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myLot reputation of 69/100. sharone74 (2200)   ranked 2,640 out of 35,155 in people3 years ago

Have you ever known a woman who has nothing but guy friends. Nothing fishy, little or no funny business between her and her homboys, but they are tighter than spandex undies. Then enter the clique-ey, chickie, chicks that are from amidst a gaggle of girls and they do not like the tom-boy that hangs out with the guys.

"uh!, If you ask me(which no one did I will interject every time this convo comes up) there's something wrong with a girl who hangs out with guys all the time. I bet she's doing all of them!" Is oft heard in these little chick cliques, and from that point on, IT IS ON!!! They want her out of the group, and she wants to pop em one almost all the time but doesn't for respect of the homies.

Make no mistake fellas, the knives may be sheathed when you come around and are only used to stab one's contemporaries and rivals in the back normally. but for the chick who isn't 'one of them." and isn't 'going to be allowed' to remain one of the boys this is a painful and often frustrating process that goes on endlessly in a loop.

Nothing could possibly be further from the truth nor further from the minds of the homeboys + 1 than having sex with one another, that would ruin the frienships that they have built over years. I think that the chick cliques clucks are fully aware of this too. They just don't like her hanging with the guys because they talk to her and tell her things that they jsut won't discuss with their girlfriends. Even if she get's promoted to wifey status she still will not be a "dude" like the hated, feared and resented outsider chick.

Again I say "Don't be a hater of a player, be a congratulator and elevate your game to match. I have always been the group "dudet" amongst my glorious guy groups, an honorary "DUDE!" I interract with fellas better than chicks. I find them a whole list of "f" words
frivolous
flightly
flouncey
fearful and codependent
f$%k-ups of other chicks fun
fun-killers
fundamentally un-frapping-fun to kick it with
false phoney females

the list could go on and on for days.

Broads are not normally "my cup of tea" and this has absolutely nothing to do with any type of 'competition' real or imagined unless on their part. They just do NOT speak the same language that I do, and they have a disturbing disability to get to the point or down to where the cheese really binds for them. I haven't the patience, compassion, or crocodile tears to do the peel them like an onion routine.I treat chicks like onions, like they cause bad breath,they stink, and in any but small amounts they spoil the flow and flavor of everything!

Do you know/Are you a "dude-ette", do you fight this constant batttle for the right to retain your friends? Are you a sister, mother, or brother of a tomboy and despair of her finding a suitable mate? Tell us about it!

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 98/100. sunnypub (1603)   ranked 6,354 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

I have alwasy been a tomboy and to my knowledge no one ever wondered if I would find a suitable mate. I do get along with other women but they are mostly tomboys also. I do not care for nor do I want to be a part of any chick-click. the clicks I have known are way to superficial for me. I prefer to surround myself with down to earth people no matter what sex they are.

I have found a suitable mate, by the way, and have been married for 9 years and together for 13 years. We have a beautiful daughter and I am still as tomboy as ever.

My husband's mom doesn;t care for me though. When my husband and I first got serious she told him that he had to break up with me because I wasn't feminine enough for him. He told her to stuff it.

I don't really care what people think of me. You either like me or you don't and I am not going to try to persuade you to change your opinions.


myLot reputation of 69/100. sharone74 (2200)   ranked 2,640 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

This superficial feminine stereotype is for me an unhappy reality here is Superficial City So. California. I prefer the direct and often physical contact and interractions of guys than the sneaky, underhanded and two-faced alternatives that I find when interracting with clique chicks or normie chicks. I am by no means a normie, I am just trying to learn to look like one to fit in in public!

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2. myLot reputation of 91/100. mistymornster (1793)   ranked 320 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

You go girl! I'm a 59 year old female who's best friends have always been men. The very few female 'acquaintances' that I have cannot be counted on for anything. They lie about their age, they talk about each other behind each others backs, their always in competition with each other and I could go on but I do have to get to bed eventually tonight...lol...
I have always gotten along better with men and have much more fun with them. In a non sexual way I might add! I enjoy sitting and watching a movie with them,enjoying a meal with them, going to concerts and one male friend I have enjoys flea markets as much as I do! There's never any tension between us. We're never trying to compete with each other. We can have normal conversations and disagree without losing respect for each other or losing our friendship. One of my grown daughters is the same way. All of her friends are men and she's very happy with thAt. At least we don't have to worry about them borrowing our clothes and not returning them or returning them damaged right? Thanks for a great discussion! :)


myLot reputation of 69/100. sharone74 (2200)   ranked 2,640 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

My personal experience leads me to say a loud proud "DITTO DARLIN'!" It is amusing that homeo-linguistic experts say that the world of men is full of heirarchichal interactions in which the objective is to be one up rather than one downed. They say that men are always interacting on a basis of status and upon the inequality of their ranks. Furthermore they say women speak the language of association and empathetic interaction in which we struggle to appear and to "be" one in our "same-ness"

