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myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships 5 years ago

I thought I had standing plans to spend Friday nights with friends playing Dungeons & Dragons, but two of the people who were part of our plan have consistently made other plans or been late or simply not shown up at all. Would this make you angry? And, what would you do about it?

 

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dopey22girl (3134) response was accepted on 4/6/2007.
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tags:  friends, cancel, cancelling dates, friday night, fridays
 
1. myLot reputation of 96/100. Shaun72 (11980)   ranked 3,620 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

Yeah this would make me angry. The next time they asked me to do something I would cancel out on them.


myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships  5 years ago

Ahhh, a woman after my own heart.
It just seems like such a crappy thing to do. I could have made other plans and now I'm stuck home on a Friday night because they decided they wanted to do soemthing else.
If it had happened just once, I would be more forgiving...but this is like the third time, so obviously they don't respect me or the other people that they are standing up.

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2. myLot reputation of 99/100. wondericequeen (4427)   ranked 107 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

Sorry to hear that. Yes that would make me really angry because I don't think they know how to respect other people's time and schedule. Everyone's time is important, if the schedule is already fixed and a diary is already marked, I don't see the point of moving it or canceling it at the last minute, unless emergencies come up and those would be totally understandable. If they ask me out next time, I wouldn't even promise to go out with them because I won't trust them anymore. And of course, I wouldn't even invite them to do anything with me.


myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships  5 years ago

I agree that it seems disrespectul of the three people whose plans got cancelled because they couldn't be bothered to keep their schedule. I think you're right. I think I'm done making plans with them.

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. sherrir101 (2918)   ranked 6,698 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

I don't know about angry..maybe hurt. Ask them if Saturday would be better. Or ask them if they would like to be excluded until a better time for them. Talk to them. If they are friends, they would have to try to understand your point of veiw.


myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships  5 years ago

Sherri, you're so nice! They are actually more like acquaintances, friends of a friend. And I know he really likes them and he was hurt by the way they stood us up. But since I don't have any previous relationship with them, except for plans five tiems in the last two months which they have messed up three of the five times, I'm just mad.

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4. atenibuboy (59)   ranked 3,460 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

I think you should consider the fact that their absence on your Friday night activities might mean that they are not interested playing Dungeons & Dragons. Maybe you should ask them what it is that they really want to do, not exactly what you want them to do.


myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships  5 years ago

It would be fine if they said they didn't want to play, but they told the person in charge that they wanted to play. So he and we made plans counting on them and then they didn't show up.
I don't care if we do something else, I just think if you agree to do something you ought to keep your word.

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5. myLot reputation of 86/100. dopey22girl (3134)   ranked 1,090 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

It would make me angry as well. I would probably confront them and say, "It bothers me to never know if you're going to be there or not. If you don't want to anymore, just tell me. I won't be offended." I really hate when people cancel last minute, unless it is for a very good reason! If it's not for a good reason then it is just inconsiderate and very annoying, because you could've made other plans instead.


myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships  5 years ago

Exactly! It's not like my life revolves around these people and I have to spend my Friday night with them. It's just that I agreed to be there and turned down other plans because I said I would be there. Then, when they don't show up, with no warning, it's as if they said, "We don't care that we are inconvenincing you." I don't think you should treat people that way.

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6. myLot reputation of 96/100. asteriskec (749)   ranked 2,140 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

I think to cancel at the last minute is definitely not a nice thing to do. For one, I could've made other plans or I could've spent my time doing something more productive rather than wait for others.


myLot reputation of 95/100. moonshadow68 (429)   ranked 1,340 out of 19,197 in relationships  5 years ago

Precisely. And, I know it's kind of whiney, but it is really cold here today and if I hadn't gone to wait for them, I wouldn't have had to leave the house at all.
I think it made me crankier that I went outside in the cold for nothing.

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7. myLot reputation of 86/100. vashstampede992000 (2280)   ranked 857 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

Yes ofcourse, i will get angry.
It is really annoying when people canceled your appointment even you've been ready for it and you're actually waiting for them to come.
I will tell them straight as i am a straight forward person that they have to be responsible and don't waste other people's time as its very valuable.
Cheers and have a nice day ahead from Francis.

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8. myLot reputation of 78/100. marci3 (134)   ranked 3,325 out of 19,197 in relationships   5 years ago

Of course I get upset because I've put much time and effort into preparing for that event. Standing me up is definitely going to cause one big fight, if I were in a relationship. I hope that the persons would inform me beforehand that they wouldn't make it, so I wouldn't have to wait.

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