Could You Cope Being Alone At Christmas?  

Firstly I simply love your new avatar, so cute! I am a bit like you I would rather spend Christmas alone, we cope, it's not all a bed at roses at Christmas for families is it? They do say Christmas can be extremely stressful and there is a lot of fights in families at Christmas. Yes I am looking forward in getting back to the gym, I don't tend to stuff myself as much as when I was younger because I am conscious of the time it took to get my body the way I like it!

I can understand that but if you ever do pig out even if it is for a week or more you will be suprised how FAST your will bounce back, sometimes even better and believe it or not usually alittle stronger also. Happy New Year my friend.

TWO gymaholic people chatting over here I guess.
Hi to both, I would like to be friends with you, am I in ?
My english may not be so modern and good, but I can understand it good

welcome pupupd. Of course. I will request your as a friend be sure to accept me and turn on the notify. Also add fitness,workout, gym and bodybuilding to your interests list. Looking forward to another fitness person here.

Hello my dear friend! What a wonderful positive perspective you have. Sometimes I wonder you can even be alone in company. I do a lot of reflecting when I am on my own, sometimes that is good but then I tend to dwell on stuff. I am very independent and I guess it's what you get used to isn't it? Because I am used to and prefer my own company then spending Christmas alone isn't a major issue or crisis for me. I have a quiet Christmas at home with my parents but I do prefer to spend a lot of time watching tv or up in my room or on the computer, 'my time' as it were. I can always find something to do, I am active, good imagination, creative and never get time to get bored or needing company. I am not a big Christmas person to be honest and I find it boring, mind you there is so much build up to it that from the end of October to Christmas that is all you hear about on television out on the streets, the talk of the town etc! So by Christmas you are sick of hearing it and carols too! The sun is shining here and the snow is gone and I am very much looking forward to 2010 and a brighter future certainly a more positive one.

aaah wolfie, your description of what you do over this time I find very comfortable, soothing and relaxing. I am glad you can find that time too, to just do what you want when you want without pressure. Still nice to do the 'together thing' with family but without making it in to a rocking party!!

We seem to have some things obviously in common, there,, have you noticed??

Yes I have my friend and that is why we have a deep understanding and a good friendship here.

and it feels good and puts a smile on my face to see your words. Thanks for that and for being YOU! We shall see you about again soon, I hope!! be well!- leif!

Hi there fjaril, where were you. Hope you had a good Christmas. Hope you had company this time.As for me, I need my loved ones during the festivals. Have a look at my response.
Must be getting old, I never thought that I will say that I need company during the festivals. Getting sentimental .

aaah ramesh, my dear friend! You have always been sentimental, You have been hanging out with ME and so now you realize it is alright to be a strong man whilst too, being aware of feelings and ,. OO YES, sentimental too!

I think it rather fortunate that we are able to be that and get away with it. There ARE cultures that don't want men to be anything other than an image of something totally not normal..

SO.. should we hug and wipe a tear??
AND smile big smiles in the recognition that ,, yup,, we recognize each other quite well.. and I happen to like you the way you are.. real and wise! and really nice to know!

Thanks for the response fjaril. Yes, some cultures are like that. Have a nice week end friend.

Yes, me too and all Indians are very sentimental about these things specially festivals. We find it miserable if we don't have someyone to celebrate our special festival with.
We always want to have friends, family and loved ones near us during these days.
This is our culture and we grow up in it. Thus when we move to a foreign country, away from our family and home country, we feel home sick and just want to return back to our native life and its strong fragrance.

I feel that christmas in foreign countries are celebrated in much more beautiful way than in India but still if you find time and give a look to our enthusisasm, you will be astonished. India is a country where every big festival whether it's hindu, muslim or christian one, is celebrated with great interest and equal participation by people of all religion. We forget all the religious boundries we create within ourselves and play along!

Hope I am not boring you, just wanted to express my feeling, I think I have overstretched
My main intention was to make a powerful statement, as the discussion demands so.
Wants to know about our feelings and perspectives.

Have a wonderful New Year Everyone Reading my innocent comment!

Hi pupupd! What a very fine and interesting response you have made! It is exactly so detailed and full of true meaning and feeling.

I love it that you can express it all so well and put a smile on my face also! I betje wolfie loves it too!
Take care and a Happy New Year to you also!! -leif

Thanks ever so much, wolfie, for best response, Very kind of you! I hope for great things for you in this 2010 and also that we see more of each other as time allows. It has been fun here with you and I wish you all the best. take good care. leif

But you have Gissi to keep you company, and I do think pets are more of a companion especially at Christmas time than adults x

Lol yes that is so true xxx

Hi gabs: I agree with you, even if we made a big effort, it looks strange to be alone on Christmas time but sometimes people have no choice so there are only two options will we be unhappy or will we try our best to be as happy as our possibilities let us be. I woul also think that Christmas is a special event and we have to celebrate this and also to thank God for another year in our lives. Thanks for your answer. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. Take care.

