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myLot reputation of 97/100. careguarden (415)   ranked 1,989 out of 35,119 in people4 weeks ago

Sometimes it's not easy to give unsolicited advice because mostly people take it in a different way. Like when you advice to your friend or family to quit smoking or drinking because it will do no good for them. Or when someone you care stay in a abusive relationship and you advice her to stay away from it. Sometimes they take it in a different way, like it's their life, we don't have the right to tell them what's right or wrong. Even though we truly care for them. Do you like people giving unsolicited advice?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 91/100. learn2earn (10358)   ranked 606 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

I have been with an adult who told me once that if a person doesn't ask for an advice, don't give unsolicited advice because that person may take it negatively against you. Therefore, I think that I need to develop such an attitude. There may be some other ways where we can say something about a situation and people can take it positively. If a person knows how much you care, then giving of unsolicited advice would be welcome to him.


myLot reputation of 97/100. careguarden (415)   ranked 1,989 out of 35,119 in people  4 weeks ago

Yeah, sometimes giving unsolicited advice often times taken negatively by the person even though your motives is simply to help and show that you care. It could be good to learned to refrain our self from giving unsolicited advices. Anyway thank you for sharing with us my friend and enjoy your day!

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2. fululu (17)   ranked 24,735 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

I like it,though sometimes I'm not happy,but after that,when I think it back,I'll feel good,someone advice you because he love you care about you,if you really did not good,some advice may give you some help,so I like it.


myLot reputation of 97/100. careguarden (415)   ranked 1,989 out of 35,119 in people  4 weeks ago

When people give you advice especially those who's close to you, it only mean that they care for you and giving advice not asked is the only way they know to show that they care. They said that those who take advice are more superior that those who give.

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3. myLot reputation of 76/100. life8118 (315)   ranked 3,522 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

HELLO FRIEND,

I totally agree what u said, that its really very very difficult to give advise the situation u mentioned, even though we care a lot for that person, but that person is not in a mood to understand or hear what we are saying then it become pointles discussion or issue.
I feel i just pray to god for that person to give him/her understanding so that she/he may make correct moves in their life, and which is good for their future..


myLot reputation of 97/100. careguarden (415)   ranked 1,989 out of 35,119 in people  4 weeks ago

Sometimes the best thing that we can do is just to pray for those people who don't take any advices. To enlighten their mind and so God would show them the right way and for them to understand that there are so many people who care for them.

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4. myLot reputation of 95/100. Rainegurl (1105)   ranked 1,325 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

I look at it this way, the person giving unsolicited advice cares enough about me that he gives an advice. Well, I try to be positive as much as I can. There are just unsolicited advice, especially from people I barely know, that are just irritating. I try to be polite even in cases like that but I immediately walk away to avoid any more discussions.
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5. myLot reputation of 98/100. lovelyn_medrano (641)   ranked 2,224 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

I have nothing against those people who give me advices even I am not asking for it. I am actually glad because I know they are just concern to me. They don't want bad things happened on me. It is up to me if I would take their advices. In the end, it is still me who will decide. They are just instrumental for a healthy and wise decision.

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6. jeolex (8)   4 weeks ago

Yes, I like take advices. Especially from my family. Because of if your family give an advice to you, it's for your goodness.

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7. qmeyers (37)   ranked 20,918 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

I personally believe that advice should only be given when it's asked for. Otherwise the person just looks at you and lets your words go in one ear and right out of the other one. So you just wasted your breath, time, effort and energy....

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8. ejrasco (58)   4 weeks ago

I just smile most of the time. Remember you have the control whether to listen to them or not.But trust me, they just voice out their opinions which they think you need. So whenever you encounter such thing, just smile graciously and say "thank you".

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9. myLot reputation of 76/100. suspenseful (17034)   ranked 1,190 out of 35,119 in people   4 weeks ago

Let me put it this way? What if no one gave you unsolicited advice and you were fired from your job because your personal hygiene was not good? It happened to me. I am positive had someone said to me, A- why do you not use a stronger deoderant or why not take a bath twice a week instead of once a week, I would have snapped their head off. After all then i was in my early 20s and I take after my father, I flare up and then it is all over. But the advice no matter how unwanted would be something that needed to be said.
And if it is who you are going with, maybe they are telling you to think a little before committing yourself. After all, if the other is a spend thrift, once you know, you will make sure that you save enough so that one can live in the style ---

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10. mdmdeg (31)   4 weeks ago

I think that is why it is called unsolicited. It depends on how a person will take it or if the situation calls for it.
In my opinion, I do not give unsolicited advice. I only listen to someone who complains and it is up to them if they want my advice. If they do ask for it that is when I give my advice.


myLot reputation of 97/100. careguarden (415)   ranked 1,989 out of 35,119 in people  4 weeks ago

Yeah, it's good to just listen to someone who has lots of problem than giving advice but sometimes when you care the person and you witnessed how she ruin her life, you can't just listen and sit down. You can't help not to speak up and tell her what she's doing is good and bad.


Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!


mdmdeg (31)  3 weeks ago

No worries. I think it sucks sometimes but when we do mistakes that is when we really learn. What does not kill you makes you stronger I think.

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