Choose lesser evil:A cheater who confesses but lies or 1 who sings completely  

If I had to choose one I would choose the cheater who admits everything because they've already ruined the relationship, so there's no point in pretending otherwise. The only reason for a person to tell white lies is to make the other person feel falsely secure in the relationship, and that will only make the obviously unhealthy relationship drag on longer.

i don't really understand the question and what you are saying. someone who cheats will be judged by other people. i don't think this means that he necessarily needs the emotional abuse.

I would rather have someone admit everything why he cheated and whom he cheated with.I would rather get badly hurt once than get hurt many times.it is much easier for me to move on.I appreciate honesty rather than white lies.he already hurt a lot when he cheats.doubly so if I found out he was lying AND cheating.