Im happy for my sister But...........

Well i know someone that beats all of that i have a friend that is now engaged to someone and she is 40 and he is 25 and they have only been going out with each other for 6 weeks.The wedding is all arranged and that it is next year which will be a year to the date to when they became girl friend and boyfriend.She has a daughter of the same age as him.They are now living together.This will be her 5th marriage do you think it sounds good.I think it is TOO FAST AS WELL.

It's hard to say... but maybe try to cut your sister a little slack by understanding that she's still in that "exciting" phase of meeting someone new. If they've only known each other for two weeks, she's probably still in the mindset of wanting to spend all of her time with him, wanting to speak to him all the time, etc. We all go through that with a new relationship:) I also wouldn't stress over the age difference. If your sister was underage, I'd absolutely be worried about eight years but, assuming she's an adult, I think it's less of an issue. I've been in a relationship with a man 12 years my junior and it worked out just fine, including with my daughters. As far as the relationship versus "friends with benefits" thing, I won't comment because I think that's something that is best left to the couple. I don't feel I have a right to judge what someone considers to be an "appropriate" commitment and what isn't. Relationships work and are satisfying to people in many different ways. Mostly, I hope you'll just keep trying to be there and available for your sister. It's hard not to be judgemental sometimes but it's really the best thing to be. I mean, the "new-ness" is going to wear off and sometimes things look a lot different when they aren't so shiny. She'll be glad to see you're there for her all the way along:)

Yeah big Butt i would tell her to be carefull I would worry about them moving to fast

Two weeks? Yeah, maybe...

how else will she know if they are compatable,i think you need to take a step back,i know you are worried about her but she is a grown up and can make her own disisions(can't spell,sorry),if it goes wrong then it goes wrong,she won't know until she tries

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I think as a sister, you can advise her if she can find more time knowing him better first. They can go on with the relationship as boy friend and girlfriend anyway and later if they found theselves compatible then they can decide of getting married or living together. If she don't listen the she can go on her way.

hmmm dont know. But I know one thing for certain, if a man had ever asked me do you want a real relationship or do you want us to be friends with benefits he would have been out of the door sooner than he could have said sorry or excuse me.

He does sound like a creep without any morals but there again, your sister is putting up with it so I can't say she's any better. Regardless of how you feel about him, it's ultimately up to your sister if she wants to continue seeing him or not. From what I see and read from you, your sister has a very low self esteem and guys like this one, see that and take full advantage of it. Your sister needs to up her standards or she'll continue to find low lifes like this guy is. Or maybe she likes the young guys who have more life to live in the way of being spontaneous. Also, she needs to be really careful that social services don't find out what she's doing or they'll take her daughter away from her.