Should I have to give it all away?

I agree with you. Don't feel pressured into giving more if there's even a chance that you might have another. Even if you weren't planning on another child, it should be a joint decision, and I don't think your husband should pressure you into giving what you don't want to give. If he wants to look good at work, have him, and some others at work, sponsor a baby shower for the woman. He can be in charge of it so that he can get more 'points' at work, lol. Since they both work, maybe they prefer new stuff over the used anyways. Helping others is one thing, but to give it away when you're not sure if you'll need it again doesn't make sense, especially giving it to someone who's better off financially than you are.

Since you have already three children and are planning to have another one it would not be wise to give all your gear away. Your husband and you should congratulate the lady at work, send a nice card and a present when the lady's baby is born. There is no need to explain any further. Your husband would not look good or bad at work since people know your situation and most people would certainly not demand stuff from others at any time. Relax and enjoy your new baby.

i probably wouldn't "GIVE" everything to her. Maybe a few things, but not everything. If you really plan on having another child, I would definately keep the crib and things like that. clothing will go out of style and everything so if you want to give it away, that would be fine. However, I would probably sell it on ebay. I, too, am a stay at home mom and I sell tons of things on ebay. i can bring home another $100 a month just in my kids' clothing and toys and such.

I wouldn't give anything away if you think you may want another baby. I was just telling my husband that the other night. We need to pack up the portable swing and playmat. The baby it too big for those things. We have no room to store all this stuff but I don't want to get rid of it just in case. He didn't like my tone, lol. But there is always a chance. My first 3 were all accidents (the last one was partly planned).

I say give away anything you didn't really use or like. I had a bunch of clothes that were given to me that I didn't care for (usually I didn't like the style) so I gave some of it away and put the rest in yard sale boxes.

(PS I have clothes for you that should fit the baby this summer--I hope I can get them to you before then, lol).

I think your husband has a good heart, just maybe a little misguided. Explain to him that you need the things you have, but you will go through everything and see what else you can give up. If you have a 5 week old baby, then you will probably need everything you have. I know with my children, there were some things that I didn't really care for. If you have these items, give them up. That way, they won't be taking up the space you may need for things that you like.

If you are planning to have another baby then don't give it all away. I did that two years back, gave everything to an orphanage as I thought after seven years that I am not going to habve any more of them now but after giving it all away, I concieved with in four months time. So we had to buy everything and now we can not afford so many items and I really miss them for my girl. I think you do one thing, choose everything carefully that you are going to need and pack it away, like baby's clothes and cloth diapers tetc that your 5 week old has overgrown. keep packing them away and sort them ones you are ready to part with and ones you want to keep. Do it for all kids clothes many you will see you wont feel like using as they have been washed over and over again. Luckily you hubby may not even noticve that you can send those acrtoss, husbands are pretty duimb that way. I do it with his clothes when he look for them I just say they msut have gone missing. he keeps looking for his baggy pants or used nickers or T-shirts that I really hate and they are never found. He thinks he lost them inlaundary or in ironing or somewhere. He has not figured it out yet and its been fourteen years since I am doing that. and we shift a lot too and he does all the packing too but I am good at it, lol. My advice is you need not replace everything but you can still give away little bit but be careful and choose wisely. Especially choose one thing he really wants you to give away and keep it on the top of the pile or packing. You just hace to make one sacrifice or may be choose one which you and he both agree on giving and keep that on top. He will be really happy, you will see, just apply a little tact.

I think you should keep it- Especially if you guys are planning on having another child. Your husband will have to find a different way to look good at work. And chances are they probably don't want it all anyways- Most new parents want new stuff for their first child- Unless they cannot afford it- And if they are both working I doubt this is true with them. I'd give them a few things that you don't need or have too many of and call it good. Explain to your husband the cost of the new stuff if you give it away. Is he on the same page with having another child?

maybe you can give out a few pcs but not everything. you might need it in the future.

just chill .

I wouldn't do it simply to make my husband look good at work. If I knew that they couldn't afford to get a lot, I would go through what I had and pull things out that, while still keeping some for a future child. You could even say that they can use it but that you would like to get everything back when they are done with it.