What happened before I wrote a poem!

Hi!
Playing games is just hurting both of you. One woman's foolishness doesn't mean all women will b foolish. Give yourself and this lovely coworker a chance. It just might be the best thing that ever happened to you!

In order to get what you want, you have to take chances. You can hide in a hole and never get hurt, but will you be happy? You open your heart to somebody, you are running the risk of getting hurt, but you are also taking a chance at great happiness. Do you want to be an old man of 76 saying "I never got hurt"? Or do you want to look back and say "I took some changes and some of them were worth it"?

Hi sanuanu: it seems that you're in a bad situation isn't it my friend? You want to control your feelings because it's probably that you will suffer because of that. This makes part of love and off course of life. Don't stop doing what you really want to do, express your feelings even if this could hurt you, probably you could have an opportunity with her. Give a chance to your own happiness. Even if everything's gone wrong at least you'd live your own life. Life it's full of mistakes we can't change this. Have a nice day.

sanuanu!It is highly impossible to avoid beautiful girls in our life.They will come like waves in an ocean.And there are more chances for us to fall in love with all of them.Now,as you have a bitter rejection before,you want to play things carefully and at the same time don't want to lose this job too.Then,keep your mind closed and give a hint to your parents that you are ready for marriage.Once you get married,this beautiful girls will not torture you like this.You can put them into your dreams.Cheers!

Okay, now I understand the poem. All I can say is shame on you. First, it is usually not a good idea to chase a relationship at work. The reason is like what happened to you, if you break up there will be hostilities or maybe one won't be able to continue working at the job for personal reasons and have to leave. You have to decide if you like your job enough to not let personal feelings get in the way.

Second, stop playing games. I take it you are young. The poor girl probably is totally confused now and thinks you somehow insulted her by ignoring her. Rightly so in my opinion. The poem you wrote might help you out of the situation you put yourself in. Put it on her desk and sign it. Then follow it up with asking her out.

Third, in order to experience love you have to open up. You can't send mix signals and expect someone to continue acting the same way they used to act toward you. Two things may happen when you send mix signals: the person might get frustrated and just not bother with you anymore or secondly, if they want to know you or know you well they will slap you in the back of the head and ask you what the heck is wrong with you.

I hope you can work it out. Good luck.

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Awww, Sanuanu! Love's a tricky business! From the sounds of the activities in your office, it seems to me as if your poem will be shown to all of your colleagues before long, which will cause you more embarrassment. She might appreciate it if you just approached her, told her you're sorry you started ignoring her, but you were embarrassed at the time because your team leader drew attention to the fact that you voted for her.

Then just ask if you can be friends again. Most people appreciate honesty, and it would put you back on an even footing, where you're at least speaking again, and hopefully friends, without having to expose your feelings straight away with the poem.

Good luck, whatever you do!:)

Ah! Sanuanu, it is making sense now! You know you cannot hide from how you feel and to hide yourself away from love because of past hurt means that you may miss out true happiness the next time around! You have to take another chance, life is richer with love in it and you will never have that if you shut yourself away from it.

You have given this poor girl very mixed messages, smiling and flirting with her one day and ignoring her the next, no wonder she’s not talking to you!

If you have real feelings for this girl I would not let chance pass you by, life is short and if you don’t take a chance you may regret for a long time to come. I think you may need to do some explaining to her first.

Good luck my friend!

hiya Sanu

Life's experiences can break and mend hearts my friend and you are torturing yourself because of a past failed relationship. This girl who is now ignoring you is probably very baffled by your sudden change of attitude too! Do you think that's fair to her..or to yourself? Go on... send her that poem

Alice

What you are describing is infatuation, not love. You seem to be a young idealistic person who enjoys the idea of romantic love like the stuff in the movies and novels but isn't quite ready for the realities of real love.

Love is messy and painful and a host of other things but you have to be willing able and STRONG enough to take the bitter with the sweet. You don't even talk to this woman. You are in love with an idea of her that you have built up in your head. You will never know true love with someone until you get out of your head and start living in the real world.

Ask the woman to lunch already. Find out what she likes and does not like; her plans for the future. If after a while the two of you think you have something in common maybe you can start a relationship.