Leave my kids alone - deal with your own!  

I must admit I would get annoyed if someone was trying to discipline my children when I was already doing so, especially if it was making it worse!!! And if their own children could do what they want!!!

I am pregnant and have no other children, and I must admit if I go to my sisters houses where they have children and the kids are doing something to me which I don't want, I will tell them to behave, to stop been naughty etc, but wouldn't if their mum or dad were already doing so- I will only "shout" at the kids if they are doign something which is going ignoerd, or is been missed by my sisters for whatever reason.

For example the other day I was having a BBQ at my sisters house and one of them (she is only 2) was running around hitting her sisters with a bat (she is the youngest but the toughest!!!!!) and her mum was busy inside, and I told her to be good and to stop, not in a nasty horrible way, but in a way I would like to think I'd speak to my own child, and she stopped for the time been, and then started again, this time her mum came out and shouted at her for it- while she did this I let her get on with it! This should be how your sister acts with you and your children, if they are misbehaving and you are not there, out of the room or whatever, she should tell them to behave, but it is not her place to scream at them and shout at them unless she is the one in charge of them and if they have ignored attempts to calm the situation nicely.

I think in your case today, your son was tired and wanted to be left alone, she should have told her child to leave him alone, but I suppose you can't really control kids all the time, and I know if I was to tell my niece who is just over 2 to leave alone her cousin who is 4, she wouldn't listen, and wouldn't understand and would keep going back, not understanding she was tired and not in the mood for playing, but she didnt even try from what you say in your post!!! And when your son headbutted, yes he should be disciplined, but maybe she should have dealt with her own child, and left you to discipline him, and if you had ignored the situation, THEN butted in!!

I see why you're annoyed though lol!

Firstly, no one has the right to discipline your children, except for you. I do think that your sister was in the wrong in this situation, she should have let you deal with it in your way. Secondly, while your son might not have been right in head butting his cousin, I have to say that I completely understand why he did it. Children do not always do what they should, in fact it rarely happens. However your sister should have seen where things were headed and done something about it. I think that you and your sister need to have a serious sit down to discuss the situation so that this doesn't happen again. Oh and just for the record, screaming at a child, will NEVER get them to do what you want them to. Your sister needs to think of other ways that she can get through to the children without raising her voice to them, or else they are going to do what they see their mom doing. Hope it helps and good luck.

Geez... Do we have the same sister or something? Lol My sis does the same thing! She is getting a divorce from her soon to be ex husband and is now dating another guy so she seems to think she is single again!
She dumps her kids on me ALL the time and the favor is NOT returned! She also blames my kids for everything!!
I know my kids are NOT perfect--I realize NO children are perfect, matter of fact no adults are perfect either but some parents do not get that concept apparently!

It drives me CRAZY!!!

I do discipline every child that I do get to know.
And still kids misbehave,

It's too difficult dealing with children. Especially if they are not yours. One thing that I just wanna express here, If you are concern about a child, and you want that child to grow as a model citizen, you should nurture that child correctly. Hitting is not the way, talking is the right way. We all came from childhood, so you should know what is right and what is not.

This is indeed very bad. In this case she is ur own sister. I have my elder SIL's daughter(7) here for vacations. I have 2 kids, 5, 7, all three fight fight and fight all day long. We treat everyone equally. whose ever fault will get a scolding from any elder person in the family. Of course even i would not buy if any other parent simply scolds my kids. and I can't stand if the other person's kid misbehaves with my kids. Let it be my own sister or brother's kid.

My dad and half brother are that way. Sometimes one of my kids might forget her place and smart off to me and one of them will come back me up. I guess thats ok. I mean I don't have some husband to do that for me. But I hate when I have everything handled and its over with and they come up butting into my business wanting to know why I was scolding them and who was causing the problem. They just need to let me handle things my way.

i feel that way just a couple of days back. i enrolled my 4-yr old daughter in school and she has this classmate, who is the son of the school administrator. for some reason, this boy just keeps on picking on the other students including my child. once, he hit my daughter with a piece of wood. then the other day, my daughter told me she was hit by the same boy with a pencil on her head. i told my husband to talk to the teacher the next day because i had to work.

i really feel bad that the mother had seen a lot of mean behavior on her child and did nothing.