Girls can't be friends with boys!?
By keep_onwatch
@keep_onwatch (2680)
India
December 13, 2009 4:16am CST
Yes, That's exactly what my son's only friend, who happened to be a girl was told by her teacher! My son (4 years old ) and his friend (5 years old) who lives next door were very close, always playing together, doing their homework together, until, the girl's teacher told her that she should associate more with girls and not with boys and in the similar way, boys should learn to be more with boys. From that day, she completely stopped coming over to our place, stopped playing with my boy and found herself a new girl to play with. My child sure misses her company and even used to cry. Upon asking, I came to know the reason and I just couldn't believe how a teacher can say and imprint something like that onto the brains of young children?
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5 responses
@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
Well I don't agree with that at all. I have a lot of friends that are girls and all is fine. Well yes, some have given me a few problems but then so have some men. I think it's healthy to have both genders as friends.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
14 Dec 09
Yeah, I couldn't agree more. But what hurts is the way that teacher was able to get the child to think that way, after all they are just children!
@Orea15 (281)
• United States
14 Dec 09
How awful that this teacher did something so destructive and ignorant. I am appalled. I hope that this can be mended and that this little girl can go back to being friends with your son without being criticized for it.
People like that should not be allowed to teach. Grrr!
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
15 Dec 09
Yeah, I agree with you and ppl like that shouldn't be allowed to teach. I mean someone so influential as a teacher cant do that.
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
13 Dec 09
I am a primary school teacher and a parent of three children. I think it is perfectly reasonable for girls and boys to be friends when they are children. I think that the teacher was wrong to tell the girl not to associate with boys but become friends with lots of girls. I think the teacher should develop social skills, clear vocabulary and politeness. I know that children should develop some independence. They should be able to choice their own friends.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
14 Dec 09
Yeah I agree, the teacher is so very wrong in teaching something like that. Children should be able to make their own choices.
@lizbenetua (637)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
That is not true that girls can't be friends with boys. That is totally unfair. Imagine it in reverse as well " Boys can't be friends with girls". Kids choose their friends. That person just brought trauma to a child. And worse, that person is a teacher. She has great responsibility to teach things right. If I were the mother, I would talk to the teacher and shed some light on this matter because she just hurt a child's feelings. The boy felt rejected.
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
14 Dec 09
Yeah that's the worst thing, my boy felt rejected and is hurt, I just wish somehow I could take that away....
@sweetbali4you (359)
• India
14 Dec 09
its happen in relationship and both need to think carefully before taking any decision this is how i think about this .
