who shovels the snow in YOUR driveway?  

Yeah wake him up. First off your friend obviously works too. Why should she have to bust her butt before work just so her hubby can sleep. I am all for sharing the chores but that is only if they are shared, maybe this hubby still whines that he has no clean socks and acts as if laundry is beneath him. Well let him do the mans work and shovel then I say. But on the other hand if he is equal on what is at most times considered womens work then yeah lend him a hand. But from what you said I some how doubt that is the case.

Sigh .. I simply cannot remember the last time we had enough snow in Cambridgeshire, England to need to clear the pathways .. we rarely get more than an inch at a time ... no point in going out to shovel that is there ..

One other thing that makes me feel hesitant about clearing my paths is one of the UK's quaint laws is that if someone should fall over on my pathway .. AFTER I have tried to clear the snow away it's my fault ... but if they fall over and the snow isn't cleared it's not my fault .. weird or what

I am all for equality whether it be sleep, shoveling snow, house chores etc......share and share alike

Hmm, well i wouldn't say that I wanted him to do it because he was my husband, but I would wake him to do it so I could get ready for work and wouldn't have to shovel and try to get ready for work. You can't do it after your ready for work, you'll get disgusting, and if the snow is heavy enough and you do it before you get ready, there's almost an hour there for the snow to rebuild.

I live in mississippi however, so seeing snow is a big deal....and most of the time it doesn't even stick. my husband sometimes goes outside to crank my car and warm it while I'm getting ready :) either that or he starts my breakfast while I go outside to crank it.

I say if they both work then whoever gets to leave first SHOULD shovel it out!!! Seriously just cause you are a woman doesn't mean you are helpless come on now!!! Yeah chores go both ways when you work so she should have to do it too, why should just the man have to shovel, if you get to it first you should do it! Now say she has physical limitations, or was pregnant than by all means wake him up!

My husband and I get up at the same time, so who every is finished in the bathroom first gets the joy of shoveling the snow. But then the other one has to clear the car and make the coffee.

My guess would be she thinks she is above this and that is not right, I would not even think of waking my man up if he had couple more hours of sleep before work no matter what..It would have to be pretty important..To many woman take there man for granted...Noone gets along perfectly but that doesn't give anyone the right to take away someone else's sleeptime from them for there own satisfation of going to work and saying I made my husband get up and shovel which I am sure she did...lol I am sorry I believe in being equal in the chores department and it sounds to me like he works as hard as her and deserves those extra couple hours of sleep...she should of done it herself.

I would be sooo angry if someone woke me up early JUST to shovel snow...argh! First of all, I hate snow. Cold, wet, yuk! Sometimes I'll shovel the snow, when I'm feeling generious. But it has to be at least six inches before I shovel it. I'm just too lazy.

My husband *usually* does the shoveling but I also do my share. I have no problem doing it but he'll often tell me not to... he likes being out there. Yesterday, we got a darn good snowfall and he had to work overtime. I knew that was going to make him really late getting home, since he'd get stuck in traffic. I didn't want him to come home, after all those hours, and have to shovel just to get the car in the driveway. I was home, so I went out and did the porch, stairs, walk and driveway before HE got home. He was so grateful :) BUT! I was the only woman shoveling on our whole street! Every other house, it was a man. In some cases, too, the women around here will stand at the door or in the window and just watch. It would seem to me the job would be a lot easier and a lot quicker if they just got out and helped.

Well, that depends. It's usually the landlord, but he doesn't always get to it right away so then it's our problem. My husband does the shoveling. I can't due to a back injury. So I guess it's whoever can get to it first so that me and my hubby are safe. Also, my hubby wakes up when he doesn't have to just to shovel the area for me. He wants to make sure that I'm safe, and this way he feels like he's helped me.

My parents are opposite now. It used to always be my dad. He'd get in a big snowsuit and snowblow the driveway and shovel other areas. As he got older, he invested in an electric shovel. But since his heart attack, my mother usually has to do it. Although, sometimes she'll get home and see that one of their friends or neighbors did it for them.

I think those friends of yours need to sit down and discuss their options. They both need to think of all the different options that could work for themselves and then compare the two lists to find the ones that they both agree on. From that list, they can narrow it down to the way they should do it normally and keep the others as back up plans.