Purses and Husbands  

Well what would you like to check inside his purse i wonder ?

My husband knows it is my property and does not look in my purse. Not that I have anything to hide. It is just his way of respecting me.

I responded to a similar discussion about a guy checking his girlfriend's cell - as a joke. He couldn't understand why I was horrified. He said his girlfriend didn't mind - it was 'only' a joke after all. I'm with you moonbutters it would bother me too and for the same reasons. Privacy is privacy after all - would he go to the loo with you?

Hello Miss... This really sounds like a 'problem' to me. I wouldn't appreciate it too and I think, no one would! I have heard of ladies checking wallets of their hubbies- for some reasons like poverty or doubts or things like that... Never heard or read about men doing this too! Hence, your post has shocked me a bit...

I would say you should have an open and frank conversation with him about it. It may be something or nothing (serious). You say that you have asked him about it and he admitted to it, without giving any reason. It would not be proper to assume that there're no reasons. Of course, there are reasons; that is why, he is getting into it. And you can find those reasons, with the help of your friends or his friends or a good & trustworthy common friend; or simply on your own! Figure out the situation, Analyze the facts and make a proper judgment upon which your further actions will be based... But first, please try to have an open conversation about it with him; I believe that will work...

Have a nice time!

I"m with you, I'm not hiding anything but at the same time... his wallet is TOTALLY off limits to me. And I don't know why. I 've never bothered with it or anything like that (after 32 year of marriage) yet he keeps it so "off limits". In my case tho, since he controls the money, I have to ask him for money and he decides if he will give me money for what I am asking or not, I think he doesn't want me to see how much money he has in there so he can't tell me "I dont' have the money for that"... if I know there's some in his wallet. But whatever... can't do anything about it but file it in the "need to know" file for future use!

My husband does that sometimes too and I don't like it. I told him and I also told him that he wouldn't like it if I were to do that and I don't do it even in times when I have doubts about him. My husband answered that he only wanted to know if I have money as he is the one giving me. Usually I don't ask and he kinds of mental calculate that I have enough and yet not in excess. LOL.

This is the only thing I don't want my husband to touch. Sometimes he may move it from the couch to the bedroom. However, he never opens and looks through. We have an understanding and this is not his place to pry. Not that I am hiding anything either. If he wants to mess around in my purse, he can get his own.
I have him trained enough that when I ask for something out of my purse, he just brings the whole thing to me.

He probably wondered if you had something good in there like a stick of gum. Most of what women store in her purse is garbage though. Pity.

never happened to me so i dont know but i might not like it. coz i have friends who check my mobile just to read funny messages and i hate that. but then that's because they dont bother to ask. i guess if its abt trust i would hate it.

I suppose it might bother me if it happened. We both are the same way though. If he wants something in my purse he will bring it to me & if I need something out of his wallet he gets in his wallet. There are times that both of us have been busy & have gotten upset at each other because I have told him something is in my purse & to get it out & he will bring me the whole purse or vice versa with his wallet. We just do not get in each others stuff really. I had a friend once that when her man left to go outside with mine she started rummaging through his wallet & I was like "That's not right." Of course, she found a bunch of phone numbers that could have been any ones numbers but what can she say about it cause she had no right in his wallet in the first place. Or at least that is what I thought. Same with his cell phone as I noticed someone else has commented, I do not bother it unless he tells me to call someone with it or something like that. It is his not mine. I really think it may be trust. If I go rummaging through his phone or wallet for no reason I think that gives him reason not to trust me is all.