Why don't people understand that everybody is not as fortunate as others are?

Hello my friend cream97 Ji, Well, for us we are never for borrowing money to full-fill our desire. On emust save something for the rainy days. WE always lived in our own shell and curled my legs so that tehy donot protude outside my bed-sheet. Our life was little hard initially, but at our old age, it is paying dividend. To make oneself happy, one may follow at least one of the following golden way of living. [b]"SATSANG (a) ”If you can balance /stable your mind, when people around you are in un-balanced , and at the same time blaming you”. (NO-reaction) (b) “If you have belief on yourself, when others have doubt and at the same time, you strongly oppose their belief of their doubt” (c) “If you can wait for Good/Bright days without loosing patience/getting disheartened of waiting”. (d) “Everyone around you is deceiving you , whereas you are not in any way.” (e) “ Every body hates you and you do not, at the same time, you ARE not proud to be ‘good’ and ‘wise’. (f) “ If you Can dream, but do not allow them to overpower you, and you Can ‘think’ but at the same time, do not plunge into dreams of ‘thinking”. (g) “If you can welcome ‘gains’ and ‘defeat’ OR ‘profit’ & ‘loss’ with open hearts and they do not unbalance your mind”. (h) “If you can accept your own words in twisted/mutilated /distorted form, happily by ‘fools’ and they do not involve you in their bad plans”. (i)“ If you Can bear/tolerate the ‘gains’ accomplished by you ‘raise to ashes’ , for which you took whole life to build, and at the same time you can once again order your tired hands to restart making”. (J) “ If you can take one chance to reduce your gains in your life, ‘loose’ or ‘gain’ (like a great gambler) (k)“If you can, after loosing every bit in your life, get ready fresh to obtain the same with total energy from all corners of your body and mind, without uttering a single word even”. (l)“ If you Can compel your heart, mind and limbs, when they are so tired and refuse to accept any thing, except that your ‘belief’ and ‘desire’ to order them that they have to march forward and not falling back”. (m) “ If you can roam in crowds, but do not allow your ‘thoughts’ and ’abilities’ to wander stray, and you live with emperor, but do not neglect common man “. (n) “ If you are unharmed by people loving you and people hating you”. (o)“ If you Can respect everybody within the limits, but at the same time nobody”. (p)“ IF YOU CAN REMEMBER THE UN-EXCUSED MOMENT/SECOND (time) OF YOUR LIFE, AND EXPLAIN THE REASON FOR THE SAME”. Then, the whole world belongs to you only and every thing that exists on this, at the same time you fall under the category of ‘ACTUAL HUMAN BEING ’, which is greatest achievement in the life than any thing else”.[/b]Wishing you a very happy Chrismas and New Year-2010. May God bless You and have a great time.

that infurates me too.i know people that get all angry when i say i can't do something,i'm broke- like i'm blowing them off instead of actually being broke. after awhile it's just like whatever,see ya.i need to pay my bills.

We have been on both ends of this debate. We have been in a financial position where we had plenty of money to do pretty much what we wanted to do. Both of us were working, and we had money in the bank. Our kids weren't denied much at all. We've also been in situations where hubby was laid off from his job and we had no income coming in. We had to watch every penny that went in or out to make sure that the bills got paid and the kids had 3 meals a day and a roof over their heads. We have pretty much lived by the rule that we don't borrow money for anything unless it's an absolute necessity. I've had to borrow from my mom for school supplies and groceries, and I hated it every time!

Cream97, I find this hard to believe. Can anyone force someone to go all out to borrow money? I feel each of us have to 'cut the coat according to the cloth.' This situation you talk about sounds like the person is victimised and pressured to do the things he/she is reluctant to do.

