Problems with communication
By Scott
@scottcoleson (579)
Pilot Mountain, North Carolina
November 25, 2009 2:08pm CST
I understand completely how essential communication is in any relationship, especially marriage. I have struggled for a long time with not being able to really be completely open about every aspect of my life with those who are closest to me. I have been hurt many times and those things, although I have moved on and learned a lot from them, have left me scarred to the point that I am sometimes afraid to open myself up to being hurt again. I am married to an incredible woman who loves me and I love her more than words could even describe. I still struggle with allowing her access to some of the deepest parts of my life and who I really am but we are working on improving this together. My question is this: what are some practical ways to help open up communication between two people?
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@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 09
I see that you can write very well, so why not try putting it on papers. It could be in a form of a letter or a compilation of short stories, or a journal. That way you can have time to sort out the right words. Your wife can do the same, and both of you can peek in anytime to read it. Agree that whatever is written are open for discussions.
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@scottcoleson (579)
• Pilot Mountain, North Carolina
29 Nov 09
Thanks very much for the compliment on my writing. It is definitely something that I enjoy doing and I do have a much easier time writing down what is in my mind than I do expressing it verbally. I have done this before and I will definitely try it again. I love leaving my wife little letters or notes around the house when I leave for work, or sending her messages on Facebook or e-mail her while I am at work to let her know that I am thinking about her. I have found that this is a really easy way for me to express my love for her. Thanks again for your recommendation! Have a blessed day!
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@thuynhu (661)
• United States
25 Nov 09
i understand where your coming from. i have the same type of problem. my husband and i have both been scarred in our past and it can be difficult for us. i'm not sure how we began to open up but i know everything is not out in the open. there's no real fast way of doing it. it can only take time and for people to realize this is it. i don't need to hide from this person. this is the one who's going to be with me forever. and sometimes you just gotta go with your gut feeling. everything will come out when you need them to. good luck.
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@scottcoleson (579)
• Pilot Mountain, North Carolina
29 Nov 09
You are right, it definitely can be tough when you both come from backgrounds of hurt and disappointment! My wife and I love each other; there's no doubt about that. It is an awful feeling because we both love each other so much, yet have a hard time really opening up and telling each other what's going on in our minds and hearts. You are also right about it being a process. I often get frustrated because I want it to be fixed right now, but I am having to learn that any relationship is all about a process of growing and learning about each other and it really does take time, but all that time spent in growing together will be worth it!
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