Should I give my daughter a sweet 16 party?  

If it'll make her happy, I think you should. Maybe should ask her first? If I were I'd be very happy to have a party. She only gets to be 16 once in her life. I remember being so angry at my own mother for not celebrating my birthday, I mean I didn't expect nor asked for a big party, I just wanted to make it special. you know, not an ordinary day. It didn't have to be expensive, something cheap could do. And just involving our family, no friends. Oh well I felt as if she didn't care about birthdays well anyway, I was 17 then. My one and only 17th birthday.

16 is not a very important age in time frame, so to do or not to do does not matter. However, if 20,then I do think you should give her a splendid party. Because when she is 20-year-old she had grown up, it is a very important age for her.to people,the age of multiple ten is very important.

Personally, I think sweet 16 parties are over-rated and not really in fashion anymore. IMO, turning 18 is the big one these days. I think you're right to have conditions on your daughter being able to have a party and, if she meets the conditions, then have a small one at home. That way you can still give her a little spending money as a gift and she will have had a party.

Honestly, I wouldnt your daughter does deserve it. Ive read a few of your posts in the past and just shocked at what your daughter has done. She doesnt respect you and walks all over you. If you throw this party for her shell think this behaviour will get her more parties and so on. She has to earn a party and all the things that go with it. Not just passing the nineth grade , she has to respect you and appreciate what you do and honestly by your posts she wont so shee doesnt deserve this party. Sixteen birthday isnt that great the 21st birthday (or here 19th birthday).

here is my 2 cents. I understand not rewarding your daughter with a party because of her behavior. When I was turning 16, my parents promised a special dinner for me. But it landed on Thanksgiving. I did not get a party.
When my daughter turned 16, I was planning this huge party. But when I asked her what she wanted, I was shocked. She wanted some money and go on a shopping spree with her friends. This cost less than what I was planning.

I think turning 16 is an important event.

Yeah definitely, It'll be fun. Just make sure it is supervised and don't leave the house! trust me 16 year old's are crazy. If you don't have at least 2-3 adults in a house of 20 teenagers, it'll be hard to control their actions, if you know what i mean.

Has she tried her best to pass the 9th grade? It doesn't sound like it. But I don't think her birthday should go uncelebrated either. Maybe just scale it down and have a much smaller party at your home. Let one of her friends be the dj.

Buffet style food works great for kids so that wouldn't be too much. I didn't have a sweet 16 party and I can't say I cared either way. I did however have a dinner type party with my family and then later all my friends came over and we had fun too. Nothing big and yet years later, I remember what a good night it was because everyone was happy. My mom made all my favorites for dinner and my friends brought all the things for my party including flowers and small gifts.

Now if you'd been planning it for months and then decided not to throw the party because of her grades that would be quite different. She already knows that money is tight so I'd keep it small. Maybe consider getting her a tutor to help with school and spend the money that way. She needs to catch up and get straight with her classes or the rest of high school will be very difficult too.

Good luck with whatever you decide. Maybe ask yourself if she'd been doing well, how different would you feel about spending the money that is very tight right now? And the other thing that you might want to do is think about it as if she wasn't your daughter, if she was your neighbors and everything happened the same but not to you, then what would you think should happen.

With your daughter's behavior I wouldn't give her a party or a lot of money. Yes, she is turning 16 but she hasn't done anything to deserve anything special.

If you can't afford or It's not practical to throw a party for her then don't.Just let her understand the situation. But if you feel like a lot of people are willing to help you with this then you can consider it.

Well, my personal suggestion is have a party but not based on the age sixteen. I feel we may misguide the kids in all these, than what is more important for life. Tell her that there would be a grand party than this if she passes her grade with good score. And daughter or son should know the family situation from the young age, so they will learn life accordingly else they will never know the importance of working hard and earning.