Watching the tv and trying to have a conversation.

hi jugsjugs oh yes my husband used to be like that bound up in some stupid sitcom.when I told him our bank account was low, it
was "yeah,yeah,dont worry. Let me hear this." four days later he came back in after having been downtown,and snapped,why didn't you tell me our account was low? I wanted to draw out a hundred dollars but the teller said you only have fifty." Well sorry bub
but I did tell you, and you said, yeah, yeah don't worry about it.
He turned red and for a few days he really did try to listen to me when I had something important to tell him.

Happens all the time.
Try being NOT THERE a few times.
And, write down what you want to say and put the notation where he can find it.
You have to be like a little mouse and be out of site.
Try it.

My ex-husband used to do that all the time. One time when I was talking about something important and noticed that he wasn't paying attention I started saying something like "I'm planning on going downtown today and not wearing any clothes. I'll be going to the main street in town and will greet everyone I see." He just said, "uh, huh". I then yelled at him and told him what I'd just said. It didn't do any good. So I quit trying to talk to him when he was concentrating on something he liked.

When I was married (the last time teehee)he and I had some of our major fights because of just that. I would tell him something important that was coming up and he would act like he had taken it in and then when it came down he was totally not in recognition or rememberence of any of it. I would get so upset. But when the reverse happened the roof would come off the house!

I know I can't concentrate with the TV on, and if I am going to talk to someone, the TV has to be at least muted.

This goes on all the time. My husband and I will watch tv and then I will remember something important that I need to tell him. I go ahead and tell him and he gives me a sign that he has heard me. A few days later I will remind him to do something that he has promised me he would do then he says you never told me to do that. Then he gets mad at me because it was never done.

I have experience that too. That is why I would talk to my husband important things during the time he is not in front of the television. For when he is watching TV his mind is more focus on what he is watching. Sometimes could not even hear you when you call him.LOL

I don't have a partner, but I experienced this from my brother. My brother is so hard headed. When we are telling him something his eyes are on the television, although I believe he is listening but he pretends to not listen. And if you will ask him what did you told him he forgets already or pretending again. Those person is a waste of time. You can turn off the television and make him listen to you, that is what I do to my brother.

I have and it is pointless. My son and my husband are the same way. I can't even talk to them during commercials. It is like they are spell bound.

Hi Jugjugs
My husband does this all the time, I will tell him something and even check "did you get that?" the usual response is yeah yeah I got it. Then when I refer to the conversation again either later that day or another day he can't recall a word of it. He struggles to multi task so if he is watching tv or on his laptop he will not take in what I am saying! I call it selective hearing because if its something beneficial to him or something he really enjoys doing he will always here that!