and sanity hehehehe!

Ahhhh. If only that were possible. LOL

You deserve a break friend. I hope you will find time to do it. Power hug for you for being a great mom!

I am just getting caught up with discussions so I am late to this one and I can not believe you were treated in such a way in a church of all places. That is just appalling.

Hi Ms. C,
You're right. So ironic. A place where you're supposed to feel the love and acceptance as a reflection of God's love from the people involved in there, but they're just so insensitive to make us feel bad and rejected.

We're fine now with our new church. My kids are comfortable and we are able to finish the mass with them behaving so well. God is good!

I can't believe that happened either. I am glad that the new church is better. I think a lot of people do not go to church with their children because of this attitude. If a child doesn't go to church when he or she is young, chances are good she or he isn't going to go to church as an adult. You have to form a habit at an early age.

yes we have a good and supportive church now. i am proud of kids for being able to finish the mass behaving so well. that's a great achievement for all of us. after hearing mass they will ask for a treat-- and of course we always give in to it as their reward. we go home happy and blessed!

I cried reading your response because the ones that are getting hurt from the stares and comments are the children. I hope my son never understands if he is going to be able to control himself. I don't want him to have to deal with that. I think there is a point when all children realize they are different and that effects them. Hopefully, it makes all the children a little stronger, but it sure does break a mother's heart.

Thank you for your understanding without the drugs he would be dead or arrested for assault for thumping someone.It is sad,but I do my best to support her and help her she is a lovely woman.All you can do is be there.

I really should start a book. I don't think anyone can imagine the effects this has on my daughter. She wants to go to a birthday party at a bowling alley. Only being six, I of course would want to accompany her. I don't know if it is expected or not, but I wouldn't be comfortable just leaving her. Of course, that means taking her brother. We can't go because I don't know how he will act. It is so horrible, especially for her! She doesn't get to be a kid and it isn't fair to her. Luckily, this time the birthday party is the same weekend as hers will be. So she can't really go anyway. What about next time though?

It's really stressful for me because sometimes I feel like I am raising the kids by myself. I don't know how single parents do it!

It really is tough on her, especially at that age and it will make it difficult for her not to resent him at times. You need a support group for autistic parents. Maybe you can help each other with stuff like this so one can babysit while the other takes the non-autistic kid(s) someplace.

I really wish I could find something like that. I feel my daughter is missing out on so much and there is nothing I can do about it. She gets around other people and she is totally obnoxious and not the sweet little girl I know. She talks about anything and everything and sometimes just inappropriately. UGH.

Well, some of that is just being a little kid. She is still learning what is appropriate.

What really gets me is she knows and she just doesn't express it. Today she took her pants off because she got something on them. Well, at the same time the doorbell rang. I told her she had to put pants on and she couldn't come to the door. What does she do? She came to the door without her pants and started talking to the person. We didn't know the woman from adam and she's holding a full blown conversation in her underwear. She drives me insane. I had a friend that did that until she was about ten. Half the time she didn't wear a shirt. I really hope my daughter doesn't do that. LOL

You just have to apply reverse psychology. When the doorbell rang you should have told her the person at the door was going to be terribly embarrassed if she didn't have pants on and it might even make the person cry or think she was mean. Just don't be too dramatic or she will treat you like an idiot.

LOL. That might have worked about the person at the door being embarrassed. She's just at that age where underwear and butts are funny. Can't wait for this stage to be over.

I just have to laugh. I can't imagine what my life would be with a daughter in that stage when men think that kind of foolishness is funny no matter what age they are!

Oh, that is so funny and cute! Yes you have to have a sense of humor or you will go crazy. I've always had a decent sense of humor, now everything is funny or I would just sit in a corner and cry. Somehow, you just learn to cope. I take my kids to the library often so I asked one of the librarians about it. We got off topic and she was saying a parent actually got a shirt made up that says, I am autistic. I told her I thought that was a wonderful idea. Sometimes people need a warning of what your child might do. Besides, once they see the shirt I figure they will be too embarrassed or whatever to continue looking at your child. I told her I might make one up for me. LOL

Actually, I was trying to leave in both instances. The hospital I was trying to leave because obviously there are sick people there and they need their rest. A screaming child will not give anyone that. LOL As for the library I was on the way to the checkout desk. I didn't feel that he was so bad that they couldn't give me a couple minutes to check out. He was whinging in the library. Not really crying just fussy. If it's a place for a child than I think they should make certain concessions for a child being a child. I agree that their are people at the library trying to read or study. At the library I go to they actually have a separate place for the children. I have learned with any child, autistic or not, it is good to take them in public or they won't know what to do when they are in public. My son is actually very good about going out unless he is just tired.