Tell me, is this love or obsession?
@myworld_and_you (1223)
Philippines
February 26, 2007 2:59pm CST
I had a boyfriend for over 3 years before. I knew it was love but now, I've just realized that I think the love I had for him turned into an obsession. This came up into my mind because my present boyfriend and I had some fight earlier about our past relationships. While I was thinking about the situation, I have recalled those experiences I had with my ex.
Though our relationship reached over 3 years, but that was an on-and-off relationship. He always exhcanged me with somebody else. Because I was madly in love with him before, everytime he comes back to me, I accept him and give him another chance. No matter what other people say, I would always forgive him. But everytime he breaks up with me, it seems my world would turn upside down and it seemed i really couldn't live without him. I'm just wondering. What that really love? Was my love for him a true love or it was only an obsession. For me,it was only an obsession. No more love at all. WHat do you think?
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@oiixdaii (1059)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
I think you are still very in love with your boyfriend. I couldn't think of any possible reason why you still accept him even though he always hurt your feelings by going out with others. I think obsession is a different matter. I am convinced that you still love him and you are just convincing yourself that you are only obsessed with him. I advice you to stay away from him little by little. Try to do somethings that you love to divert your attention from him.
@myworld_and_you (1223)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Oh no, I don't love him anymore. That was a very long time ago when I was still 14- 17 years old. After that, it took for about 2 years to move on and finally learned to let go of him totally. I was just wondering if that was true love or obsession. I'm currently with another relationship for 19 months already and I'm truly happy to be with him. Thanks for responding. You're right. I must have been madly deeply in love with him before that when he comes back, I can accept him still. But he'll come back to me now, oh no! I would totally laugh at him because I've got no room for him in my anymore. My present boyfriend owns my heart now. :)
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@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
It could be obsession or love...But we all know that loving too much can ruin and mess up ourlife when they are going to drop us...I hope you will learn how to let go...i have problem the same way you do, but then, ive realized that everything is not permanent. So i teach myself not to attached too much on anything and learned to appreciate everything.
@myworld_and_you (1223)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Yes, I've already taught myself to let go of him. And it took me about 2 years to move on totally. And now i'm happy I don't have any grudges with him anymore. It's such a nice feeling especially now that I've found someone better than him and finally learned to love again. :)
@sandy2k6 (393)
• India
7 Mar 07
Sounds like a pure obsession to me. Maybe, at those times you havent thought of anything better or you havent look for someone you gives back love in return of your love... You boy friend appears to be keeping you as a stock. He takes you for guaranted and whenever he has no one to move around with, he turns back to you... I wonder, how you continued this for 3 years!!!
@myworld_and_you (1223)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Yeah.. and I admit,I was stupid and dumb. BUt that was how I was unfortunate. And that was before. Now, I've learned so many things. I love my present boyfriend and I'm definitely happy he's not totally beyond compare. Thanks for responding. :)
