Teenage girl in serious need of advice here!   

I do think they like each other alot, but it just seems like their two totally different people. They have alot of ups & downsm & argue alot. They dont agree on alot of stuff, & she seems to down him alot. Like when I'd hangout with them, he'll be trying to get us to laugh, & she'll snap at him, saying he was acting stupid or something, & I'll try & get them to calm down by making a joke. Their both really sweet people to be around. She laughs alot just like I do. Everytime we're together me & her laugh about everything, thats when it seems to weird that she gets annoyed when he tries to make her laugh. She does complain about him & down him alot when she talks to me about him, but I always try to take up for him & explain reasons why he'd be acting that way. The entire time I've known him he's never really seemed like a player. He a good looking guy, but he hasnt really dated a ton of girls. He doesnt seem to flirt with girls alot either, which is why he confuses me so much. He always seems to know where I am no matter wat & always pops up at random moments to help. Me & him arent really flirting, persay, I have alot of guy friends(I've been asked out alot, but I've barely dated anyone one so dont get the wrong idea on that. I'm pretty picky about the guys I date.) Me & him arent really 'flirting', persay, it's just we like being around each other, & we both seem to be comfortable being around each other. I'm naturally sarcastic & love to laugh, have fun, & live life, & he's the same way. But I think it would hurt my friend if they broke up. Which is why I dont want anything going on between me & him. :/ I'm just really wanting to know wat he's up to. No guy has really gotten to me the way he does.

I dont kow, he doesnt seem like the type to 'string' someone along. Plus; for as long as he's been doing it, he's not exactly getting much out of it. It's not like he's ever said something like "Hey lets go f***." Or anything like that. But I guess we'll have to see wat happens.

I'd agree with notlistening2. Bottom line, just don't try to be with him as a couple as long as he does not leave his girl. Otherwise it means he's just flirting with you.

I wouldnt say he's my best friend. I have known him since I was 11, but like I said, I didnt pay much attention to him till last year. Last year was the first year we really started talking & it was like we instantly clicked & were instantly comfortable being around each other. I do feel something for him, but he doesnt know it. I've been covering it up. Like when he says something like the whole abs thing, I'll just say something sarcastic or jokey to avoid wat he said. I'm genually picky about the guys I'm interested in. I wont just date any guy, but when I find one I'm interested in I get feelings for them fast, but I wont let myself fall in love. I dont want that. Especially not with him. I just wish I could figure him out. It's usually me that people have trouble figuring out, but this time I'm the one trying to figure the guy out. :/

well you can ask him directly in a nice way, like (name of your friend)(I notice that you treat me a little special, I know you have a girlfriend doesn't she get jealous when we are together like this, then ask him do you have feelings for me?), you can try it well I know its hard to do it, but its up to you if you want to trow away your feelings for him, just be honest to your self and be true to your feelings, if you don't want him then talk to him that we can't be like this you have a girlfriend already,

Thats wat I've been doing so far. Just acting casual I mean. Like when he'd make a comment like the whole abs thing, I'll just make a joke or sarcastic remark to avoid the topic & keep things light. I do have some feelings for him. Not sure wat feelings I'm having exactly though. Um....LoL....I wouldnt say he loves me by his actions either, nor would I want him to. I just wish I could figure him out. I'm usually so good at figuring people out, & am usually the one people have trouble figuring out. But it's different with him. He's tries to figure me out & I try to figure him out. It drives me crazy!

I dont really want to flat out ask him about it, because I've been playing it casual so that he wouldnt know I've noticed exactly. And I know I'm young. I'm not looking for love or anything right now. To be honest it scares the hell out of me to think of being with one person forever, when everyone keeps getting divorced at least ones now days. I'm sure I'll be divorced at least twice in my life time LoL. How did everything end up with the guy you knew when you were my age? Was he this confusing to you too?

