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Should There Be More Social Recognition For the Roles Our Pets Play In Our Life   email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 97/100. Aurone (2819)   ranked 24 out of 5,815 in cats 3 years ago

I just finished reading the blog by Homer: The Blind Wonder Cat's owner whose other cat Vashti is at the vet's for kidney failure. She comments there is no socially recognized rituals or protocols for the illness of a pet. So that pet owners feel isolated when something happens to our pets. There is nothing that society dictates must be done for a pet tragedy. If fact, its only recently that I have seen congrats on your new pet cards or sympathy cards for the death of a pet.

We celebrate and worry about many things in our lives. But can you get a day off for a pet illness? Do we can any kind of public support or closure for the death of a pet or any understanding for the grief and worry we go through with out pets? I think as a pet owner that there should be more social understanding for the illness and death of a pet. For many of us they are our kids. What do you think, should we as pet owners get more understanding from society over the emotions we feel for our pets or do you feel that, that might be silly? After all many (not myself) would say they are only animals.

 

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1. myLot reputation of 93/100. cherishxbunny (1423)   3 years ago

I completely agree that there should be more social recognition for animals. I do think we should be able to do certain things. I know some people would say it's a "cop out", a way to get out of work, or whatever else we need to do, but the people who would say it, have more than likely, never been a pet's guardian/a pet owner. I know that when my pets have died in the past, it has truly affected me and right now, I see the two cats I have as members of the family. It would emotionally affect me if something were to happen to them. Anyway, I think you're right. There needs to be more social recognition for it.


myLot reputation of 97/100. Aurone (2819)   ranked 24 out of 5,815 in cats  3 years ago

Seriously, I agree. My furbabies are my children and when something happens to them it affects me greatly. I don't know why society as a whole doesn't recognize this and allow us equal opportunity to take care of and grieve for our furbabies.


myLot reputation of 93/100. cherishxbunny (1423)  3 years ago

Exactly!! happy

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. Tallygirl09 (740)   ranked 80 out of 5,815 in cats   3 years ago

I think that as you said society is just starting to change the acceptable viewpoints on animals and how important they truly are to their owners. I was grief stricken when I had to put my Bakkar down and YES, I did take a day off work and luckily for me I was self employed then too. But I still had to call a few staff and tell them to take a day! So what was a day of mourning for me was an unexpected bonus for them.

If I'd been working for someone else, I still would have taken the day more than likely but would I have given the real reason, not so sure on that part!
There is a wonderful website that I am sure some mylotters have read in my comments. I am not affiliated with them in any way, It was my local vet that told me about them when Bakkar had to be put to sleep for Cancer. It's the Rainbow Bridge, there is a delightful poem that I adore and found so comforting as well one can create a virtual memorial for their pet.

With close friends, I do send a sympathy card and write in my own message. When my sister was inconsolable about her beloved little dog, she stayed in bed and cried all day. I called her 4 or 5 times that day to check in on her and just be there as best I could. Society needs to grow in understanding not only the value of the love of a pet but their innate right to kindness and respect for their intelligence. There is a long way to go on many fronts in this world of ours but to never know the true abiding unconditional love of a pet is a sad thing to me. Maybe if more people had real relationships with animals the world would be a better place...eh? Take care!! Be Well!


myLot reputation of 97/100. Tallygirl09 (740)   ranked 80 out of 5,815 in cats  3 years ago

And by the by, I did pay my staff for their day off! They work hard and it was not only the right thing to do but a nice one to show how much they mean to me.


myLot reputation of 97/100. Aurone (2819)   ranked 24 out of 5,815 in cats  3 years ago

Luckily for me my job has a one day off a year that I can take for any reason. I teach at the Community College level and its a way for them to cover days off for different religions. So I could use that day for just about anything I wanted which is nice, I don't think you even have to give a reason. I have had friends who were just as upset about losing their animals. I have sent sympathy cards for lost pets and tried to help many a soul who were heartbroken about their pets both my friends and people here on mylot. I think a measure of a society is how we treat our children and animals and so far we are not doing so good. We need to be better about cruelty to animals and children.

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. scarlet_woman (11395)   ranked 12 out of 5,815 in cats   3 years ago

i usually take time off irregardless.
i'll just tell them something else rather then letting them anger me with "it's just a pet".
as much as i'd like to see berevement time for pets,i doubt work will ever do it.


myLot reputation of 97/100. Aurone (2819)   ranked 24 out of 5,815 in cats  3 years ago

Probably not. But one can always hope?


myLot reputation of 99/100. scarlet_woman (11395)   ranked 12 out of 5,815 in cats  3 years ago

yup.
but until then,i'm taking time off whether they like it or not.lol

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4. myLot reputation of 93/100. kaylachan (4778)   ranked 188 out of 5,815 in cats   3 years ago

I think there should be at least something. I find when it comes to pets, life is so hypocritical. We have orgnizations such as the ASpcA, but when it comes to a pet owner needing help for a sick pet, the vet is like "pay me now or I won't treat your pet". Which is heartbreaking. Some feel that if a person is that strapped for cash they shouldn't own pets in the first place, which is dead asss wrong. So yes something should be done to give equelity to pets. I mean we are animals too so what makes us more better off and more deserving then them?


myLot reputation of 97/100. Aurone (2819)   ranked 24 out of 5,815 in cats  3 years ago

I agree. But then of course some doctors won't treat people without payment and they die because they can't afford medical treatment. And there is pet insurance, which I need to get for my cats. There are some great animal organizations out there that are doing some great work and hopefully one day society will be better to its people and its pets.

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