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myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers 3 years ago


Yes I am a grown man and I don’t live my mother but she is a seventh day Adventist and when I go to look for her she says that I cant watch TV in her house on a Friday. Now I think that this is like imposing her beliefs on me and I was thinking that I could watch my Tv since there is nothing else to do anyway while se maintains her Sabbath. Isn’t it possible that we could do both and still be happy ? I mean if I was a Muslim and she came to my house ,should I force her to worship five times per day while she is prostrated and turned to the east ?We have had many passionate discussions about it but when I go to her house I conform ,even though I dont agree

What do you think am I being unreasonable ? Or is she being a dictator ? (she is sweet mom by the way ,this is our only bone of contention lol )


 

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mzz663 (1423) response was accepted on 12/10/2009.
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tags:  religion, belief, get a life, house rules, life without tv
 
1. myLot reputation of 83/100. xfahctor (7623)   ranked 2,479 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

I would look at it this way. It is her house. I would just honor her wishes if no other reason than that. Grit your teeth and respect her wishes is what i would do in your shoes. Good luck.


myLot reputation of 95/100. OreoCookie3 (22470)  3 years ago

Exactly. When I visit my adoptive mom who is VERY religious, I have to follow her rules. She will not let the TV be on until 6 PM on a Sunday night.. all day long it must be off and her radio is on to listen to Christian music. I can't read a novel or anything.. I must just be there to do what she wants to do or talk about what she wants to talk about... I do it, because I love her and respect her.happy

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. sarahruthbeth22 (15801)   ranked 30 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

It is her house and her rules. If you want to watch t.v. , then visit her After the Sabbath. That's what I would do. I am not that strict in my beliefs but I do respect others.It is her way of keeping the day holy. but if you are of a different belief then just leave her tp practice the Sabbath and visit her on another day. That way you get to watch television And she still gets to see her son.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

Thank you for your answer .I usually dont go to her house anymore on a sabbath because I know I will want to watch Tv and that is not allowed lol

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3. myLot reputation of 97/100. Pose123 (8270)   ranked 2,032 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

Hi ronnyb, Since she is a sweet mom and this is your only contention, I think you should go along with her. A good mom is very special and can never be replaced. Blessings.

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4. myLot reputation of 93/100. curiousplay54 (239)   ranked 7,521 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

Hi ronnyb, I don't think your mother is being a dictator. She is just holding to her belief that they (the SDA) will not do any work on Sabbath day. I have many friends that are SDA and I have no problem following their restriction, I'm a Catholic by the way. I guess she is strict with her house rule because she wants to avoid temptation (from doing something that she's not suppose to do on that day) so just relax and respect...


myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

Ok I understand in a sense but it still feels harsh that I have to subscribe to her beliefs in this way when I am not an adventist .A friend of mine suggested that it is teh temptation she is trying to avoid.Thanks for your answer

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5. myLot reputation of 91/100. surfette (525)   ranked 4,064 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

Everyone has "house rules" in their own home. It doesn't even have to be based on religious beliefs. It is disrespectful to go into anyone's home and proceed to do what YOU want to do. I won't touch anything in my mom's home without asking first or getting permission. That is just basic respect.

Is this this only day on which you can visit? Perhaps you can change days. I don't think she is imposing her beliefs on you. She is just conforming to her own. You are the visitor and thus, should willingly abide by her request. As long as you have a good relationship in all other areas, this should really not become a wedge between the two of you unless you choose to make it one. Enjoy your visits and perhaps play a family type of game like Scrabble if that is allowed.

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6. myLot reputation of 96/100. ANTIQUELADY (16514)   ranked 46 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

sHE IS BEING OPIONATED BUT I'M SURE THERE IS NO CHANGING HER & I ADMIRE U FOR BEING A GOOD SON & RESPECTING HER WISHES. My mother & i didn't see eye to eye on anything so i'm glad this is the only problem u have w/her, u are lucky there.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

Yes she is lol ,very pasionate about her church and I resepect her wishes and try to go look for her on another day other than Saturday .Yes we may have passioante discourse but nothing that will ruin our relationship

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. anniefannie (1358)   ranked 322 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

you should respect your mother's beliefs don't go to her house on fridays if you had rather watch tv.go another day.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

Good answer and that is what I ahve been doing of late or if I go to her house ,I leave before sabbath

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8. myLot reputation of 66/100. poingly (318)   ranked 5,415 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

If I go to my parents on a Sunday, I don't go to church...

Then again, my mom no longer makes me, but I understand those parents that do. What would she do to you if you turned on that TV?

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9. myLot reputation of 85/100. borg246 (449)   ranked 959 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

I'm not sure what religion your mother believes in, but it could be for the reason that on the Sabbath nothing should be done, no work, no school, no play, no tv, nothing. Just a day of rest and maybe praying towards God. At least from the religion lessons I used to take, that's what I know and think about the Sabbath. I suppose she is very dedicated to her religion and does not want to disobey what God wants her as well as all of us to do.

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10. myLot reputation of 94/100. mzz663 (1423)   ranked 1,116 out of 19,273 in questions & answers   3 years ago

As long as you don't live with your mother and it's her house, you should respect her rules. It is really just a matter of respect.
IF YOU were muslim and she came to visit, would you want her to bring a ham to your house? (muslims don't eat pork.)
Religious beliefs or not, you should respect the fact that it is her house and those are her wishes.
I visit my daughter, she doesn't want me to smoke or wear my shoes in her house....would you think it was fair if I walked into her house and lit a cigarette and wore muddy shoes through her house?


myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

Great answer I guess you layed it out quit nicely .If I were a muslim I wouldnt want that to happen so I see now why I need to respect her wishes


myLot reputation of 66/100. poingly (318)   ranked 5,415 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

If I were a Muslim (or Jewish) I wouldn't mind someone else eating pork in my house--but it would upset me if they were force feeding me it! haha.

I think another thing this guy has against him is that parents expect their kids to be the same religion as they are (usually). Orthodox Jews (for instance) aren't allowed to work on their Sabbath, but they can get someone else to do that work for them! In such an instance, seeing one's son or daughter doing these sort of things on the Sabbath is like seeing them forsake their faith (in the parent's eyes).


myLot reputation of 94/100. mzz663 (1423)   ranked 1,116 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

That could be the case, two of my kids switched religion when they got out on their own and I'm not angry about it, I could understand parents that do get upset about their kids following a different religion, but it still all boils down to respect that goes both ways, for the parent and their child.


myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 118 out of 19,273 in questions & answers  3 years ago

nice point Poingly ,very good point and I kind of get that impression from her too,she has been trying to convert me unsuccessfully for so long

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