I dont think he's trying to make his girlfriend jealous. As I'd said before, he isnt at playful & all that when she's around, but everytime I'd look up at him when he's with her, I'll catch him looking at me & we'll make eye contact. Their relationship seems pretty serious. They have alot of ups & downs, but wat relationship doesnt? I know the whole chef thing is a light hearted thing, & I'm not wanting to have 'fantasies' or anything with him LoL. I'm dying to know wat he's up to, but I'm not sure if I'd ever want to date him or anything. I'm not denying that I might be starting to get feelings for him, but that's all I'll let it be. Falling for this guy is not on my game plan at all LoL. My friend seems to know more than I do. Lately when me & her are together & he's around she watches him & looks at me alot. I dont know if she's trying to see if he's stareing at me or wat. He darts his eye's around the room when she does that. Like he's trying to look with out making it odveous. I'm not confused or imagining it either. I usually analize everything to figure things out. When he first started doing it, I didnt even pay much attention to it. If he broke up with my friend because he didnt conect with her, or because they werent happy anymore, I could understand. But I dont think I could ever go out with him. I dont like dating my friends ex's. Half the time my friends try to set me up with guys they think I'll be happy with, or guys they think I'll look cute with, but I dont go for it much. I'm picky about that stuff. I wont deny that this guy does seem like the type of guy I'd date, but the fact that me & his girlfriend look so much alike. She calls me her 'skinny mini' LoL. We're both tan, brown eyes, dark brown hair, kinda the same style. But she's more chunky than me. I'm pretty small built, pretty much a small hour glass shape. That'd make me so mad if he just wanted a girl who is more fit. I want to know if he like's me or not, but I dont want him to like me for how I look. That's always why guy's seem to ask me out when they first meet me, & I dont go for those guys at all. Guys like that just seem low to me.

THough you do have mixed feelings regarding the issue, you are quite clear. Just leave things as they are and things will fall in place just within a while. Soemtimes, some incidents just unfold and you will be guided in some way to take a decision.GOod luck!

LoL I mainly hangout with my guy friends in my classes. But today in english class I was sitting by a guy I've known for a long time, the guy I kinda like was sitting afew seats over, he always seems to sit where he can see me. He didnt really care about me sitting by my guy friend(he know's I dont have any feelings for him), but then another guy who's on the football team came to sit on the other side of me, & the guy who's always flirting was like "Hey you cant sit there" & he said it from across the room. I was surprised that he said that the way he did. But the football player sat down anyway & we talking to me some. He made me laugh afew times & the guy I kinda like kept watching us. I was like .... :)....mwahaha LoL. I was having fun making him mad like that. I dont think he'd really care like that though if he was just trying to make his girlfriend jealous(since she wasnt there) or to just string me along or anything like that. This guy just drives me crazy! :/.....& I always return the favor :) LoL. I just wish he'd give me a clear sign how he's feeling though :/

Well, as long as it's a game for you, then your heart is safe. But once you fall for the guy, you're in deep trouble.

LoL I've known him since I was 11, we werent very close till last year. We're still trying to figure eachother in a matter of speaking. We're just both hard to figure out I guess LoL. I like to have my privacy & not broadcast my life all the time & he's the same way. .....which is why he's driving me crazy! I cant figure him out LoL

I have no clue why he hasnt asked for my number, everytime I'm on my phone or am texting around him he pulls out his phone & messes with it some & looks at me like he's going to ask for it, or like he wants me to ask for it. And I've thought about asking for it, but it's not really wat I'm used to. I've always had the guys do the asking. Weather it's going to the movies, phone numbers, anything, the guys did the asking. But I dont know if this guy is shy or wat. He's pretty outspoken with other people, so I dont know why he wouldnt be with me. We were playing around before & he took my phone & was messing with it like he was trying to find my number in it or something. I dont know if he got the number that day or not. And as for the horoscope sign, our entire cooking group was talking about wat sign we were earlier this year. My friend, she was a leo, I'm a cancer, & both the guys are scorpio's, & the guy that I kinda like said "Nice" When I said I was a cancer, so I'm guessing thats a good thing? I dont know much about it other than Taurus is suppost to be the best match for a cancer. And as much as I want to deny that I'm attracted to him, I am. And thats saying alot. I'm super picky about the guys I date! But I dont know if I'd ever date him. The feelings I keep getting are so mixed up that it scares me to death. But I dont think he even know's that I like him. Like I said earlier, I usually cover it up with a sarcastic comment to avoid the topic.

He did shock me today when we were in english class though. I was sitting by one of my guy friends that I've known forever, the guy I like didnt really care(He knows I dont like that guy like that), But when another guy who was on the football team came up to sit by me, the guy I like was like "You cant sit there" & he said it from across that room. I dont know why HE didnt just sit by me, he always seems to sit afew rows over, but he always looks at me. When that football player sat by me even after he'd told him not to, he just kept looking at us. I dont know if he was mad or not, but he wasnt happy when the football player kept making me laugh & all that. I thought it was pretty funny LoL. But it did anger me that he'll speak up like that to someone else that could start a fight with him, but he wont talk to someone who's smaller than him to say how he's feeling..