My Husband Has A Drinking Problem HELP ME!  

Thanks a lot, he does seem to be trying and i know things are not going to get better over night i just find it hard to know when to push and when not to push him because i am trying to understand and help not make it worse!

coming from the same situation i really feel for you, my ex fiance was an alcoholic and he was only 23 years old...he drank at 9:30 in the morning to god knows what time at night...it caused alot of problems and when i got pregnant i though he would slow down i was wrong.after i had my son he still drank never helped out that much and one day he lifted my son into the air and he was so drunk the baby was only 3weeks old...all i could think was omg hes gonna drop him. we split and he relized what he lost and now goes to AA it has helped him alot.So maybe if he agrees to help great...but for your children and yourself if he doesnt fix this problem i wouldnt stick around...most children that grow up in a home of an alcoholic have some issues or become alcoholics themself. good luck and no matter what you choose to do stay strong for your children you are the responsible adult in thier life.

An added problem to drinking, is that untreated diabetes causes personality changes, and some symptoms of a diabetic crisis are when the person appears "drunk" but hasn't really been drinking. Extreem mood swings and personality changes are also symptoms of untreated diabetes. If your husband is drinking and diabetic, his diabetes is "untreated". Get him medical help from his doctor to check his diabetes, and have the doctor talk to him about the effects of drinking on diabetics. That should scare him sober. It did my dad...by the way, diabetes is a common tag along disease for alcoholics.

tell him about the bad side of it

Most of the women are facing this problem thought out the world. I can realize their mental condition and problems face by them. In this situation they have to compromise with so many things. It also bed impacts on children. To find this solution, go to the root and try to find the grounds why they drunk, what are the reasons behind it, if you find the causes then try to eliminate those causes. This will certainly help some extent.

just kill him..Hoho..just kidding. Give him coffee everyday..

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Are you a good cook?

Prepare delicious and crispy foods daily and habituate him to that and then see very soon he will find much pleasure in eating than in drinking. Because it really worked with some couple......

He needs to get professional help. You and your children and possibly others in your family will need counselling as well.

If that seems impossible or too difficult then you should take the kids and get them out of that situation, and tell your husband that you will be there for him when he does get help.

If it were just you, then you could be supportive and only risk yourself, but there are kids involved and there is no point in letting them come to harm when your husband has not even recognized his problem yet.

Hi. I understand what you mean. Although my ex-husband has a gambling problem, it's an addictive thing. Everything was my fault, he blew all my paychecks(from 2 jobs working 70-80 hours a week. He forced me to do that because according to him I was not making enough money to pay the bills) He receives a disability check with decent pay once a month. Believe me, if it wasn't for his gambling, the bills would be paid just fine. And all my love for him was killed by him too. I tried to do everything I could also. I even gamlbed with him. Like they say, "If you can't beat 'em, join 'em." That didn't work out well. He would get mad at me when I'd lose and tell me not to gamble anymore, just let him do it. He would say I was giving him bad karma when I sat with him and he'd lose. One night I told him he had a gambling problem(Mistake!) and he flew off the handle- he was driving, grabbed the collar on my coat and shook me. He told me he was going to kill me. We were heading for an overpass, and Good Lord, I thought he was going to drive off of it. Well, of course he didn't. I didn't call 911 because I thought, "It's my word against his." I am now married to an awesome man and we have a beautiful baby together. So, we both can relate to addictions.

I am glad you got out of it
I also have a lovely Man now we are not living together and at the moment it is a distance Relationship as he lives 3 hours away but he is the loveliest Person ever and for the first time I am being treated well and loved

And that's the way it should be! :-D

I think you should try seeking professional help. If it is already an addiction and his reasons for drinking is that it helps him forget his problems, then I don't think he will stop. How many of us doesn't have a problem or goes through a tough time? You should talk about it because it's more difficult if you get fed up in understanding him and realized that there's no mo to save with your marriage.

I agree with professional help, but ultimately it will be his decision and he will have to hit rock bottom before he seeks help...unfortunately all the professional help in the world won't do any good if HE doesn't want to be helped

I have tried that, i have done things for him i normally would not do because i am trying to show him he can come to me and i will do anything to help him not drink, he knows if he feels the need to drink to come to me and i will do what ever to get his mind off it and help him with the issues!!! He has came to me and i have dont this for him so this is i process, thanks for the comment!

Seems like he suffers from alcoholism which is not good, when he's ready he will seek the help he needs
but he needs to ommit that he have a problem with alcohol if he don't it's useless and there is nothing
you can say or do that will make him stop. I found out that when you pass that imaginary line you crossed
over and it's hard to make it back some people can seek help some can't until maybe he goes to jail and then maybe he can get the help he needs. I can't tell you to leave your husband all I can tell you to do is I hope you believe in God cause you will need him.Just don't give up hope remeber through sickness and in health.

I think you have quite a few really good responses here already but wanted to add that you might want to look for some good counseling services that can just help you to work through all of this no matter what the outcome. Support in any form might help you to sort out the feelings and thoughts.

right, perhaps alcohol rehab will help you with your problem.
it is not really easy to stop a person from being alcoholic.

stories like these makes me think twice on entering into a relationship with a drinker... my boyfriend drinks a lot with his friends, or with his relatives.... to them, it's like a normal thing to do... i can't say that he's already an alcoholic, but i'm afraid that he might be one, when he gets older.. :-(
i sympathize with you, and I hope things will get better.... i agree that change doesn't happen overnight...

That was some really good advice.