Do you have friends who make plans with you but they do not follow through?

I have friends who are like that. I tend to stray from them because I don't like it when they do that. I mean, if you commit to something, it's okay if you don't follow through one or two times. If you keep doing it, I'd get irritated to the point where I probably wouldn't go out with you anymore.

I had friends like that and I chose not to hang out with them anymore.

I have some friends that are like this, but not to the same extreme. Most of my friends were made through a playgroup and in doing that we are asked to RSVP for events that are hosted through the playgroup. There are the majority of us that RSVP responsibly, but on the other hand, there is also the group that never shows up when they RSVP. Do we call their bluff, no, we don't. However, when we see that these people say that they are going to attend an event, we just don't count them in our final numbers.

I used to have a friend like that. She'd make plans with you, then if something 'better' came up she'd do that and not even let you know. Then you'd be sitting there waiting. After a period of time I gave up on the friendship and us friends referred to her as an 'energy vampire' (because trying to have any form of friendship with her just sucked the life out of you lol.) People like that are just not considerate of anyone else except themselves. When you think about it, they're not truly a friend at all, they're just opportunists of a sort. I don't keep friends like that for very long, it's not worth it to the soul, mind, spirit of friendship, OR pocketbook.

I don't appreciate it when people duck out of things at the last minute, so i make an incredible effort not to do it myself. However, I try to be aware that the individuals I'm planning with are aware that I'm setting aside time and possibly other plans in order to hang out. I know many people who will ask me to hang out off the top of their heads at an odd moment, for example if we are watching tv together and a preview for an interesting movie comes on, the person or persons might say "oh we should go see that." that itself is not binding enough for me to hold them to it, or be upset they cancelled, but if they say "we should go see that tomorrow evening at seven, and go for pizza after," that is binding and I will definitly be justified in getting upset if he or she calls at 6:45 to tell me they can't make it. Also, if you need to cancel plans, it is most considerate to do it as soon as possible.

I was in a situation like this once. I became so irritated that finally when she said she was going to do something with me that friday and not to make plans, I said "Good, then I'm free to hang out with [insert name of other friend here] on friday." When she got upset I made her sit down and explained to her that she never kept dates, and it made her have a very unreliable reputation. I also explained that all of our friends weren't sure how to tell her, so I took on the job of telling her we loved hanging out with her, but she always ditched us and that wasn't cool. I said "So until you prove to us that you can make a date with us and keep it, you won't be taken seriously."

Maybe you should try something similar? An intervention of sorts? Sit her down and give her examples that she's done that irritate you and your friends. Use the birthday dinner example, if you want. Best to have other friends who agree with you there so they can back you up. Tell her you still love being her friend, but it's not much of a friendship when she makes promises that she has no intention of keeping.

Good luck, I hope I helped some.

I have had some real doozies for friends. Very irresponsible and lazy, especially when it came to making plans. They would invite us, but cancel at the last minute. Either because they didn't want ot miss out on something on television, or had a slight sniffle. In a case like that, I learn not to trust them again.

Wow,I never met such a friend.If I had some friends like this,I'll try best to cut down the chance to meet her.Sure I hate the people who always eat her own words.

Hi much2say!
I always face this with my friend!
Simply thing is that they will not be coming to the theater at the right time. Usually they will be coming late by 10 or 15 mins late for all the films.

i totally sympathize with you. i was just discussing with someone about a mutual friend who does this sort of thing to us. she seems pretty sure and hyper during the planning stage and then abruptly cancels at the last minute for some lame reason. it's doesn't do wonders to your friendship. it takes the life out of whatever party, event, or outing you are going to. people like these do not nurture friendships and people who don't respect friends do not deserve my time.

Yes i have few friends who are very eage to make plans for say ap arty a hang out or even a movie, but at the last moment they ditch.And the most irritating part is the type of excuses they come up with.Tryin to show that they are poor people who wanted so much to come but could not make it.And that is why whenver i make plans with friends i always keep a second option what if we do not go then.