I know what you mean. I'm on Disability and it's very hard some months to pay rent, bills and have much left over for things I want. Another thing I hate is when people try to sell you something over the phone. When you tell them no thanks, they say, "Well, it's only this much money!" And I want to say, "Hey, do you think I live in a box here? Do you not think that I have other monthly expenses that take precedence over what you are trying to sell me? What jerks they can be. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

I think that some people should actually realise how lucky they are.It could happen to anyone in this changing world the wrong investment,loss of income and they could be needing stuff,I am also very lucky and can have what I need enough to eat,keep warm and enjoy a comfortable life style and really appreciate that fact.Although there has been times in my life when I did not now which way to turn that is why I never take anything for granted and am truly thankful I have a wonderful kind husband who just happens to have a well paid job.If you cannot afford something does not make you any less of a person.We live in a nice area but to look down on someone not me.We all bleed the same.

Because People are are nasty that is why Instead of understanding they look down on People because they think they are better then the People that are not as well of as them They do not realize that People work really hard just to keep their Head above water while everything falls into their lap Not all well of People are like that but most It does not bother me any more it used but not now I just plod along and let everyone else do the same

I do not believe in borrowing from friends or family. That will wreck a relationship even if you are tight. People do look down on others that don't have much or can not get much. I know! I am the type of person that will not ask for help, too much pride I guess. I am 53 years young and have only asked my mother 2 times in my life to borrow money. My entry money for college and to help me buy some land next to me that I wanted. I had her paid back for the land within a month or two. The other $50 she gave to me to help me out. I felt so bad asking for help. It belittles me in my eyes. I have helped other so many times and when they were suppose to pay the money back I rarely got it back. SO I came to the conclusion that if someone asks to "borrow" money, then consider it a gift until and if you get it back. SO if I can not afford to "loan" it out then I don't. Most likely then not I do not get it back. If someone borrows money, they should pay it back. The problem is they say they will pay you back but if they do not have the full amount they give you nothing! hey should try by giving something as many times as they can until the loan is paid back. I'd rather know they are trying to pay it back than just avoiding me or acting as if they don't owe me at all.

not only that but i find that my hubbys family is like that. my hubby lost his job in august and they still want us to spend money like crazy for christmas. we just dont have it and they just dont get it!

EGO - In my opinion, this is the main culprit to making one want to own something one is not able to afford. It is this egoistic pride that makes one high above another. Maybe there is great satisfaction when one is able to hold his head high above another. It is all because of human nature to want to excel and in the process forget about another's misery, perhaps even one's own misery.

I don't believe that people think. It's not that they don't know, they just don't think about it and use good old common sense. I know there are times when I am trying to do something and people will say, well just go buy this or that. Don't they realize that if it's not in my budget, I can't just go buy something. I know sometimes it will make the job easier or it will look good, but when I go in debt, I want it to be for something worth while. Not just something to make my life easier.

Read this carefully.... "Economics of Politics" [b]To find this, you need to get exposure on "Economics of Politics"... In old age, 1. when money was not invented, people used Commodity Exchange Method ( C - C ), 2. later, to differentiate prestigious products from the cheapest product, money was invented, so people gave some products (C) to the respective person - got money (M) - then when they need some other product, they gave money and got the product ( C - M - C ), 3. In this stage, the brilliant political people used their mind and they gave less money and brought lot of products - stored in their storage place... 4. At the time of poverty, when other people asked some food products, brilliant political people hiked the price, so, brilliant political people gave products for those gave enough money which brilliant political people quoted.. here the system changes to ( M - C - M). 5. Here the next step arise, when people cannot give the enough money, they gave their house or land or their cattle or whatever they have to get rid of hungry at that time.. this is the place when people become LandLords (extreme rich people - Kings).. Beggers (extreme poor people)... [/b] This is how the "Economics of the Politics" arose...

