What Would You Do?

I guess I would try to remain calm and explain that you treat all children equally and that your priorities lay with the children (plural) therefore her child will get the best of your attention, along with any other children there

i would tell her that i was getting money to take care of her child and not give him better treatment than my son... and i will make sure that both of the children get same treatment as both are children and for the nonsense of the mother wouldnot be punishing the child.

Hmmm...that's a hard one. I think everyone fells their children are special, and should be treated that way to a certain extent. It was awfully rude of her to say this to you though, if she thought her child wouldn't be treated the way she feels he/she should why does she leave them at your house to begin with? That would be my question to her. In no way should you treat this other child like they are above yours in any way. I'd ignore her remarks, in one ear and out the other. Really, does this woman think she's that special or better than you in some way? Maybe she should check out sending her kid to a day spa instead of a sitter! If she gets to out of hand I'd politely tell her it's not working out, that you're not living up to her expectations and maybe she should make other arrangements. If you need the extra money there are plenty of people looking for a sitter to provide a loving environment while they are at work.

If you really need the money that you are getting for watching this child, then I would suggest that you just let it go. You know that you aren't going to be giving this child any different treatment that you would give your own child. I think it is rediculous that the mother would even bring this up! I would just let it go. I have done daycare in my home for 15 years and thought that I have heard and seen it all. I have learned to pick and choose my battles with parents. Sometimes it is best to let her think she won, when actually you aren't going to do anything differently than you have been.
If you don't want to deal with the mother anymore and you really don't need the money then you could tell her if she feels you aren't treating her child like expected maybe she should look for a new sitter. A good sitter is hard to come by~ she should know this.

I would tell her to take her kid then. I dont deserve that kind of disrespect from anyone. Dont get me wrong now I love kids to death but if another parents demands things out of me that will take time away from my own child the mother can hit the door. You dont give one child more attention then you do another child.

I don't think anyone deserves special treatment just becasue you are getting paid every child deserves to be treated equally I would say like you said if their is a fire I will grab both children at the same time and if tell her if she dosen't like it she can find someone else to watch her child their are plenty of other mothers out their that need a babysitter that would agree to treat the children equally.

When I first read your post I was like "WTF?" umm lady, I would save both children regardless of who they belonged to!" For her to ask you to give special treatment to her child over yours is ridiculous. I think your doing her a favor by babysitting for her and saving her $$ as well. If her child was in daycare, would be she be asking this from them too? Not over all the other kids - all would be treated the same, some might need a little more attention than others though, but to give her son "special treatment" would not be fair to the other children.

I probably wouldn't be babysitting for her for very much longer.

I would try and explain the situation very clearly to her and tell her that the children are treted equally.

If she still insisted on me giving her son preference over my own children, then would tell her that I couldn't continue to babysit for her.

I would rather go without the extra money than compromise on my child's possible safety in an emergency just because his momma says so.

Well if that was their attitude I'd tell them to stuff it. You are doing her a favour and for her to be so bold to tell her to treat her child better is ridiculous.

I think I would have told her that I give all the children all the attention but if you feel I am not giving your child the attention you think he should have then by all means take him to someone else. I would tell her that I don't give preferencial treatment to any child.