How can you help someone that won't help themselves?

Hello,
It is all personal decision for the person helping and situation or problem you are trying to help them with. If it deals with drugs or alcohol that is tough decision. For me I would keep helping until they told me to stay away or I would get intro trouble with the law or get hurt physically from that person.
Now if something like keeping there house clean because they are
a rat pack or not eating enough or depressed and not taking there medication I would keep after them. I remind as much as I can to get them to do what they need too. I find another friend they might listen too or somehow do intervention of some kind. I would not give until I had too. Yes, they may hate me in the long run but if they come better for it than it was all worth it.
I hope this helps
Have a great day
Sincerely Unique16

I've been in this position with a friend of mine who partied, drank, and in general starting taking a self-destructive path in high school. I had already taken that path, and*recovered* from it so I really felt like I understood what he was going through and that I could help him out of his funk. It turned out I tried too hard, and instead of just being for him, I was "suffocating" him and trying to force him into getting better - something that he wasn't quite ready to face (and still isn't). It turns out that all of my pushing and "encouraging" (what I thought to be encouraging, anyway) pushed him away. And I haven't spoken to him in over a year, not by choice. He's mad at me, like any alcoholic is when they are in denial and don't want anyone ruining it. I truly think that in order to help someone, they need to WANT to help themselves. They have to truly want it. I think the hardest part is waiting until they hit rock bottom and waiting until THEY decide they need the help, and that they will accept YOUR help. I don't think we should lay down and take it, though, or totally cut the person out of our lives..But we definitely need to support them and wait until they're ready for a change. For example, if my friend (who isn't really my friend anymore..*sigh*) called me up and said he really intended on changing and wanted my help, I certainly would help him. I always hope that he'll call me up and say that, but it hasn't happened quite yet.

Hi yoninah!
In my opinion.. you can only help so much! I don't think that you can't help anyone that won't even try to help themselves! I wouldn't push anyone away.. I will just make them aware that I will always be around to help when they need it!

It is really a difficult situation to make a apparent decision.

That all depends. Usually, when I meet someone who really need help, I tend to give a hand and help them see the light. From where I stand, it is impolite to wash my hands of the situation and let it be. In fact, in my country, it is a virtue that people tend to help people who are in mortal danger On the contrary, if you turn a blind eye on these won't help themselves, it is a deed of darkness.

When we were young, parents and teachers often taught us that we should take pleasure in helping people. So, I tend to give a hand out of the troubles.