Have you done things you regret doing?  |
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 I think we all do things we regret later and would like to go back in time and fix it. Many times to talk about it makes us feel better.
I regret leaving my mom to go to another country and when I went back her hair was already white. Even though I left again and always when I went to visit my country
not so often she wanted me to stay but I always left. The last time I went she said, "please don't leave me this time". I stayed but she had a series of three heart attacks and died. When she was dying she gave me a very sad look that pierced
my heart. Oh, how I regret not enjoying my sweet mother and showing her how much I loved her. sob..
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1.  elmiko (1785) | 4 weeks ago |  i'm sorry about your mothers passing but i don't think you have anything to be ashamed about. it was your freedom of choice to go to another country.
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| seastar46 (19) | 4 weeks ago | Hi elmiko
No I don't feel ashame but I feel extremely sad that I didn't enjoy my mom.
I was very close to her but at age 36 I left with my husband. She was my best friend. I know she is with the Lord and happy but now that I'm old I believe separating from her was a loss of wonderful sharing moments. | |
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| 2. blondexkitty (43) | 4 weeks ago |  I'm terribly sorry for your loss... You have my condolences. Something I regret doing is telling one of my brother's biggest secrets to someone who should have never learned about it. He never found out that I told on him, but I still can't get over the fact that I betrayed his trust. Even though my brother never found out, God still knows what I did; and somehow that makes me even sadder.
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| seastar46 (19) | 4 weeks ago | Yes, we feel sad and wish we could travel in time and go back and fix things but unfortunately that's the way we learn sometimes. Repentance is good, condemnation is not healthy. I went through condemnation and guilt for 3 years so bad that affected my health. Not only for what happened with my mom but for other things
like the death of my brother. When I went to be with my mom I tried to help my brother and got him a health insurance and took him to a doctor. My brother was 42 years old weighing 424 pounds, suffering asthma and sleep apnea. The doctor gave him medication for high blood pressure and other medications for his condition. After that I returned to US in November and left him. In January He got short on his medications and he called me. I told him to go to the doctor and get a refill. He said the doctor was on vacation. I said go to the secretary and ask for a refill. I knew it was dangerous to stop a blood pressure medication suddenly. He didn't go to the secretary and he died walking to his van. I got the guilt that it was my fault for leaving him since he had depression and my company was helping him a lot and also for taking him to the doctor. That's when I returned to my mom's side and we both were grieving and giving comfort one another for the terrible loss but then in August my mom died.
Yes is sad, but when we put our sadness in God's hands and regret or repent of things we did wrong God will wipe the tears off our eyes. We can't change what we did but maybe we can help someone not to do what we did. I know how you feel but don't let that remorse destroy you. Is enough with your repentance and sadness just refuge in God. My grieving and guilt brought consequences in my life. I lost my mental skills and couldn't work anymore as a teacher, but like someone said, "everything happens for a reason" even when we don't understand it.
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| seastar46 (19) | 4 weeks ago | blondexkitty
Thank you for your condolences. | |
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3.  EdTv00 (216) | 4 weeks ago | I think this is something we all have in common (regret). I did something about 8 years ago that has affected my healthy and now im paying for it. But even tho times get hard im still struggling to get better and I never lose hope. You should always hope for the best, and never give up. | |
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4.  BulletTooth (205) | 4 weeks ago |  It's very sad to read your story and I'm sorry you feel this way. You were entitled to make your choice and you didn't know what the outcome would be so please don't punish yourself.
I've made many mistakes in life. My biggest regret is not staying on at school and going to university when I was young but that's in the past and I'd rather look to the future than spend my life regretting and thinking of what could have been.
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| 5. cobrateacher (4179) | 3 weeks ago |  Hi, Seastar!
I don't think any of us can get through life with no regrets. I try, as most people do, to do the right thing. We are only human, though, and are prone to error now and then.
You didn't mean to hurt your mother's feelings; you were pursuing your own life.
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| seastar46 (19) | 3 weeks ago | I know but it's so hard to understand it when we go through that kind of situation. I blamed myself for so many things. The worse part was the death of my dear brother. I blamed myself for so long that as I said in my discussion I lost some of my cognitive skills. But I learned a lot in my grieving journey. I became more spiritual since I felt myself dead to the world and resting in God's arms. Now I just live trying to be helpful to others and getting closer to God, looking forward for the day to move home (Heaven).
That doesn't mean that I don't love life on the contrary life is a miracle itself
and it is a privilege that God chose me to experience it. Earth is like a College where we get knowledge and get tests and fail many times but happy are those who learn from their failures.
I see life differently after losing these two pieces of my heart but God has given me the strength I need to keep on going filling up the missing parts with His love.
Thank you for your words:-) | |
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| cobrateacher (4179) | 3 weeks ago | What a wonderful analogy! I loved college enough to get 8 Masters' degrees and Ph.D. classes were pure joy, so I hope you enjoy life that much, too, as I do! | |
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