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myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex2 months ago

My husband and I have been married for 7 years, and together for 9 1/2 years. We have never been able to go off together. Usually, he helps me go off, and then when he's ready, he'll insert himself into me, and then do his thing. What are we doing wrong? Do we need to get one of those gadgets they sell at adult stores where there's a vibrater on my clitoris, and then he does his thing?

I just don't know. It's times like this when I feel sexually stupid.

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 89/100. Binthu (3141)   ranked 2,877 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

Hi Sunrise,

There are millions of technique in the love making and also
it is utilized by many millions of the peoples in this world. So using
the technique in the love making would create the more interest and also
it would gives us more pleasure and also having the mentality of great
satisfaction. So let you and your husband would try to see the lots of
movies in the net prior to start the program and also would follows
any one of the technique which would give you more pleasure and more
happiness. So I hope that you and your husband would follows some certain
procedure in order to have the great pleasure.

Have a wonderful day.


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

I'm sorry, but I can't make heads, nor tails, of what you're saying. It makes no sense to me.


myLot reputation of 95/100. xsammiex (1239)   ranked 66 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

We've tried porns. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. I think when they don't work, it's because I find the movie boring. Not all porns are "good movies."

 
2. myLot reputation of 95/100. xsammiex (1239)   ranked 66 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

i'm sure you're not doing anything wrong, sweet. yes, i am only 18, and yes i have only slept with one guy, but we are quite experimental with our love making. sometimes things work, sometimes they don't, that's just how it is. clearly, you can't go off together, and that's just how it is. there is nothing wrong with what you're doing - as long as it works for the both of you, that's all that matters. try getting a device though, they're fun, they're experimental, you never know, you both might LOVE it, and you'll wonder what you ever did without it!


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

We'll have to do that once we get extra money. It'll be a few weeks though.


myLot reputation of 95/100. xsammiex (1239)   ranked 66 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

ugh, money is always the problem with everything these days. just try different things, dressing up, dressing DOWN, new positions, romantic nights, foreplay, ROLEplay.. there's an ENDLESS list. in the end though, if that is the only thing that works for you, just carry on with it. you may feel a bit 'sexually stupid' at times, but i guess we all do sometimes.

 
3. myLot reputation of 78/100. saurabh27587 (283)   2 months ago

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4. myLot reputation of 94/100. jugsjugs (3199)   ranked 158 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

I would say go to the adult store and get yourself some adult toys like a vibrator as well as some oils,if it helps you watch some adult movies that you can get on the internet for free.I find that there is nothing wrong with watching adult movies as well as getting a few adult toys.


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 94/100. jugsjugs (3199)   ranked 158 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

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5. myLot reputation of 73/100. mrfdg1972 (510)   ranked 2,040 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

I'm sorry, but I don't do blowjobs.


myLot reputation of 79/100. rjl1989 (144)   ranked 1,478 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

Just make sure he's showered first, then give it a go, try and enjoy the pleasure you're giving him. Does he give you oral?


myLot reputation of 73/100. mrfdg1972 (510)   ranked 2,040 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 73/100. mrfdg1972 (510)   ranked 2,040 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

I only wanna be constructive, help you open up to your partner.


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

No, my husband does not give me oral, and I don't force him to do so either. He doesn't force me to it on him either. He knows I'm uncomfortable with it.

 
6. myLot reputation of 99/100. thinkingoutloud (2450)   ranked 447 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

I don't think you should ever feel "sexually stupid" CRSunrise! Simultaneous orgasm is not something that a lot of people ever accomplish - although you wouldn't know it judging by movies and literature. It's made to seem that everyone can do it so we end up feeling inadequate somehow if we don't. As others have and will say, women do generally take longer to reach orgasm and some require very specific stimulation to be able to do it. From what you've said, it seems that your husband is able to help you climax so that's great... perhaps what you could try, before investing in sexual aids, is to concentrate on more foreplay. If he is able to stimulate you to the point of being close to orgasm, without penetration, and then only enters when you know you're about there, it might help you reach that point together. However, if you need very direct clitoral stimulation, you might also consider different positions that will put more pressure where you need it. Also, you or your husband could continue manual stimulation even after, and along with, penetration. If you decide to go with toys or aids, you can actually get some very inexpensive rings for your husband that either have just a nub that will apply direct pressure for you or, as you've said, a vibrator. Not everyone digs vibration but it's certainly effective for lots of women. No matter what you do, don't let yourself feel pressure to "achieve"... it's wonderful when it happens but it's surely not wrong if it doesn't happy


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

Thanks for your advice. It's nice to be able to post something here, and "meet" people who can actually give decent advice. Some of the advice I've received here hasn't not been what I was looking for.


myLot reputation of 99/100. thinkingoutloud (2450)   ranked 447 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

Well, thank you... I appreciate your comment very much:) I try to keep an open mind in this subject matter and respect the fact that everyone is different and we have varying levels of tolerance for some suggestions. I do hope you will use your own personal comfort zone to deal with your feelings together with your spouse. I know everyone says it but communication is really a key factor in feeling good with our sexual selves. If you can have some open and honest conversation with your husband, outside of the bedroom and far removed from any sexual contact at the time, it will probably be a very positive help, as well. Take care!:)

 
7. myLot reputation of 85/100. wmraul (581)   ranked 2,777 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

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8. myLot reputation of 93/100. solared (856)   ranked 2,020 out of 8,853 in sex   2 months ago

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myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

We've never had any other partners. So I have nothing to base on.

 
9. myLot reputation of 37/100. Infolancer (160)   2 months ago

Hi sunrise..after reading all the response to ur discussion I dont think that u feel u have been answered,i dont think u got what u are looking for. I would love to share my views if required.


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

I have received some responses that are helpful....some that were not so helpful. I'll just have to wade through everything to weed out the really good stuff.

 
10. myLot reputation of 92/100. world2lot (355)   2 months ago

Hi! We never go wrong when we make love for our love because we never make wrong decisions when we think about our life to our knowledge.


myLot reputation of 93/100. CRSunrise (1732)   ranked 469 out of 8,853 in sex  2 months ago

So, essentially, you're saying there's not wrong answer in the love making game. It's whatever works for you and your partner/spouse/other half.

 
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