Woman kills herself for her man has a love affair outside  

But you know its silly for her to kill herself and Leave her property to another woman who could enjoy the happy life with her husband. Sad for her but she wont know as she already is totally disappeared from this world.

yes, i agree, suicide is the stupidest thing in the world. If one could have courage to kill herself/himself, i dont understand why she/he doesnt have the courage to live the rest of his/her life?

Hi skysuccess! Thanks for your mature and level-headed response.

hi skysuccess, thanks for your detailed analysis. Yes, this woman will be desperate and hopeless when she is betrayed by her husband, but can she solove the problem through her killing of herself? maybe yes, for she would not have any feelings any more...but who will pay for the cost? its her parents who will be in great pain, not others, and i think she is so selfish. Her pain would spread to many of others.

As a saying goes "time would heal everything" so why not give it to time? Her life is totally mastered and ruled in a man's hand while this is not worthwhile.

kellysun,

I feel that there's just more than it meets the eye here.

Sometimes, if you look at the whole picture where is unable to conceive and the fact that she might just be the odd one out in her family back home or a familiar term where daughters who are married are similar to thrown out water. Things will just be piling for her when she was being abandoned by her husband.

It is sad that she could not see the light at the end of her tunnel and sadder that there was no one to attend to her when she was under distress. At her position, I do not think she can see any promising future, or alternative of playing the role of a woman or wife with anyone or even look forward to the split of matrimonial assets and her entitlements.

I just pray that she has her rest eventually and if there ever was a next life, she will be a better life.

Yes, there are many factors involved in her death, and one of the most important one is her personality. If she could have talked to others her pain might have been lessened and she might not have sought for death. No spiritual pain would last forever; she could have overcome it if she could be more confident and brave. Anyway, all is gone and only leaving us talking about her death here.

Every day there are lots of people who kill themselves due to depression. once people suffer from depression they would live in great pain and there is no way except for the suicide for them to get out of the depression completely. This is sad, so we say the happiness is the most important thing in our life. we can live without money even though money is very important and necessary in our life but we could not live without happiness and there is truth there "money would never buy any happiness".

Just the other day there was a piece of news about a couple-actually not the real couple, they are still boyfriend and girlfriend, and they are both university students. While they were walking in the street there was a truck that losing control and running crazily towards them. Before the guy realized what happened he was pushed aside and his life was saved by his girlfriend while the girl was crashed...this girl "kill herself" for her boy and what can we say about it? this is a quite different true story from that one and of course the remarks will be different...

This man whose wife killed herself for he going out to look for some other woman would feel guilty for a period of time maybe but what about later? eveything would be in this place and i am 100% sure he would soon find another one. So, whose fault? Maybe his or maybe her own fault...

Just like my response back to the above response. Maybe he would feel guilty for a period of time but it wont last for long and i am quite sure that he would find another one in a short time.

Yes Kelly, you are right about it as people's memory is short but his own memory will haunt him for sure! What do you think about it?

Maybe, and i do hope so, although this is sad. Anyway, i think he deserves more. For anything there must be a price.

I do agree with you that he deserves more, but as a society why we prefer to remain as spectators instead of acting against him in such a way that it will become a lesson for criminals like him; And deter any to indulge in similar fashion?
Keep smiling!

We can only be the spectators. Its not that i dont like to help others but its their marriage and only the couple themselves can solove the problem. If i am one of their best friends i might give him some advice but its still he who can decide to take the advice or not. Also as neighbours or stranger you can not interfere too much into their marriage.

Its sad that the woman handles it in a wrong way, and i dont think it will work, even though it will in the end, she wont know any more for she is gone forever.

yes, if she opens her heart to others such as her parents, friends, etc, she might not have committed suicide for her pains could be lessened through saying it out. Suicide has something to do with personality also, and we shall try to think positively no matter what.

yes, the great pain is all left for her parents, poor them.
she committed suicide and it helped her husband to acheieve his aim of fooling around and flirting women outside.

lelin1123,

Let's not forget suicide episodes where children are being killed together with their suicidal parent.

A person unloved is really more despondent than being physically hungry, as Mother Theresa once said: "Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat. "

She just need someone's outstretch hands and retrospectively, we need to extend our arms sometimes.

Thats true. The power of spiritual pain is much more than that of physical pain. Sometimes we need to extend our arms and hands. our kind words or actions may save a life. For the desperate people, if they could see some light and warm during the darkness they may give up the thought of hurting themselves or even others.

yes, in China women think more before making a decision to get divorced and this has something to do with our old beliefs. They think they are trying to do something(keep a whole family)for the children, actually its just in the opposite, do you think children can grow better under a qurreling/arguing environment? so they are doing something wrong. Set themselves free and at the same time the children are also set free.

I do not think that a child can grow well under this kind of family instead it will bring some mental diseases to the children .I think every child wants a unbroken family and the love from his father and mother at the same time .If the parents cant then they will hurt their children .I suggest that if the parents dont love each other then they can be apart as soon as they can as this can bring less hurt to their kids.

Their divorce may have influence on their children but it wont be worse than that children growing in a inharmonious environment. Also even thought parents get divorced, their love for the children will not change or be lessened.

yeah ,agree with you .The parents still can love the kid even though they divorced .it's better for the kid to live in the love of his parents than in a broken family.

As for the children whose parents get divorced they might not understand their parents for a period, but they could understand why their parents did it in that way once they grow up.

yes, maybe, just the love for him killed her life, and this is not worthwhile. He is the person who should be punished instead of her.

yes..different people face it differently..maybe some women is less tougher than others..but in this kind of case..i do think we need to help such person because moral support is really important...so that they will feel the need to be alive and face the future being a new person

so never feel hesitated to extend your hand when you see someone who is desperate and helpless during life.

yes..that is soo true..make other people happy as u

Sometimes i also feel desperate and helpless so i know the importance of smile, kind words, hands, etc from others. We are the same, we cant go smooth during our whole life, there will be obstacles and there will be tears but we have to learn to face up to it and give help whenever we can.

yes..no one can escape hardship in life.it's just how we accept and endure the pain and happiness..

Thats true; attitude is very important.

yes..it shows how strong we are..

For those who are strong in mind they can survive no matter what; while for those that are weak in mind they will be shattered in a moment and some even will resort to death if they can not find a way to set themselves free in heart. This woman belongs to the second type, so she chose to kill herself in the end.

yes...it is just pity because she chose that way...

Indeed, it is a pity. She could have resort to so many other ways while she chose the worst one for she never has any chance now.

yup..i guess she think it is the best way to solve her problem..when actually her solution give others problem..

But she wont know any more for she doesnt have any feelings forever.

Her husband deserves the problem/trouble but her parents are so poor.

well,actually it does brings a lot more trouble right??

Wow, you are so fast, thanks for your prompt response.

She left some troubles for the people invoved. 1 or 2 months has passed by i dont think her husband will still live in the regret or something, but her parents obvisouly will still live in the pain of losing a young daughter.

yeah..and that is more excrutiating because they will surely miss her badly..

Surely they will; its kind of cruel.