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myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people2 months ago

There is a lady here in town that comes from a good family, has a great personality but has a bad drug problem. She recently just got out of jail after serving a year's sentence for writing false prescriptions. She stole a pad from a local dr. & was just getting all the drugs she wanted till they caught up w/her. I have an older couple that live beside me. he is very sick & takes alot of meds. I had been seeing her over there alot & was very concerned about them but wouldn't say anything because i didn't think it was any of my buisness. She found out i lived here & has visited me twice, i to am on alot of meds & was very uncomfortable w/her here. the lady next door called me mon. to talk to me about it. I told her exactly how i felt about why she was visiting them so much & they had come to the same conclusion. I told her i wish they wouldn't let her in again & that i wasn't going to myself. What would u do if u had this problem??

 
 
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cynthiann (3126) response was accepted on 11/7/2009.
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1. wunderful (39)   ranked 15,776 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

I think you are exactly right, a word to the local police and her family may be good too. Its wrong to target vunerable people. But I guess she is desperate. Do they not come out clean? Bad choices I guess.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

The local police wouldn't do doodley squat. I found that out when the painters i had here stole my meds. I think her dad is pretty well disgusted w/her from what she told me. I can see why. It's really a sahme because she is a very likable person. Ithink they can get drugs in jail maybe easier than they can on the street from what i hear, That's a crying shame to. Thanks for responding. Have a good one.

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2. myLot reputation of 95/100. dawnald (10097)   ranked 372 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

pretend I wasn't home?


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

U got it!

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. cynthiann (3126)   ranked 5 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

If she had to come into my home - if I couldn't think of a way to avoid her then I would have my meds under lock and key. This is an awful problem to have and I d not have a clear answer as to what to do. It looks to me like she is being friendly as she hopes to steal your meds. But as yet, you do not have any proof of this. This is a horrible situation. I am going to think about this as I do not have any answers.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

With noone here but me i keep my meds sitting on my table where i sit all the time. She has just surprised me both times when she came. I would not have gone to the door sat. but i was expecting the kids & didn't look out before i opened the door. I will look out from now on but u shouldn't have to do that unless u just want to. I worry about the couple next door to. Thanks for your response.


myLot reputation of 99/100. cynthiann (3126)   ranked 5 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

What is worrying me is that she probably saw your meds then when she came. All you can do is warn the couple next door. If hey want the meds then they can use many ricks t get them. Take great care and try not to open the door but this is not a good way to live. But somehow yo have to make her feel that she is not a welcome visitor to your house.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

I just hope she stays away but doubt she does from next door especially. He takes alot of meds to & the lady told me she was very interested in his meds. I can tell her if i have to but hope she'll get the hint if she comes back & i don't go to the door. What a mess. I just wish people would behave thenselves but know that's not going to happen.The world is in a sad state.

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4. myLot reputation of 99/100. SomeCowgirl (8287)   ranked 121 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

I would feel uncomfortable around someone like that as well, I would definitely be kicking them out the door. If they were rehabilitated that would be a different story, but at the same time I would still be reluctant to deal with them.

I never want to do anything that would mean jail time, there's a lot to consider, not only the fact you may not find a job, but also the fact that once you get out you may still not be trustworthy.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

She probably want be out long the way she is going.I really do feel as if she is up to no good. I just wish she could get her act together but she's been doing it for a long time. It's very sad, really. Thanks for your response.


myLot reputation of 99/100. SomeCowgirl (8287)   ranked 121 out of 35,394 in people  1 month ago

When a habit is formed, it's hard to get out of said habit. It's sad she may not be out for long, but at the same time if it helps her then that is also good.. though her first spout of jail time doesn't seem to have.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  1 month ago

It is my understanding if she gets caught again u will do many years in prison. I sure don't want to be the reason for tht happening & u would think she would walk the straight & narrow but i'm afraid she's not.


myLot reputation of 99/100. SomeCowgirl (8287)   ranked 121 out of 35,394 in people  1 month ago

Oh Antiquelady but why would I serve time in prison? You had made a typo and I couldn't resist being sarcastic, please forgive me. Yes you would think the straight and narrow would be the path she'd want to take but to each their own!

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5. myLot reputation of 89/100. zandi458 (5899)   ranked 30 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

Sounds quite scary. I wouldn't allow an ex convict to come to me house. She has no business with me and allowing her in is inviting trouble as I would not know what she might end up doing in my house. I will lock the door and put a big sign outside my door saying that I am not in or direct to the point 'Respect my Privacy, visit with appointment only'. It sounds quite rude but it is better than slamming the door in front of her.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

U like to give people the benefit of thinking they are not up to any bad but i'm afraid she is. I had not really considered her an ex-convict but u are right i guess she is. I have known her & her family forever & IT IS SAD SHE HAS THIS PROBLEM BUT IT IS NOT GOING TO BE MY PROBLEM.I hope the couple next door want let her in again. I'm just not going to go to the door & i advised the neighbor to do the same. Thanks for responding.

