What do you do when your Ex tries to get back in touch?

I have experience that also before. It was really not comfortable. Knowing that if ever you talk to him somebody would be hurt. The name of my ex was Jude. After 4 years he try to keep in touch with me again, which I already have a happy life with my new BF James...That time was really tormenting. It is really hard to avoid Jude since he was doing a lot of effort, because he said that he wanted to ask for my hand in marriage which was really surprising. James and I talk to Jude personally and told him we wanted a peaceful life and it would be better if he stops bothering us. James is now my husband by God's grace...

If the emails are that annoying put him on your block list or spam list. Them even if he sends them you won't see them. First though I would answer back once. Say thanks for wanting to see how I am but our relationship ended a long time ago and I feel no need to start it up again in any shape or form. Have a very nice life and please do not contact me again. Of coarse put it in your own words or use mine, no biggy. Just be polite but very firm, then block everything and ignore him. Some people need the actually telling to go away they do not get hints.

Yes, I've experienced it before. The same story as what you did. When my husband courted me I broke up with my Mr.x because my husband was my long time crush and I been waiting for him for so long to love me back. And the time came that he fall in love with me I never let the chance to pass that if I'd do I know I will regret it for my whole life. Mr.x cried but he accept it. Then after a year he contacted me through my cellphone and told me that he saw me in a mall but I did not reply. He went to my place and it almost bring trouble between him and my husband. Another day pass he keep on sending text messages that he want me back and he is willing to fight for me and some of my friends told me that he keep on asking all about me. So what I did is I've changed my # so he can't contact me anymore and I ask my friends not to give my new contact # and gladly it works.

Hi Tee!
I have been through something similar.. What I did is tell your ex, that you just dont want to talk with him.. It might be harsh but that is the only way that men understand things! After nine years, it makes no sense to catch up and talk especially of you are a very happy gal now! E-mail him, and tell him thanks for wanting to talk but you prefer for things to stay as they were! Well Good luck! Wish you the best!

I can tell you from personal experience... CONTINUE TO IGNORE NO MATTER HOW IRRITATING!!! I only want to be your friend is bull chit!!! They think if they can get your attention one more time, you will want them back. I dated a guy for 15 years. I was ALWAYS honest with him telling him I loved him as a best friend but I was NOT "in love" with him as a boyfriend. He said it didn't matter, he just wanted to be a part of my life. Then he'd tell me he loved me & would get furious when I didn't say I love you too. So, I'd say Why would I lie, I don't love you!!! When I met my hubby, I knew I couldn't continue the relationship like it was & I knew we couldn't continue as "just friends" as it would create all kinds of problems. I didn't see nor speak to him for 5 years. Well, he tricked a neighbor into telling him that my hubby had died. I had noticed that he was walking past my house frequently...hiding behind a building across from my property watching me. My brother had come by on Saturday to do some work. Just as my brother was driving off, he popped up out of nowhere. I spoke kindly to him. However, I kept him out in the yard & made NO effort to invite him inside. He told me how I had broken his heart. I apologized to him but reminded him that I had ALWAYS told him I wasn't "in love" with him. I explained that I had loved my hubby deeply & I wasn't willing to go back to a relationship like we had had before. He said he understood. Two hours later I hear both my dogs barking like crazy. I look out to see what was wrong. He was standing in my driveway trying to get up enough nerve to make it past the dogs. He stood out there for 3 hours. I decided not to confront him as I didn't want to put on a show for the neighbors. So, I ignored him. Two hours later, he got up the nerve to get past the dogs & was ringing my doorbell. He rang it for 30 minutes. Once again I ignored him. He called several times & I didn't answer when I saw his phone number. I wanted him to understand that I meant business!!!! It took another week of ignoring him before he finally gave up. I still feel guilty for not being willing to give him a little of my time. But he won't be happy with just a little bit of my time. He will start having reasons why he needs more & more of my time. I had tried being mildly standoffish & it didn't work. So, cutting him out of my life is the only effective way!!! If I run into him at the store, I nod slightly, say hello & keep on walking. I promise you Mike hasn't accepted the fact that you & Brian are still together 9 years later means you love Brian. He thinks he can weasel his way back in & break you & Brian up!!! DELETE THE EMAILS & FRIENDSHIP REQUESTS THE SECOND YOU GET THEM!!! It's the kindest thing for ALL involved. You will just have to get rude with him if you give him a sliver of a chance to get back into your life. STRANGE THING IS....my guy's name was Mike also!!!

obviously this guy still carries a torch for you, but you must tell him tha you have moved on and happy with your present relationship, block his email address, block him from facebook and block him out of your life...he has to realise that you are no longer part of his life and would appreciate it if he just left you alone, theres only one way of getting through to some as persistant and that's by being straight and honest.

My ex and I are still friends up to now after a year of break up. I told him to limit times of keeping in touch already because I have a new boyfriend and I don't want him to suspect that I am flirting with my ex. Honestly, thinking about his ex girlfriend flirting with him hurts me so much so why should I have to make him feel what I feel about his ex? I should be fair with him.

I guess there is nothing wrong with that. It is your freedom after all. i know you surely don't want to hurt him but well the truth really does hurts so either way you have to tell him. Don't ignore him because he might turn desperate and do ridiculous things. Instead of running away, confront him my dear. It will hurt but its the right thing.

Depends on who the ex-boyfriend is and how deep my feelings were for him. If I really loved him and I think the relationship could work, I would consider reevaluating the relationship. If there was something serious that caused the break-up in the first place, I would even consider getting back together.

When my ex tried getting back to me I blocked his emails as spam, if you use outlook you can create a rule so that outlook automatically deleted any email coming from his email address. Installed a free software called Callfilter (google it, it's downloadable online) and set it up so it will block his calls, practically the phone hungs up as soon as it receives his call, no ned for you to take a trouble. SMS messages blocked too, as well from Callfilter. Facebook, didn't exist yet at the time but I made sure to let him know through friends of friends of friends that I moved in another town. I didn't receive anything from him anymore.
I don't think that talking to him is a solution at all, instead you should try and ignore him or block his contact, talking might even be dangerous, you never know how people become after a breakup.