-Alvaro.

Happy Holidays to everyone. I have spent my christmas with my family.
Even though it is not our festival we celebrate it with fun by eating plum cakes, decorating our home entrances, lighting up chandeliers,candles and christmas trees and also making delicious foods!
We had a chritmas tree making competition at our workplace and our batch got the first prize! Amzing, I wish I could show you a Snap of that beautiful tree but Cameras are not allowed in office premises

Well, I did spend Christmas Eve & Christmas Day alone for a couple of reasons: firstly, we had a big snow storm here in central Oklahoma, with strong winds.

But - - I lost my husband of over 50 yrs. on April 30th, and I really just wanted to be alone. I did better than I thought I would, and a neighbor waded through the snow to bring me a plate of food, which really made Christmas Day special to me. I did get some phone calls from friends and relatives out of state too.

My daughter and son-in-law did come by for a bit Christmas night, and bought me a couple of nice presents.

My Christmases will never be the same without my darling husband, but as time goes by, as they say, it will get a bit easier, and I have the comfort that I 'will' be with him again one day. Every day I livek, I remind myself that I am that much closer to seeing my Lord, and my precious husband, and others that have gone on as well.

I have no religion, but this 'Christmas is the closest I know, as my mother was a staunch Roman Catholic, and what I was indoctrinated into and have known all my life to what most everyone celebrated.

So, I go right along and like the old traditions of the decorated trees and pretty bright candles and great food. And that is the extent for me but I like the festiveness, so ... if I was to be at a Deepavalli festival, would I be allowed to be there and would I have fun?? or is it strict and outsiders should not really be there.. I just need to know whether, when you are old and alone, if I need to come and get you so you have my celebration with MEE! because I sure don't want you to be alone! nono.











BE ALLOWED TO BE THERE AND WOULD i HAVE FUN??

forget that very last lonely line.. a tchnical error that I missed

You are certainly welcome to my house not only during Deepavalli, but even during the other times.You will certainly have fun, if you can tolerated the loud noises created by the crackers burst during the festival. There is nothing like outsiders are not welcome. The fact is one of my relatives, married an Anglo-Indian girl, and converted into Christianity. He was not welcome in any of our relatives houses, and then when time passed, his children used to come, and joined us in our celebrations during all our Hindu festivals.Even as teenagers they used to come to all our relative houses during the festivals. After my uncles death, the mother forbid them from visiting our houses.They became true RC's, and we lost touch.
As far as I am concerned, people of any religion are welcome to my house and enjoy the festival. If I am all alone,then only two old people, you and me will be sitting in my house, and we will be having our own celeberation. Thanks for the nice words friend.

Very true, as I have commented earlier, we always love to have our loved ones around us in any of our major festivals like Deepavali, Holi, dusshera etc.
These are some of the festivals which are celebrated by all the Indians, but there are some which are celebrated in respective states. If you count them, you will find that almost all the months after july to next years april is filled with festivals celebrated by various states.
I will mention some of them like Ganesh Chaturthi, Navaratri, Durga Pooja, kali puja, pongal ,onam and also a punjabi festival(I don't know how to pronounce it - Sorry)

You are right it is different for those that choose to be alone on Christmas for varying reasons. And sometimes it's just better to be alone than in bad company. I am only at home for the sake of my mum, otherwise I would happily spend Christmas alone, it's no big deal, I am a solitary person and prefer my own company, and if I need to talk to someone there is always the phone or the internet. Huggles x

The sad thing is that the true meaning of Christmas has been lost or indeed buried by commercialism and it's all about spend, spend, spend. I think when you are alone at Christmas to view the positives rather than ponder the negatives that is what I try to do and everything is equally balanced, not everything is negative and indeed not everything is positive. For me spending Christmas alone would be doing what I want to do and not having to please or argue with others. Mind you I prefer to be alone and that is my choice. I do have my parents who I spend Christmas with and really it's just like every other weekend, not much difference, so to me Christmas is no big deal spending it alone or with others.

I guess Christmas or any holiday is what you make of it.

Chevee (3642) - I can understand your outlook too. It is in deed thee day to praise and give thanks to the Lord.

I think too, that some years one may feel the need to be alone (as I did this year). But maybe next year, I'll have a different outlook on it.

And, I too believe that it has gotten so far out of hand with all of the commercialism in it.

Two days out of the year that I stay home: the day after Thanksgiving, and the day after Christmas - I intensley dislike crowds and attitudes over: 1. I was here first or: 2. that's "mine" etc.

Let them have it - who cares?

Happy New Year to all

C. C.