My friend's ex-hubby named his baby with MY name!!!   

Ha ha - yah, sounds unreal, eh? I didn't even know the guy . . . I barely met him at their wedding and I talked to him once on the phone when he begged me to got to the surprise birthday party he was throwing her (this was YEARS ago). I'd rather not think about it . . . but it is pretty strange!

I'm with Yecal...I'd take it as I have a pretty name! Who know what family members he or his new wife have so maybe somewhere there is another woman with your name that was the namesake. Divorces seldom end well as far as bitterness goes so best to be so very grateful that he at least put the two of you back in touch! Focus on your dear friend and plan a new fun thing to do together!

Tallygirl09 -
It's quite possible this child was named after some other woman who has my name . . . but if that is so, it's too weird to me that he didn't take into consideration that the name means something to my friend. I guess out of respect, that's my thinking anyways. Yes, if anything I'm grateful for his information that led me to finding her. I can't do anything about their past or his present existence in her life, but surely I can still be good friends with her.

Heya zed_k4! Yah, I'd say it's pretty weird. My friend is now happily remarried, and apparently so is he . . . she didn't sound upset . . . but she did relay the story to me as soon as she heard it herself. She's not the type to admit she's upset - she kind of plays things off - but she did say she hoped he wouldn't cause her trouble because he reconnected with her on Facebook. Like I said, she did say he knew of me, and that our friendship meant a lot to her . . . but why would that be a reason for him to name his daughter with another women with my name? Yes, this is complicated for sure!!! Happy new year to you!

And Happy New Year to you too..
Perhaps if the next time you come into his Facebook account or something, you can say I heard you have a new baby and congratulating him and all that. Then you can ask what's her name? LOL.. he will be stumped, I suppose..

zed_k4 -
Ya know, I thought about that! We didn't add each other on Facebook when I contacted him, but I'm sure I can easily find him again - and then I could message him . . . but would that be weird too? Afterall, my friend was already worried about reconnecting with him. As tempting as that may be, I think I'd be opening a can of worms!

Ha.. that's right. So, it's something to consider. You have your friend's feelings and at the same time, you want to know the reason too..

I know, I know . . . it does sound unbelievable, but I didn't make this up! It sounds like something that would happen on a tv sitcom, doesn't it? That's why my jaw dropped when my friend told me this . . . very bizarre.

Yes, anything is possible. But what do you think of this? I think it's just strange that an ex-husband would name his baby girl MY name when he knows very well that it meant something to my friend. It's kind of spiteful, I think.

You're totally right that it's not my problem. It's not my child, nor family, nor situation, nor anything. But still, I feel for my friend . . . it just didn't seem right that he did this. I mean, the ex-husband can name his kid anything he wants - but it's just bizarre that he happened to pick my name. All I can do is support my friend and yes, enjoy our friendship.

It is a funny story, isn't it? But it is a true one! It is rather flattering that someone named their child my name, whether "I" actually had anything to do with it or not. I choose to be anonymous here, so that's why I'm not stating my real name here on myLot . . . but yah, I'm sure everyone is curious!

I think some people would think that, but I really did not have an opportunity to get to know this guy. My friend and I lost touch of each other once before - and before I knew it, I got an invitation to her wedding (she was very young). I went to her wedding with my boyfriend - and we met the groom - but very briefly (you know how that goes) - and then they moved away, so I never got to know him. We talked on the phone briefly a couple years after because he wanted me to come to her surprise birthday party - but we didn't chat about anything else. So I don't think he "liked" me unless there's something I don't know about. If that's the case, I'd really be freaked out!

Wow? I was thinking Woh - ha ha. It does sound freaky . . . and too simple to say it was just a coincidence, right? I don't know why he would do that . . . I just don't think he felt any connection with me because we never had an opportunity to get to know each other (unless there is something I didn't know about!). I truly think he did it to be spiteful to my friend, his ex-wife, but I really don't know.

True, it's none of my business what my friend's ex-hubby names his kids . . . but he did contact his wife after so many years after no contact at all to rub some of his better news in her face - one being his baby news. He had done quite a few spiteful acts to her during the occasions that they met by chance . . . so seems he still holds a grudge abou some things. It's possible this is all purely coincidental, but I wonder why he didn't mention it to me when I contacted him. It shouldn't matter how I feel about it - but I do care about how my friend feels about it all . . . it's only a name . . . but still one has to wonder.

I'm just saying, this ex-husband knew that I was a very good friend of his ex-wife's. Apparently she talked about me a lot, so he knew of me (I highly doubt he was a secret admirer). Sidenote was they did not/could not have children. Years later and yada yada, I contacted him . . . then found my friend via his lead . . . then he contacted her just a few months after that from out of the blue. He told her his baby's name, which stunned my friend as he knew that name meant something to her. Ok, perhaps there and then she probably should have asked how they picked that name if it bothered her. Anyway, I talked it over with my friend . . . maybe he just plain liked the name . . . or maybe his new wifey already had an interest in the name - who really knows - but still it's pretty interesting how he chose that name - knowing how she felt about me.