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6. myLot reputation of 96/100. thea09 (4660)   ranked 733 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

Aunty, I know you're kind and all but really you shouln't let her in as you've already had prescription drugs stolen from you not long ago. I hope you checked everything after she left. If she's just got out of prison surely she's on parole so if anything goes missing it would be dealt with. You shouldn't have to start locking everything away inside your own home with worry. Be firm and don't let her in again please.


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

Thanks for your concern, Thea. I don't plan to let her in again. I just hope she satys away from me & the older couple next door. She wasn't actually in prison but in the county jail for over a year. I heard last night she got in trouble about the time she was suppose to get out & had to stay for another 6 months. It really is a sad thing for anyone to get hooked like that.

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (2727)   ranked 74 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

Antique I couldnt agree with you more .You cannot risk her stealing your medication and make your condition worse.People like those can get you into trouble with the law Antique so you shouldnt have them around ...dont want to come visit you in prison now ..you wouldnt last aday there lol.Dont feel bad you are doing the right thing by getting rid of her


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

Thanks Ronnyb, I know u are right but isn't it sad for someone to be like that. I told my neighbor the same thing, i hope she will listen to. They go to the same church & i know that will make it harder for her but i was glad she brought it up to me. Thanks for responding & being u.

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8. myLot reputation of 97/100. pergammano (2016)   ranked 1,671 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

My goodness, dear JO...you are in what I call the classic juxtaposition...and it is a uncomfortable one! Firstly, if in the past, this "person" was NOT a regular visitor to either you...or your neighbours, I TRULY think I would call the local authorities and just have a chat with them regarding this situation. If you law enforcement people are truly good people, they will give creedence to your concerns! At least you have appraised them of the fact, that this is an uncommon situation, and you truly do feel uncomfortable. You are not laying charges, or getting a restraining order....you are just letting them know that you are uncomfortable, and that your neighbour has uttered some concerns, as well! It is a very delicate situation...but I DO FEEL your concerns are NOT unfounded, and I would rest better, if I knew that you had taken that step! Please, please take care......and please keep us up to speed on this one! LUV & HUGZ!


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

Thanks for your sweet concern, shirley. U know how out local police did NOTHING when the painters stole my meds. I can't see them being any more interested in this problem. It is surely an uncomfortable situation & i worry about my neighbors to. I really believe she is up to no good & i hate feeling that way about her. btw, heard last night one of the painters had stolen again from a lady i know. She is missing $500 from her house. Things like this use to be what u read in the paper not happening right around u. This old world has really changed.I'll pm u if i see anything else out of her, hope i don't. love u. jo

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9. myLot reputation of 100/100. jillhill (11775)   ranked 31 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

I would meet her at the door and tell her that I had H1N1...and that I would get back to her when it was safe for her to visit.....I have a hard time just turning someone away.....or getting rid of an unwanted guest...so I would have to tell a fib like the above to get them out of my house!


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

lol. u are a mess. I am just not going to go to the door if she shows back up. I hope that will give her the hint. It's too bad i have to do this because i have always liked her but have never had any personal contact w/her till now. She use to come in my antique store.

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10. myLot reputation of 99/100. puddytatt (841)   ranked 219 out of 35,394 in people   2 months ago

it's terrible to be made to feel uncomfortable in your own home, i had someone who used to visit me who had a drugs problem (my ex's son) but because my ex lived here i couldn't tell his son to stay away, i didn't like him being here and i used to hide things so he didn't take them, so i know how you feel on that side of things, i think your neighbour has cottoned on to this person and i agree with you, i would avise them not to let her in, what are this perons intentions? is she after something? i wouldn't be too comfortable and i would have to say something to her about it, i don't know what i would say but i would let her know that i am not comfortable about having her in my home....i did infact stop my ex's son coming here because he would come here at like 4 in the morning drugged up causing stress for me, so i had to stop that straight away, this caused me and my ex to break up, since my ex has been gone, i have had no trouble at all, but it's just sad that we had to break up because of his son....


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

U are so right, Tatty. I'm sorry the boy caused u so much trouble. People like that need help & i don't know why your ex couldn't see that. Of course they have to want help to i guess. I'm sorry it came between y'all but understand why u could not put up w/that.


myLot reputation of 99/100. puddytatt (841)   ranked 219 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

well if his father cannot help then i cannot stay in the relationship, i am better off out of it, weight has been lifted to be honest with you, i can start planning now....


myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11450)   ranked 1,947 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

U did the right thing, Tatty, noone needs that in their life. Have a great weekend.


myLot reputation of 99/100. puddytatt (841)   ranked 219 out of 35,394 in people  2 months ago

thankyou antique, thumbup

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