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missy12 (56)3 years ago

I recently seen the show big love and it is about this mormon family where the husband has three wives. One who is young and beautiful, a older one, and one between the middle. He even has scheduled nights to sleep with each of them. He has kids by all of them. I thought this was just a show, but it's true that mormons can have multiple wives. What i want to know is how come only the men can do it. Is there a culture where women can have multiple husbands. I think it will be cool to have more than one because sometimes there's the right guy but he can be missing something that you can find in another. One can be good in bed and one can be good with money etc. Ladies what do you think?

 
 
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tags:  mormons, polygamy, marriage, religion, wives
 
1. myLot reputation of 88/100. scorpiobabes (1531)   3 years ago

I studied up about a similar practice called polyarmory (loving more than one person--read about it at www.positivelysexual.com/... . I still think that this may be what my boyfriend is going through...he still has an attachment after 12 years of living with M., but he claims to care about me too. I've even presented the idea to him, but I don't think he's ready to confront it. The practice of having more than one person you are married to is polygamy (read more at http://www.lds-mormon.com/mormon_polygamy.shtml). . While it is true of their religion, it is an illegal practice here in the United States. You can read about The Center for Public Education and Information on Polygamy at www.polygamy.com too. A pro-polygamy article can be found at www.slate.com/id/2136453/ too. It can be something hard to deal with--almost as if you're the 'other' woman. HTH!


myLot reputation of 92/100. nw1911guy (800)  3 years ago

Well that pretty much covered that topic.lol You actually ok with the idea of sharing your man?


chillvail (34)  2 years ago

Mormons do not believe in polygamy nor do we practice it. Any mormon who is a polygamist is excommunicated from the church. It is important to relize that groups that do practice polygamy are just their own groups who have broken off from the Mormon church and are in no way associated with the Mormon church except by using the word in their title. We do not agree with nor support or believe in how they live.


myLot reputation of 88/100. scorpiobabes (1531)  2 years ago

nw--I am SO not with the idea of sharing my man! I gave him a test and he passed with flying colors happy--he practically ran the other way when I suggested it; it was just to see how he'd react. I was concerned that there was something else and if I was only meant to share him at this time, I was only meant to share him.


myLot reputation of 88/100. scorpiobabes (1531)  2 years ago

chill,

I understand--I have a number of friends who are practicing Mormons and this show that is first mentioned in the discussion is one of those truly exploitive ones--more for shock value and entertainment than the truth. I think polygamy is legally practiced outside of the US still, but here in the US, I believe it's been banned.

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2. myLot reputation of 78/100. sj_chaudhry (1432)   3 years ago

well, your point of view may be right.... but dont you think about affording one then more wife.... means you must be have children from them and their expenses and other household things.... how would you mannage all that.... did you think about it or you just fantasizing about pleasure..... think about reality man...


myLot reputation of 72/100. deathlord (194)  3 years ago

Yeah...!
One wife is a real pain...No one will want more than one wife..[just for sex]...

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. jeweledbluerose (2176)   3 years ago

I think having more than one husband or wife is just wrong. People are not perfect and people will never be perfect. Having multiple husbands/wives for the sole purpose that one is missing a certain characteristic or quality should never cross one's mind. If you are unhappy with one than you never loved that person to begin with.

Not all mormons practice poligamy today in fact many mormons give the evil eye at someone who does have multiple wives and those who do still practice poligamy get excommunicated from the church.


myLot reputation of 54/100. jacksmom (168)  3 years ago

Polygamy is no longer allowed in the LDS Church. Practicing such a thing results in instant excommunication.

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4. myLot reputation of 97/100. Marie2473 (5328)   3 years ago

hehe, i see your point, however I am all for monogomus relations, I prefer only one man and he better prefer just one woman - ME!
I could not stand to watch the man I love with someone else and I would hope that he feeels the same.
My bf is a complete package also - and I need nothing more!

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5. myLot reputation of 91/100. gifana (2250)   3 years ago

In the first place, poligamy is no longer allowed in the Mormon church. However, there are rebels who are still boing by the rules set down by Joseph Smith and Brigham Young, the founder and the one who took his place. That is why the Mormons were thrown out of towns and were forced to keep moving west until Brigham Young reached Utah and set down stakes. As the sect progressed the elders decided that the law of the land (government) must be followed strictly and poligany was banned.

It was the same for the draft (when it was still in effect), Mormon men were not allowed by the elders to refuse to enter the military on the grounds of concientous objecter because the law of the land came first.

I am not a Mormon but I had many colleagues who were when I was working in Washington. These were things that they told me and I, not having any other source, believed them.


myLot reputation of 96/100. Withoutwings (4692)  3 years ago

Well said gifana. I also believe it is illegal in the US.


myLot reputation of 86/100. EdwardF (456)  3 years ago

My wife is a Mormon and she too has said what you are saying. I'm sure you are right on.


missy12 (56)  3 years ago

I'm happy to see that people are responding to an actual discussion. I did'nt mean to offend anyone or get anyone mad. I actually really wanted to hear feedback from people because i don't know anything about this. This is good feedback and i've learned alot from you're sayings and others. Thanks!!!


myLot reputation of 54/100. jacksmom (168)  3 years ago

FYI: That's not why Mormons were thrown out of towns or forced to move west. Polygamy wasn't Church policy until they were settled in Nauvoo, Illinois. That was after they'd been pushed out of Palmyra NY, Kirtland OH, and massacred in Far West, Haun's Mill, and other places in Missouri. Polygamy came AFTER... maybe because the mobs killed off so many men???


myLot reputation of 59/100. pretty_babe (388)  2 years ago

Too Right Poligamy is not allowed anymore. It's Illegal, but I think I have seen programmes with this still going. Oh well that's NZ for you I suppose.

