Do you or will you see yourself as a good spouse? father or mother?  

oh my. such a big topic. ..

I WILL answer the question from my own experience. .. first of all, I consider "living" to be an act of trial and error.

you are what your father and mother want to be.. till you are about 10-12 years.

and, that too.. you are what THEY both could not be, at their own childhood.

and, when you become a teenager, you are what your friends influence you to be. and, the role-model that you chose.

.. and so on.

you cannot just rate yourself to be good or bad. because, again,. .. if you are a 8 on 10, .. as a FATHER.. it is your comparison with your own father.
it goes similarly.

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i think, i am trying to live according to my choices and making most of my life.

My husband sees me as a good parnter and a good mother.After 3o years my husband started telling my son that it is extremely diffciult to get people like me these days.I cherish this comment .
My son agreed but they both also attribute this to my fairmindedness and because I tend to think like a man many a time.
We are totally different in our temperaments[poles apart] and I have also written an article in AC about this.I shall post the link if you are interested.
I would say that we shared certain funamental beliefs and this worked.
Wish you all the best! YOu have all the right ideals in mind but let stability, common belief in GOd , children be your focus. I belong to a community that stresses on the importance of adjustment and compromise in a big way and this normally comes from the woman's part.Mother plays a greater role in the childre's life becasue she spends most of her time wiht them.So, you must choose the girl properly.

I wouldn't consider myself to be the perfect wife, but I do think that I am a good wife. I try to fulfill all of my husbands reasonable desires and all of his needs. In addition to that, I want to be the best mother that I can be. I work hard to fulfill the needs of my children and though it is difficult at times, I've learned that there are times that I need to sacrifice myself for them and it really doesn't hurt me all the time.

Well, I am a single mom and have been for many years. I think I was a pretty good wife to my husband. He now says I was. As a mom...yes I think I did all right and no I was not perfect at all. So many things I could have done better but I did what seemed to be best at the time. You know what they say about hindsight. My kids are grown and turned out pretty well and so I think I did ok. I don't think you should rate yourself just yet. You have some great thoughts and convictions. Many of us picture things way differently than what they actually are in reality. I know that I did. I could not even imagine getting divorced and especially after we had kids together. And then it happened.

I have always seen myself as a good spouse. I also believe that I am a good mother. Asprring to be the best that we can be is all that we can expect of ourselves.

i'm now married for 3 years and i must say that i still have to learn a lot to be a good spouse and mother. people are not perfect, and so open communication with your spouse his/her expectations about married life and also how to raise your kids are important. don't be too worried and stressed. just be true to yourself and of course, strive to be the best you can. love, respect, understanding. remember those!

cheers and happy myLotting!

i know myself well and i can see i will be a good mother and a wife to my future family. i have a dream to have a family of my own and grow old with the man i love the most. looking forward on that to come that i will be a mother and a wife. thinking about it makes me feel excited and happy. hopefully that day will come soon. have a nice day!

we are five siblings in our family, and i am the first born. though i am the first born i was the last one to get married. reason? i dont like the scene i see on my siblings married life. they married early that they really dont know what they are up with. plus having to take care of kid/s. i am also in a broken family, my father left my mother for another woman and we grow up not seeing him around the house. when i see him home that is when they will be fighting then my father will go out of the house again. so i made sure that i will only get married if i am matured enough, financially stable and emotionally ready. and of course i need to find someone who is perfectly fit for me. we are married now for 7 years and so far so good. i can say that i am a good husband a loyal one and i can say also that i am a good father for i give time to my son even if i am tired and even if i am sleepy. i want my son to be proud of me and i want us to have a good bonding with him. the things that my father did not show me i will show it to my son. with my wife we still have our ups and downs but we both face it with holding hands and with God's guidance. it is easy said than done, but this all start on having a relationship with a partner that is perfectly fit for you. someone who is happy not because it is perfect but happy for she can see through all this imperfections. good luck

Being a good husband and father comes with great responsibility. It's hard, i know, but i have to step up for the job. I can't say for now how good i'll be at that cuz i'm still focusing on a lot of things. Maybe when the time comes, i'll know exactly how i am and if it doesn't satisfy me, there's always room for improvement.