How long is too long for an engagement?

Hi .How is lifei think a man and woman engagement should not take long.if it takes long there are certain things that is weeknesses which each of them might see in one another and refuse to continue with the relationship again.u know the more the man is with the woman the more the beauty fades away and he will want to go and meet other girls. i dont like long engagement because it brings alot of problems . i think it should be 3 - 6 month at least.

I think in this case the period is not a problem. The main problem is her boyfriend is not ready for the marriage that's why all these things happened. I think she is lucky that she did n't marry him. In my opinion an engagement is just like a wedding So you should marry within one hour of engagement

I guess it depends on an individual but generally an engagement should be for about a year to 2 years. Anything more than that could result in the above predicament. However when financial situations demand that the couple wait, i dont see the harm in waiting for a longer time. Its too bad for ur friend though. I'll be getting married in Nov and by that time i would have been engaged for 11 months

Personally, I think there really shouldn't be a set time on engagements. Things come up and people have other things to do in their lives before they can get married. Of course, sometimes I think that staying engaged too long really can hurt the bonds of the relationship because the other may feel like the other really isn't interested in them. As long as the two openly commuicate about everything, I think that engagements should last as long as they need to before the two can become happily settled.

I think that they broke up because the boyfriend didn't want to be committed. 4 years is a really long time for an engagement...most people are engaged from 1-2 years. And even 2 years is pushing it. I think that if they were engaged for that long and nothing was happening, it should've been a sign that something was wrong with the relationship. Wish your friend luck in getting through the breakup, and be there to help and support her. That is never an easy thing to go through.

I think the length of the engagement depends on the couple. I always thought that my engagement was really long cause it's going to end up being almost 2 years, but we have good reasons for it since I'm finishing college and he is going to be deployed for a year! That being said, we had figured out a date within a few weeks from the day he proposed, and had even discussed wedding stuff before we were even officially engaged cause we were so excited, lol. Four years does seem like a very long time to be engaged and never set a date! I have to agree with you though, I don't think the length of the engagement would be a reason to break up, cause if he really wanted to get married, then if anything, he'd be wanting to hurry up and set a date so that their engagement wouldn't be so long! I think you're right, it sounds like he just got freaked out and maybe just got scared and didn't feel ready. I always think it's so silly for guys to break engagements when they went to all that trouble to pay for an expensive ring and pop the question! You'd think they'd wanna be really really sure before doing all that! Anyway, I agree with your conclusion, sounds like cold feet. I hope your friend is doing ok and will find someone who can commit to her for real! :)

How long is too long depends on both halves of the couple. I know an online couple who have been engaged a lot longer. They are also living together, but they have not gotten married. I think they've been together since 2000 or 2001, but I cannot remember exactly. If your friend gave him the ultimatum that he either marries her or the relationship is over, & he chose to end it, it just means that he didn't really love her after all.

Being engagaed for me it's only a little more in a relationship. I can wait 10 years before getting married because for me there is more thing important. I want to buy a house (gonna do that this years) and have kids before. Wedding cost a lot. The ring i have on my finger represent the love my boyfriend have for me and for the moment it's enough for my happiness :)

I think you are probably right about him not wanting to get married. My fiancé and I have been together 5 years, engaged 4 years and living together longer than we have been engaged. I don't think there should be a time limit on engagement it really boils down to the individual couple and their personal circumstances. For us we haven't gotten around to setting a date yet and don't really talk about it that much as we are happy the way we are at the moment, it's not that we don't love each other enough to get married or that we don't want to it's just that with 3 kids and a house to run planning and paying for a wedding is just not top priority for us at the moment.