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IceTroll (40)   ranked 1,592 out of 11,899 in love2 months ago

I'm always bothered why i can't commit to a relationship. Sometimes i would see flaws that i don't like with my partner and that would bring my interest level down and to add to this dilemma somebody much better would show up but then again i'm stuck. I don't want to cheat but my minds playing tricks on me( i know its cliche LOL!).

Right now my girfriend is taking a nursing board exam and I can't step up and say its over im afraid she might not pass the exam:(. Our relationship level is just like friends. I have been in 3 relationships and still the same thing. I would have a girlfriend but then i would have a friend that would be better than my girlfriend. I want to stop this lol.

I miss just being a single guy on the prowl.:(

but then i miss having a girl who loves me for me.

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 91/100. raynejasper (1058)   ranked 758 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

..well, i guess you are not really in love, instead you are just attracted.. it's just a simple attraction that you mistakenly understood as love.. because love doesn't fade easily as what you feel right now.. you should have examined your feelings carefully before going into a relationship because when girls feel in love, most of them give everything they have and it really hurts when the one you love just leave you because he has found somebody better.. I know how it feels since I'm a woman.. It appears that you just took advantage of these ladies who fell in love with you though it may not be your intention.. but this is the reality that you have to face.. this is why for me, you better think very carefully if you really love the girl or not.. for now, just help your girlfriend concentrate.. depressed or hurting woman cannot concentrate on what they do.. so please don't break up with her yet until her examination is over because as of now, she is facing a very big challenge in her life that is to pass the licensure exam.. If you break up with her, there is a very big tendency that she will lost control of herself and focus that may lead her to fail..


IceTroll (40)   ranked 1,592 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

After reading all the comments i would like to start here. And summarize all of what im gonna say here.

Yes i was inlove but then sometimes when your inlove all you see are good things you don't see anything at all(then comes LOVE IS BLIND) and i was a fool. I didnt even intend to hurt anyone. I don't wanna hurt her anymore I just wanna do whats right. If i dump her i would stay single i'd follow the 3 month rule and be mature next time.

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2. myLot reputation of 85/100. happy2512 (555)   ranked 2,796 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

If you don't believe in Karma then its time for you to believe it now. Next don't rush into a relationship just because you miss having a girl who loves you? Common don't give me a damn reason take your time enjoy the moment being single. You never know how much it hurts until it is done to you.


IceTroll (40)   ranked 1,592 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

Im shocked seeing the word KARMA. I am very familiar with it. Well there are times you don't expect anything to happen. Falling in love is unpredictable. Every relationship ive ever gone through is an experience for me until that point when i think i'm ready i'll settle down.

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3. myLot reputation of 97/100. eLsMarie (1157)   ranked 26 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

in cases like these, you don't need to have a girlfriend. if you don't have any plans of loving a girl then i i guess it's best that you stop courting somebody. you're way of thinking is so immature. you know for a fact that you're not ready but them you still engage yourself from having a serious relationship. learn to be aware that you can hurt other feelings just because of your rude actions. i'm telling you thise because i'm also a girl and every girl requires to be given worth.


IceTroll (40)   ranked 1,592 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

its very unpredictable. I don't believe in courting. I'm sorry i know how you feel about this. I love this girl and i know her worth. She doesn't deserve a guy like me. I can't love her the way she wants me. The way im loving her is not enough. I respect every girl i meet and im a really nice guy. Sometimes getting hurt is not that bad.

Its for us to see and feel reality as it is.


myLot reputation of 97/100. eLsMarie (1157)   ranked 26 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

well i guess i have to say that your intention is not to love the girl in the first place but just to help her see what's reality. i also don't believe in courtship but i give much significance to the word "commitment."

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4. myLot reputation of 71/100. hsofyan (1388)   ranked 6,569 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

Let the process run relationships naturally, and one day your heart will choose one of them.

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5. arabmaqlumz (18)   ranked 5,819 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

why do u feel afraid?something like what?in love we must to be brave..brave to love someone,and brave to lose someone.when u feel uncomfort in relationship,i think it's normally u feel boring.. u will feel that when u get married,off course..but it's important that u have to know,love will delete all of your afraid,n remember...
you must be Brave To Commit in a relationship if you want to beloved by someone..dont afraid to take a risk.okay?


IceTroll (40)   ranked 1,592 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

I'm afraid to hurt her, im afraid of getting hurt. there are lots of reason to be afraid. Now being brave might make things worse in my point of view. but then again taking risk was my other option.

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6. myLot reputation of 77/100. miiszheiress (103)   ranked 7,437 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

Honestly, you are not in love. You are just attracted to the person who is right in front of you. About being afraid of committing to someone just because you see flaws is one hell of a reasons. No hard feelings but if you really do love someone you'll accept her even if she's the ugliest person that you'll ever meet.

What goes around, comes around. Think again.


IceTroll (40)   ranked 1,592 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

Ok, i was inlove and i loved her back then when we still had a nice connection we always had fun and you can't really blame it but people change and i can't stand that change. When i'm ussually joking around she would get angry or irritated, she would be so concious about her body what she wore, she would always think about what other people might think about her even if theres nothing wrong. I always keep telling her not to mind what other people think as long as were not doing anything wrong. She's a different person and im thinking i fell in love with the wrong one.


myLot reputation of 77/100. miiszheiress (103)   ranked 7,437 out of 11,899 in love  2 months ago

As a woman, we can be pretty annoying at times especially when it comes to our look or what other people might think about us. We just want to be feel the security of our man by letting you guys say that we are beautiful and we look okay. As for the jokes, maybe she's not in the mood to joke around that's why she got pissed easily. If I were you, have a heart to heart talk with your girlfriend and tell her how you really feel about all these stuff and then maybe you'll both understand each other.

I can see the problem now and that is the lack of being open to each other through communication.

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7. myLot reputation of 80/100. barbara7321 (188)   ranked 8,729 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

Sounds like you have a fear of committment and shouldn't be in a relationship right now. Wait for her to take her exam, and in the meantime examine your feelings. No need to be on the prowl just yet. Take your time.

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8. myLot reputation of 91/100. ayebelle (234)   ranked 8,725 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

I also don't want to be committed in relationship. I just like to enjoy myself with their company and i don't like an obligation. It's more safer if you don't commit so you won't get hurt.

Well in your case, talk to her about your feelings after the board examinations and i know she will understand. Being single is not bad at all. But sometimes loneliness is killing me. Good luck to you. And be good.

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9. myLot reputation of 63/100. carrillo_zeny (437)   ranked 8,726 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

maybe you just didnt find the right man. you can commit if you find the right one. dont say that you can commit. wait for the right man to come and im sure you will be happy

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10. myLot reputation of 95/100. rg0205 (1710)   ranked 2,458 out of 11,899 in love   2 months ago

I think you probably haven't found "the one" just yet. I don't think you should lower your standards but I would suggest that you go back to being on the prowl instead of being with someone you're not into. Just make sure you mess with girls who are also on the prowl so no strings attached.

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