I've learned that being female, single, and strong...isn't so bad after all...

Thank you sweetie! Girl Power is the best kind of power there is:)

I wish you all the best in finding the right person. I believe all people have someone out there that is just right for them. It may be one person, or it may be 50 people, but in due time, it will come. Chin up and never give up.

Thank you for your response ucue2008, I am glad that you are able to see the beauty within yourself, and I admire your strength and knowing that there are things you need to do for YOU before you settle down. I hope all women can realize that we need to start living according to our agendas, not somebody else's. If we have things we need to accomplish in our lives, then the right guy is going to have to wait until we're good and ready. 26 is so young too, and there is no pressure to be committed to another person right now. He will find YOU, and he'll adore you. I wish you all the best in the meantime:)

Good for you! I am completely with you on the desire of having tons of shoes, clothes, money, and DOGS (I love, love, love dogs) over having a tied-down relationship right now. That is so cool that you are able to put any relationship cravings into material indulgences (sounds fantastic!) And I am with you on the kids too - I love kids very much, but I love my sleep a tad bit more right now;)

one of the perks of being single:you can be selfish and treat yourself! I think nobody can love you more than you love yourself.

Absolutely true. And you can never let yourself down, which is another nice perk to being on your own:) I'm always on a quest to be better and better to myself every day.

Thank you so much for your response - and you are very right about people taking advantage when they sense a weak side. Not all people will do that, but there is a hefty handful of those that will, and if you're not careful enough they can really hurt you. I am so happy for you that you are strong and have brought yourself so far from the low self-esteem and self-confidence. Those are tough roads, but it means so much more when you are able to get through it and appreciate yourself so much more in the end. All the best:)

well as the old song goes, "sisters are doing it for themselves" i love that sng, it's so liberating, i hope that you continue to stay strong, women have this inner thing which will rear it's head when need be, i mean look at us, were all wtrong in one way or another..... we may lack in some things but gain in others.

Fabulous attitude girl! I think that my friends from college were my true saviors (and still are today!) They make life so much more meaningful, and by having many fulfilling and strong friendships, I have no need for a relationship! My most important relationships are those with my friends, and that is all I have time for. There is a great quote, which says, "Maybe our girlfriends are our soul mates, and guys are just people to have fun with." I think about that quote and have written it down so I can remind myself of that if I'm ever feeling lonely. Because I'm not lonely - I am blessed with beautiful people in my life. And it sounds like you are too! Keep up the positivity - God Bless!

thanks for that! good..you understand my point....i believe that i can find one..heheeheh go girl!anyway,,are u boy or girl?

lol a girl:)

I agree with you - and just the other day I was thinking about how much I love coming home at the end of the day and laying on the couch without having to answer to anyone. The music goes as soft or as loud as I want it (not to mention I can listen to whatever I want!) and I get a whole big queen bed all to myself! That is the most amazing feeling in the world - getting to stretch out and be a bum and not having anyone complaining:) I think that when you find the right person who loves you for all of these reasons and respects your space, you are able to compromise and live harmoniously together. But I understand your comment about rejecting others when we get comfortable in our daily lives. I think I may have done that a time or two, but I know once I am ready and the right one comes along, these parts of my life that I am comfortable in will mold together nicely with his:) Thanks for the response - I wish you all the best!

Thank you very much for your response. God has served as a powerful tool in my life, especially in the past few years. I believe in all people and I know that all humans are capable of so much more than they might believe about themselves. I hope you are able to also find comfort within your heart to know that you are a special person with a lot to offer to someone. If you ever forget, just look deep within yourself and allow yourself to find it. God Bless.

I love the freedom too, Jules! Isn't it wonderful? I can leave the apartment and not have to tell anyone where I'm going or do any check-ins with a boyfriend to let him know what time I'll be back. Lame! Freedom is so empowering - great for you!!

That is such an inspiring story - thank you for sharing that. In high school, one of my best friends was from India, and her parents were very strict on having them move back there as a family and choosing a husband for her. She struggled with this a great deal, and had a boyfriend here in America that she had to hide away like the plague. In fact, her friends were not allowed to mention boys in the house at all, and it ate her alive every day. She was torn between her family and her culture, and what she really wanted. I have a ton of respect for you, and think you are a truly courageous woman for being strong and sticking to what you feel you need in life. Surely it must be challenging at times. Keep your head up strong and best of luck always.