My Son is Outta Control!!

@mgmagana (3621)
United States
April 24, 2007 10:24pm CST
my 3 yr. old has such a temper! earlier, i was outside doing yard work, and he was using a tool and i was, well, i needed his tool and he grabbed my previous one. I told him he was not allowed to play with it because it was sharp, he got upset, started crying ran in the house, my daughter was standing by the window inside watching us outside, and he pushed her through the window screen, so hard the screen even broke. I have never been one for spanking since i wasn't spanked, but i spanked him so hard and threw him in his room, he was literally shaking with fear. After i yelled at him my head started hurting my mom in law said my blood pressure probably rose really high. but i don't know wut to do, he's almost 4 in 2 months and my daughter is 20 mos. and he hits her all the time if she's around and he gets upset! i just don't know wut to do! any suggestions?!
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4 responses
• United States
25 Apr 07
I think your son is very hyperactive. He needs an outlet, an activity to let out all his energies. He needs to engage in activities like sports, or any other creative stuff that he might enjoy. Ask him what he really likes to do with his time. I think scolding him even more would just make him rebellious. In his mindset, he's not doing anything bad. It's just that he has a temper. Well, that's my suggestion. Hope everything turns out fine in the end. Happy myLotting!
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@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Apr 07
i know wut u mean, after it happened i sat outside crying because i felt bad, but i know wut he did was wrong and looking at my daughter stopped me from apologizing, but i was thinking he loves to watch the contender with us, and since any form of karate or martial arts r expensive, i was considering buying a punching bag and boxing gloves and letting him hit it around especially when he gets angry. wut do u think?
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• United States
26 Apr 07
Yes, that would be a good idea. Any form to release his pent-up emotions would be a good idea, and I like yours. Wish you all the best!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Hi mgmagna I know you probably corrected him when he does things like this. But you have to stay right on top of him. And make sure he knows why you have corrected him. I dont know if you punish him or not. And if you dont maybe you should start. Alot of boys at his age seem to have a bit of temper.LOL I wouldnt worry to much about it. And you take care of yourself too. Try not to get that upset when he does these things. I know thats easy to say.LOL
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Apr 07
actually if i punish him i send him to his room but don't follow through with the punishment,i guess i should just start. my mom in law said my hubby at his age was already kicking holes in the wall, so i know where he gets his temper from. i have never gotten that upset, paidreader was right, i think i did it out of fear for my daughters safety and my sons uncontrollable temper. thx for ur response.
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@paidreader (5151)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I'd say you probably reacted the way you did out of fear for both their safety. At that age, he probably doesn't even realize that his actions were dangerous to both of them. Since this is the first time you've ever done it, I think you may have gotten his attention. He might think a little more before he does it again. The loss of your full attention is probably what's causing the sibling rivalry. I think when you're both calm again, you need to go and reassure him that you still love him & tell him again, more calmly, why his actions were wrong and what he should have done instead. This age is very difficult & with another sibling, it won't make it any easier. Just don't leave him disliking his sister even more because he got into trouble. I agree that he needs an outlet for his energies. If classes are too expensive, have you checked to see if there is a video that may teach him some basic moves & stuff related to his interests?
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
25 Apr 07
thx for the advice, i haven't checked out any videos but i will, and when i did calm down, i talked to him about it.
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• United States
24 May 07
Hey mgmagana! Thanks for the BR! :D
@bad1981 (799)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Start putting him in his room without anything in there but a bed and dresser and just take away anything possible that he might like. That will teach him to not do these things hopefully.
@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
27 Apr 07
i know, but i just feel bad after i punish him.