Perhaps this has some bearing upon our association in the hierarchy as opposed to the cookie cutter "We're all the same." B.S! is what that is. I have striven all of my 32 years on this earth to be an Origional Individual. Un-replacable and one of a kind is where I draw my womanly strenghts and powers of femininine whiles. If I had to go through the rest of my life trying to convince and to pretend that I am a random cow in the herd with no individual distinction I would give up on this life completely and become the sexiest most vivacious mountain hermet America has ever had.


myLot reputation of 81/100. maddy37 (4288)   ranked 5,806 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

Misty just rated + We are told if we cannot add something different check the replies and find one you like and says what you were thinking Thats the case so as i said a + rating Very good response Good Luck

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3. myLot reputation of 92/100. nw1911guy (800)   ranked 2,276 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

You know Sharone, I'm the male equivalent of this. My friends are almost exclusively women. I have about 3 or 4 guy friends and a lot of female friends. Why? Because I don't have to play testosterone games with the women. Easier for me to deal with. If they bring too much drama, they aren't around long. I can't totally explain how this all happened though, because I really don't know. It's also amazing how often my guy friends think I'm doing half the women friends. lol Keeps me laughing at least.


myLot reputation of 93/100. faylinn_chaeli (1446)   ranked 896 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

My friends nowadays are all girls but before I can get along with guy friends but since they went to other school, I was left alone with my girl friends. Guys are ok to befriend.


myLot reputation of 99/100. kgwat70 (10106)   ranked 757 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

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4. myLot reputation of 94/100. kaka135 (2762)   ranked 6,513 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

I used to like to hang out with guys more than girls when I was a teenager. Nothing about relationship, I just think gender doesn't really matter for being good friends. I found that chatting with guys have more fun and I learnt more from them, or I should say I didn't have any interests in talking about comestics, fashion, beauty, slimming all these gals' topics. I'd prefer to join guys' topics about sports, cars, etc. I just didn't like some girls who are particular or competitve among gmails. I just found more comfortable when chatting with guys. Although some people might talk bad about me, I didn't really care. I just think, no matter what gender, we can be good friends also.

When I grew up, I started to make more female friends. I didn't intent to change, but it just came naturally. I don't really care what others say about being feminine or not, I just think being yourself is good enough.^_^


myLot reputation of 69/100. sharone74 (2200)   ranked 2,640 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

i agree whole heartedly

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5. myLot reputation of 17/100. pendragon (2933)   ranked 11,387 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

I find that they usually like women as much as the guys,lol.that's simply the reality I have encountered. I myself, am guy-like, but can't stand guy-company, I can't stand make-up wearing chicky types either, I'm close to an island, I guess,lol.


myLot reputation of 69/100. sharone74 (2200)   ranked 2,640 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

they say that no man is an island however they did not say whether teh same holds true for women!

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6. myLot reputation of 89/100. listen2me (402)   ranked 8,210 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

my ex had three male friends she almost talked to more tha me. i hated every minute of it but i respected it. and as a man i know when another man likes a female and jus try to keep it professional in certain situations and they did like her, i caught lil funny stares and certain smiles but those were her friends, and they were there before me. so i guess its possible, depends on the female.


myLot reputation of 69/100. sharone74 (2200)   ranked 2,640 out of 35,155 in people  3 years ago

Yeah and how that female wants to play it. I see that you are a musician from your avatar. What kind of music?

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. moonmagick (654)   ranked 1,173 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

I too tend to have more male friends than females. And the female friends I do have are tomboys too. For the most part though if I am hanging out it is with the guys. My husband included of course. There is just something about giggly, ditsy, bubbling females that make my teeth grind. I have no use for them. I am relatively girly to look at, but personality wise I am just one of the guys. I have always been that way. since I was very small.

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8. myLot reputation of 91/100. wesker311 (451)   ranked 6,329 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

i have a friend were not actually close but my boyfriend is one of her friends so i need to be her friend too! do you get what i mena? anyway all of her friends are guys! and she's not tomboy or anything because she also have a boyfriend! since i started hanging out with her I kinda noticed that all of her guy friend including my boyfriend is so close to her and all of these guys come up to her for help like money problems. if they dont have money to have a good time she was always there to provide for them, which i think is not good because they depend on her alot of times! i think she should stop spoiling these men because even she causes arguments between me and my boyfriend! i have guy friends also but i dont spend too much time with them and i dont spoil them into allowing mysefl be their financier if they dont have money to spend!

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9. myLot reputation of 67/100. visitorinvasion (3604)   ranked 2,788 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

I was one of those girls that hung with a crowd of boys growing up because I had little or nothing in common with more than 4 or 5 girls I grew up with. I still get along better with men than women for the most part, women can get really catty over stupid, piddly things--as you have already mentioned.
I can get along with anyone who WANTS to get along, for the record. People who don't want to get along can go their way or I'll send 'em their way, male or female.

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10. myLot reputation of 91/100. hottie0728 (866)   ranked 2,128 out of 35,155 in people   3 years ago

I have a team in school where there are 4 girls (including me!) and 1 guy. I don't get along well with the girls but I've been friends with the only guy. Same thing when I was in the Philippines, I got more guy friends than girls. I just don't like any girl drama and I think guys are more sincere as a friend than some girls.

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