No regretful word have I ever heard from my parents mouths.

India
December 7, 2006 10:17am CST
My father is 80 years and mother almost 63 years of age . Both more or less active .They are happy that we the three sons of them are happy, doing whatever job and earning whatever money we can . They have seldom expressed any regret for not enjoying the life .My father has never gone out for travelling within India . The factor was want of money .While my mother went for pilgrimage it was by the lowest cost transport which naturally was uncomfortable . They have never dined out in restaurant .They might be able to count the number of movies they have watched in their 40+ years of married life .At any point of time each of them had hardly two or three sets of dresses .All this was due to a income level just adequate to meet the expenses of food , eduaction , health care and provisioning for future contingencies leaving nothing for enjoyment . It is a sad experience for me to realise that my parents have just lived thelife and never ENJOYED it . I also realise that with that limited means, we the three brothers could not expect acquiring anything except the school curriculum . Now I am afraid my son may also might have to realise the same thing 35 years down the line . This is a very sad feeling. Do you ever had such feelings ?
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@sheraldea (263)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
Have you asked your parents if they didn't really enjoy their life? From your post, I could say, that your parents might have been very much content with what they have. And happy to have you as their kids. Sometimes, being with your love ones, no matter how little you may have brings unsurpassed joy and happiness. Question? Isn't it that pilgrimage is all about the spiritual experience and not the comfort? Don't be sad, for all you know, you might just have a different view of enjoying life. As from my conversation with my father and grandmother, each generation have differing view of life. I understand your sentiment, though, on wanting the best for your parents and soon children. I too would want to give them the best life can offer. Just do your best.
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• India
8 Dec 06
You are right , my parents' outlook towards life is different from mine .Or otherwise , they learnt how to forget things of unhappyness . In one word they are wiser than myself.
• United States
8 Dec 06
it is good to hear parents dont have regrets maybe they didnt enjoy life but they made do with whatever they had.im sure they enjoyed raising you.im the same way all i do is raise my kids which i enjoy i may not have much but at least my kids have what they want and need