DANGER!DANGER! sons are putting their parrents in olds' houses!  

ISLAM didn't say that but say that those you give them you mothers are going to heaven since they take care of her , but I don't beleive in there is no time or my work caught me , do you think money or that vanished things are better than your parents , you should get the point well and i feel that you fell something guilty so you written that .
My father's friend take a whole year without work or salary to take care of his sick father , he was sleeping with him on the same bed to see him every hour , but the brothers are also thinking like him so they take care of the economic party and they lived all in a very big house , all that and they know that they didn't do a little thing as he did for them when they were vulnerable and weake , but may be in your culture it's okey .
I just want to tell you do you think a kid can live normally without seeing his father and his father is alive but he just bring her wife the money and disappear!
of course not , it's a matter of money but love and also the feeling of the secret relationship of the fatherhood , who will hug your mother and tell her it's okey , who will your mother choosed to tell her secrets , who can understand your parents well , peoples when they get old they become babies and they need more love then babies not only money and caring , so plz go back to your mind and remmember there is a day for you !
and remmember why we use the word I MISSED YOU SO MUCH!
imagine they die whishing telling you that or hug you

No I don't feel a bit of guilt for the decision that was made concerning my mother-in-law. And I fully supported my husband and his siblings for their choice. Just because your friend was able to take a year off doesn't mean everyone can do it. Not everyone has family that can take over their support and the support of their family too for a year or more. Nor did any one have a house big enough to house everyone that was needed to give her the care she needed. The problem with your veiw is that you don't lok at individual cases. You Think this is how it is and everyone should do it. Except everyone can't do it. Why because each case is different. does it mean they didn't love their mother no way, did it mean that they forgot what she did for them when they were helpless no way. The only thing it means is that they choose a course that worked for all concerned. She was close by, only a couple of miles from the one son's home, and she had family with her every day. At the same time she got the specilized care she needed. She no longer fell and got hurt and endangered her life. And she wasn't alone when she died either. Many family members were with her. Lets face it we Americans think differently then you do on how things should be handled in this matter. Just because we think differently doesn't mean we don't love our parents and it isn't very nice of you to suggest that.

of course you don't think as we do , but till now I don't get it , to love someone and stay away from it and as you said before you may forget about it and visit it when you finish your works .
anyway that was your point of view and this was my point of view and i don't anyone of us will understand the otehr since you see that normal , not normal but the best for the parents!!
I see that taking care of my parents till the last breath of me or them is my first priority in the life and i would sacrifice my whole life , money , carrier , everything I have for them and beleiving it wasn't a waste , my biggest joy is when they get happy, so just try to do your best on your best way , who knows!

netvoice you have a good heart.

I see from your profile that you're from china so nice to mmet you first , but you find that disguasting because the est culture are in common about family despite the diffrence of relegion , so thank you to take care about your family!

Maybe you should visit a nursing home, you would be suprised at how wonderful they are. They are not abandoned, they have visitors, they get their hair done, they enjoy activities, they have all of their wishes granted, and they are close to medical personel that can help them.