I don't have a problem telling people that I can't afford to do something, or buy something. When I got laid off, I found out just how easy it was to live on what I was getting each week...how to stretch a dime. Then I realized how wasteful I was with my money when I was working. So sometimes, there is a reason why we have to experience hardships in our lives...it teaches us something. So, whenever I have to explain to others that I cannot spend the money for whatever reason, I don't feel bad at all...It's made me a better person for it, and I have a little more compassion for those who are struggling because I can relate to them. Unfortunately, I do look at others who have the money and spend it unwisely, with humor. Because they have no idea how to live simply, how to appreciate what they have, and most often, they would have no idea what the poor live like. So, the truth is, they are missing out a great deal.

People that don't understand that everyone is different are just selfish, spoiled and ignorant. I think that those people are that way mainly because no one told them that some people are poorer than others while they were children- its harder for people to understand a lot things they didn't know when they're grown up.

A very rich person can buy anything that he or she wishes. Therefore little will be special for that person. He or she might end up highly fussy and not at all grateful for all they have. A person with average finances might have a medium salary. He or she would have enough money for everyday items but have to save for larger items. It is wise to have savings in case a household product stops working. Last week my moms tumble drier stopped working. She had to spend about two hundred pounds on a new tumble drier. I don't think that it is wise to have credit cards with a large amount of debt. I believe it is fine to get a mortgage to buy a house or a loan to buy a car. Day to day spending on a credit card will mean lots of money in interest has to be spent. In developing countries there are some really poor people. They have very little possessions but seem really happy. Where a person is born and their social background will give them a childhood in a particular country. Some people have more chance to get good qualifications and a superb career than others. Spending patterns can be tried out in childhood like saving money.

Hey cream~ I'm with you on this one! I don't want to have to borrow money either! If there is something that I really need or want I try to put a little money aside and save up for it until I can get it! I do sometimes use my credit card, but that only makes things worse because I then have to pay the money back with interest! I much rather do without something unless it is something really important! But, I still wouldn't borrow money from anyone, especially not a friend or a relative! That just causes too much grief and hard feelings and is too stressful trying to pay the money back!

They don't understand because they aren't in the same shoes. Maybe that is how they get everything because its handed to them by mommy and daddy or someone else. I used to hear those things from the little rich brats I grew up around "ITs only $80.00" Well that was the same as a million dollars to me then.

Some people are envious about others having what they want and just stay that way. Some people look at others and do their best to work hard and attain a lifestyle that they can get. I don't like to think of people who just borrow money and be in debt most of the time. As much as possible, I don't want to borrow money because I have a problem of paying. There were few instances that I borrowed money and I paid them. I want to work and have money to buy what I want in life.

I completely understand where you are coming from. I have family that does that all the time and this happens to my husband and I all the time, when there is a birthday or Christmas that comes around, I have family that have all the funds to buy really expensive gifts and then when it comes down to me, they ask me to chip in and we feel like we have to because if we don't they kind of make you feel bad. I totally agree with you also when you say, when family or any other friends say that you can just ask to borrow money. It is also very hard for me to ask people for money and I am the type of person that doesn't like to take things from people even when they are trying to help me. I also most of the time don't like to let people know that I am going through a bad time right now and I won't be able to do the things that they like to do. I just don't like people in my business, but yet my family gets upset when I am going through a hard time, I just feel like it is none of their business. I also agree with you when you say that when you borrow money from someone or a family member or whatever, that yes it does put you in more debt and further into debt. Unless the person that you are borrowing from, says that you can pay them back whenever you are able to. My family does that alot, but even though they are like that I still do not like to borrow from them, and I have never borrowed money from my friends, although I have loaned my friends money.

Everyone has a right to happiness, rich and poor alike. It is the indiscriminate society values that drive people round the bend. There was this king who was bent on destroying the happpiness of his gardener who was living with his family in his quarters close to the King's bedroom. He could not tolerate their happiness who had a hand to mouth existence. It is not how much we have but what we make of what we have is the true secret to happiness. Let those who feel they should borrow in order to compete with the Joneses for example restrain and live within their means. If one cannot celebrate Christmas for economic reasons whats the big deal?