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6. BigBadBurkz (53)   3 years ago

I am a guy, but here's my point of view on this, because you are wrong, mormons are not people with multiple wives.

That's polygamy, Mormons are different. And don't try to tell me otherwise. I have a friend In real life, he is a mormon. Yes there are Mormons that practice polygamy, but realize that not all do.

IN FACT! My teacher was talking about Martin Luther King Jr. yesterday, and said how it is ignorant of people to assume that he only fought for black rights. But he fought for everyones rights, He fought for everyones Civil Rights, but he said he fought for poor white men, poor black men, and even catholics, even Christians, and even Mormons, and those people have multiple wives. And my friend spoke up and said "That is polygamy." And then my teacher had this audacity to say that my friend was wrong, even though that was HIS RELIGION. And for one, you aren't supposed to speak of religion in a Public School system for this reason, so you don't offend students of a certain religion. As for the teacher, he tried to change the subject saying that it wasn't a debate, although he brought it upon himself.

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7. BigBadBurkz (53)   3 years ago

Just expressing my feelings although it wasn't sticking to your topic at all:p.

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8. myLot reputation of 95/100. darckj (735)   3 years ago

ladies what do you think? can't men respond in here?^^

well, we have lots of mormons here in the country.. wherever you go, you'll see them in pairs wearing white long sleeves and ties and with knapsack bags.. you'll think they speak english? yah, they do, but they also speak in our native tongue.. its shocking that you speak english to them ands they'll answer us in our language..!lol!

but i never heard about that having more than one wife thing.. maybe, just like the Moslems..^^


myLot reputation of 54/100. jacksmom (168)  3 years ago

Yup. All LDS Missionaries are trained in the Missionary Training Center to speak the native tongue of the country they're being sent to. Kinda cool, huh?

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9. myLot reputation of 94/100. 4monsters4me (2011)   3 years ago

Polygamy (having more then one spouse) is no longer allowed in the Mormon religion. It hasn't been for a long time. And it is illegal in the USA. There are sects that still practice it but the other wives are not legal and have no legal rights to the man's estate (should he die), like the first wife would have.

I have watched the shows on the polygamists and the practice fascinates me. I am of the opinion if it works for the people involved and everyone is of legal age and no one is being abused then they can do whatever they want. It is no different then a man cheating on his wife with a dozen people--the law does nothing about that so they have no right to interfere with how many wives a guy has (as long as he can financially care for all of them and the children he may have like another other husband).

The problem is, as in any section of society, there are extremest. There are some sects that control every aspect of the lives of their congregations. They marry dozens of women and young girls but don't care for any of them. They marry girls as young as 12 and marry within the families to keep them "pure". I watched one show where they showed the huge mansion the leader of this sect lived in and then the shack that one of his wives and 5 of his children lived in. They still obeyed his "laws" and the mother was not allowed to work and lived off of his little allowance he gave her. The house was nothing more then a 2 room shack and the kids lived in abject poverty.

That is the extreme people hear about and they think all polygamists are like that and I doubt they all are.


myLot reputation of 81/100. msqtech (14401)  3 years ago

Even if it was allowed I think it would only put forth the husbands agenda as all would be subsurvient to his needs


myLot reputation of 94/100. 4monsters4me (2011)  3 years ago

You can only be subservient if you want to be. If these people join the relationship freely then what's the problem? But I think it show go in both ways and if men can have multiple wives then women should be able to have multiple husbands. The people in these documentaries admitted it isn't easy and it isn't for everyone. It seems all people ever think about is the guy getting all the sex he wants but all I see is a lot of responsibility for the man. He has to earn enough money to care for several wives and many children. My husband would agree that one wife and 4 kids is more then most man can really handle, lol.

As long as the people involved are of legal age, are taken care of, are doing it of their own free will and are not being abused I see no problem with it. Like one of them said in the interview I saw at least the guy isn't cheating on his wife with other women. It is an open relationship they all agreed on. Most people can't understand how a woman can "share" her man. I personally would be too jealous of other women but some women don't think that way and I think it should be their choice.


myLot reputation of 54/100. jacksmom (168)  3 years ago

I like you, 4monsters4me. You're very intelligent, articulate, and actually tolerant. How cool is that??

Being a Mormon myself, I can defintely verify that polygamy is no longer tolerated in the Mormon religion. I like the comparison to cheating.

Here's another comparison for you--I have relatives that are on their 5th or 6th marriages. So what if they divorced before they remarried again? They were still married to 5 or 6 different people. Just not all at the same time.

That family you were talking about were probably one of the Fundamentalist LDS Churches. They are****NOT**** affiliated with or recognized by the LDS Church, but they retain the name "Fundamentalist Mormon" because then they can act legit and still be perverts because they fell away from the "real" Church when they repealed polygamy as a practice.

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10. myLot reputation of 23/100. ghalayini (110)   3 years ago

Here in Australia, marriage is bound by law rather than local customs. So even if a religion allows multiple wives it would still be classed as bigamy/polygamy here and subject to legal action.


chillvail (34)  2 years ago

Polygamy in the Mormon church has not been practiced nor allowed for several hundred years. The reason for it in the first place was to help the church grow as it would be very difficult with just one wife . Mormon members are taught to follow the Laws of the Land and polygamy is against the law so you see the conflict.
I for one would never share a man although I have thought many times it would be nice to have another woman around so she could do all the cooking and cleaning and babysitting.
Anyway...just some food for thought. As was stated above ..any group who practices polygamy is a sect using Mormon in their title but they are not Mormons but rather a fundalist group.

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