Our cousin with a mental disability have given birth to a healthy baby today!
By janedell
@jndlponti (2402)
Philippines
November 5, 2009 10:49am CST
Hi all mylotters... Just this evening about 7PM we received a call that my husband's cousin (who is a special child which is now 32years old) has delivered a baby girl in her own room. They just saw the baby in the floor crying and the mother is really emotionless just looking at the baby filled with blood.
Then they brought her and the baby to the hospital. My husband and I immediately went there since they really wanted someone who could help them about the situation and to help do the feeding for the baby.
We noticed now that after she saw the baby she did not even say a single word. She would not even touch the baby. It was I who carries the baby when the baby cries and do the feeding (since it is bottle feed for the mother is really not touching the baby) and burping.
Have you tried the same shock also when you delivered your baby? Do you think we should keep the baby away from her to help her recover or just let the baby around her so she would get use to seeing the baby?
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3 responses
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
7 Nov 09
I hope that the baby girl is still around her mom to help their bonding. She is a 32 year old lady that has mental problems. I hope that she will be given support to learn to care for her baby girl. I know that her baby was conceived during a rape so that was a terrible event for the poor lady. I wish her and her little baby a happy time in life. Good luck to them both.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
So terrible it is... The guy was our family driver. He was already being sued by the family. Yah everyone in the family try to help her with the baby and always told her the the baby was her's. She just do not still understand what is going on around her. So the family decided to have the baby for adoption. But the family who will adopt the baby is the elder brother of the baby's mom.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I would say let her around the baby as often as possiable. Let her get used to the fact of having a baby. Maybe she wont bond with the baby and maybe adoption may be the best choice. Congrats to her and your family and I hope everyone does good in this time. It can be hard and it may take a bit of time.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Yah I we think of that fact too. I also think that is the best way to make the child grow in a normal family. Ofcourse we considered the persons that will adopt the baby. The baby's mother has an elder brother who were married already for 11years and could not have a child. They will be the one to be the baby's parent. They already process everything and I think that is much better.
@kezabelle (2974)
•
5 Nov 09
I think she needs to be around the baby seperating her from it will not help her bond, that said she may never bond you can only try.
Support her as you are doing and maybe in time she will come around, did she know she was pregnant it sounds like it was a huge shock to her and i think that would take anyone a little time to get over.
Congratulations to her and your family tho a baby is a blessing no matter how difficult its going to be raising it x
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Yes I think she is aware that she is pregnant but she doesn't understand her situation much for she was mentally retarded since birth.
She got pregnant for was being raped by some guy nine months ago.
