How childhood abuse shapes the future lives of the children

I'm not really sure what to say.

Personally i wouldn't.
Although some go through stages of finding themselfs again and most come out stronger as a person. On the other hand some become weak and find it hard to defend them themself. It all goes down to ammount of support they recieve, as it's a really hard thing both emotionally and phyiscally to go through.

I wished those effect by this had a place to go, not just a number to call. help centres are great but sometimes they need to see someone in person.

Kudos
~Joey

I did not have this problem growing up. I would think it is best to forgive the past and move on. It can't be changed and the horrors undone. Forgive all those involved, forgive yourself, and let it all go. It is gone and need not be a part of your life now.

The problems persist because we refuse to let go of them. I think that is the secret to getting over the wretched past. Forgive, accept it, appreciate it's lessons, and move on. Imagining how it might have been is hanging on to the past. Change that to imagine how you want it to be now. You can begin to change your life right now, no matter what has happened in the past. The good thing about the past is that it is dead and gone. It only remains because a person chooses to keep their attention on it.

That's a very difficult question to answer.

I grew up in an environment of what some psychologists describe as "benign neglect." Meaning, basically, that I was well taken care of with food, shelter, clothing, education, toys and all the basic stuff of life... but my parents were basically too busy with their lives to ever pay much ATTENTION to me. My dad was pretty much a misanthrope, so there was almost no social interaction. My folks genuinely believed they were "excellent" parents.

However, the absence of "emotional" and "human" content in the first 18 years of my life definitely left its mark.

But what would I change in how I live my life? I don't know. Who I am, is the product of my journey to this point. My experiences and attempts to learn make me who I am. I could go back and "wish" for more wisdom about people and the ways of the world, when I left home at 18-- but what would that really do? My life exists NOW, and going forward, so all I can endeavor to do is seek the kind of "content" that adds a little meaning.