in love with my best friend husband

What make you so sure that your husband's best friend will entertain your wish? Another thing what is the major factor that have made you devalued your husband? are you ready to face all the future consequences or unprecedented? If you are not yet ready for all of it better don't run against the strong wind. If you say all ready, no point waiting and on your mark, get set...go!!!

You really should stop it! That's not nice...you're going to loose a friendship over a man and you will loose your hubby too! think about that.

You are a very poor excuse, for a friend you are not a friend, you are just a home racker, you just don't want you friend to be happy, it's people like you that give nice women a bad name, you need to go to a bar, some where and find you a nice single man, and leave your friend's husband alone.

she's a very good friend,which is more than i can say for a lot of people,most people have thoughts that they shouldn't,i sure have,but it's whether she decides to act on them,if you think it'l work between you and this other man then tell him,,i told a guy i'd liked who had been married for 30 years that i liked him,we've now been together for 5 years,but just make sure it's what you want before saying anything

You need to figure out what is wrong with your own marriage and need to figure out why you have allowed these feelins to come in to your mind. Obviously something is missing in your life and in your own relationship. You need to concentrate on your relationship and your own husband and get some counceling to figure out what is wrong with or without your husband. It is one thing to have a little harmless crush on someone but you are about to betray your best friend and your husband if you were to admit to this man you have feelings for him, and if he decides to pursue something with you then a whole lot of people's lives are going to be ruined, and a lot of people are going to get hurt. If you really love and care about your best friend then you need to do what ever it takes to get rid of these feelings for her husband, a true friend would never violate a friendship like that. Chances are what you are feeling is an attraction and not necessarily love, you need to get your self and your marriage right before you hurt a lot of people.

Do you think that the married man may know that you have feelings for him?Is your friend happy in her marriage?Is he the type of man that would never leave his wife? Befor you do anything ask yourself these questions as that will give you the answer to if you should say anything about your feelings to see if anything will come of it.

I seriously think that you should not try and pursue anything with your friends husband. First of all for the fact that you are married yourself and then second of all it is your friend's husband. If your friends husband truely loved your friend, you would be shot down immediately, just for the fact that he is in love with your friend. Then on top of that you would lose your friendship with your friend. How is that friendship with her anyways? Are you really good friends, or what exactly. Either way it shouldn't matter because its your friend. And when it comes to friendships and the relationships that we are in. Its hands off to the men, it doesn't matter if later on down the line you are starting to like him. Even if it wasn't your friend's man, just messing with a married man period is a big no no. I think more than ever you need to evaluate yourself in your own marriage and see what is going on there. Why are you trying to mess up someone else's marriage, and even willing to mess up your own marriage, to be with someone that very well may not and even most likely want to be with you. Why did you want to pursue anything with him in the first place. Did he give you any inclination at all that he would be interested with you as well. If so, instead of ruining your friendship with the friend that you have, and pursuing it with him, you need to inform your friend of what he has been doing. Then on the other hand, I don't know why you would want to tell your friend that you are in love with her husband. Because it would just hurt her and then she would never trust you any more period. Although, it may be a good idea that she knows, but that would harm your friendship. So I hope that everything works out with you and your marriage more than anything. But don't try and wreck your friends relationship and family more than ever. You should be a little more considerate with her feelings as well. Because this may very well be a man that she is in love with and with you trying to take her husband away, would be very heartbreaking.

It's just like in the movie. If you really think you're in love and you think you can't live without him then ask the guy if the feeling is mutual, if it is then get a divorce. Cheers!

I'm sorry but I think this is a cross you'll have to bear! It may hurt, but there is nothing you can or should do to pursue this. Being betrayed by a friend is far worse than being betrayed by a significant other (my opinion). You know, sometimes you almost expect it from a significant other, but a girlfriend you should be able to trust until the end. Don't do that to your friend. And don't do that to your husband!!!! And also, you are not in love, it is a crush. You can't be fully in love with someone that you've never even gotten to have intimate conversations with and known how they felt about you. You need to keep away from him. Try to hang out with your friend when he is not around, and don't go to darts unless your friend is there too.

I am glad your not my friend. I am also glad I am not your husband. How selfish. I have no pity for when you let it out how you feel, for it all comes down to your own actions. People who do these kinds of things are lower than worthy to have love.