Do you think gifts are being replaced for parenting to much now?  

I don't even get what your response means. I guess you didn't read the alert yesterday about not spamming.

These people must be chucked out of the community. I hate such nonsensical answers which pop up in a serious discussion.
Good day to you.

I hate them to thankfully they won't be making money off of nonsense like this anymore.

yah right

I know exactly what you mean I am the mother of two very spoiled boys. I have the same problem when they were smaller the would do me that way. The problem lies with the goverenment I think. with the child abuse laws the way they are people are confuse about what is considered abuse. A friend of mine lost her kids for something my parents done when I was small. When we were mean and they punished us they would send us to our rooms for a few hours. Well my friend did the same with her Kids. When a teacher was asking the class what type of punishment their parents use at home Julia told the teacher her mom sent them to their rooms for a few hours. Well the school contacted social services and a case worker made a home visit and spoke to the kids. Well it turns out its abuse to send a child to its room. They called it imprisionment. If you ask me I think its crazy the way they done her. I think its alot better then hitting a child. But I'm Just a MOM what do I know. I guess the law makers Know more then we do even if they never had kids their selves.

Thats crazy, that that would be called imprisonment!I think alot tof the problem is all the advertising out there, so much kids see and want nowadays. My son wants every toy he sees on tv.

I understand what your saying and i agree but even though it is becoming the norm sometimes you gotta go outta the norm. It amazes me how much things have changed when i was in lower grades and i'm only 20 now and in college. When I was 10 the big thing was having a $30 game now it's having a $300+ ipod or the most expensive computer.

It comes down to the parents though. I know alot of parents feel like they are depriving their children if they don't satisfy their every whim and when alot of their friends have the same things. But if you use moderation and explain to them the reasons behind your decisions they will end up better for it. When they grow up they will look back and appreciate what you did for them.

I totally agree with you. I'm divorced (and now happily remarried), my ex-wife took the kids and very soon married someone earning 3 times my salary. My kids now have every thing they have wanted, TV, computers, gameboys, you name it they've got it. I was in a terrible state because I couldn't compete so when the kids stayed with me we did "family things' - walking in the park, by the sea, building sancastles. They even learnt how to do practical things, change a light bulb, cook a simple meal. They always went back to their mother saying thank you for the time with me. The time at their mother's - watching tv in their room, playing computer games, in their room - no quality time. Perhaps they wiil remember their time with me and appreciate the things I did with them.

The things that you did and time you spent if life long things that will always be with them. They can have a ipod but it won't be in style in 5 years or so they might get the new clothes from step dad but will want more. Once you give them those simple things and string values it carries on threw the rest of there life. You might not be rich but you are enriching your children with valuable knowledge.

That is the best way to do it let them know at a young age that there little fits and crying won't get them there way. I see some kids telling thee parents to shut up and calling them stupid all the parent says is please stop. One they start enabling behavior like that it continues and doesn't stop.

I have done the same as Cortlynn Paid fot the urgent and walked out but started when mine were three. If they threw a hissy it would be 1 warning or back to the car. Only had to do it a few times. Now hissy's any more or can I I want etc. Just be consistant

What wonderful values to live by. I am very keen to see positive parenting, unfortunately there doesn't seem to be much of it about, perhaps we're going to have a generation largely comprising spoilt geeks who can't look after themselves, then that may not be too bad a thing for the service industries - burgers are easy to heat lol

I am a huge supporting myself of getting the kids to do things and rewarding them. I understand they want what everybody else has but if there gonna get it work for it. What happens when you just give it to them they start to depend on that and when they get older it doesn't work that way. When they are in highschool the clothes are more and they don't want to get a job but yet they want a car. I am 20 and know the value of a dollar from my mom not handing everything to me. I will teach my daughter the same way but it will last allot longer with those values then a new toy would. I just wish more parent's would do that instead of kids now acting as if everybody owes them something.

Wow! Good for you!! That's the kind of parent I want to be! I started reading to my daughter when she was 7 months old, and will continue to do so as she grows up.

I don't have a child yet but we are planning to have one soon. I have fears, though, of being a good parent with what I'm seeing right now. Thanks for this post. It inspires me and I hope to be the kind of parent you are. I hope to read more post on parenting.

Well sbeauty i'm glad to see you put your son on the right track and he is working towards a great part of his life now and a family soon probably. I know when my sister graduated from college my mom wished she would move back to are state but you gotta let the bird fly. It is better to be set for the rest of life then to have had quick fun and getting your way because that won't last.

This is a discussion you can at least be a little more responsive then that if not in this then in other ones. It still seems like some people must be missed the alert or just don't care.

I think so.Parents are trying and getting "easier" on their kids and as a result the children too are being spoiled.

I personally live in a very family-oriented home. Even though most of my siblings have moved out and graduated from college, they come back home at least 3 or 4 times a week. In regards to gifts, we have always received what we asked for for holidays but have also learned to give back presents to others. So basically, allow the kids to have some of the things they want, but teach them to give to others as well.

Shame, shame. I am SURE that you didn't read it. For that you get a -.