Compromising...when do you stop???
By MagdalenaM
@MagdalenaM (681)
United States
April 26, 2007 9:43am CST
Life is all about compromising whether it is for education, job and not to mention relationships. I am all for compromising because I feel there is simply no way around it most of the times however, when do you say 'this is enough'???
In relationships I found it very hard to say 'enough' while in other areas of my life I usually put an end to a compromise when it compromises my beliefs and principles. I know you may say that it is the same in a relationship BUT compromise to me sometimes is not about changing yourself but simply accepting someone as he or she is and that can only be done with family and when in a relationship.
What do you think ??
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3 responses
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
3 May 07
There is no upper limit set for compromising. The more you can, the more happy you will be. I do compromise a lot and do not really think of that much. It has almost become my habit to go on doing so repeatedly over the same issue.
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
4 May 07
I fully agree that compromising in some situations will make you and the person who you compromise for happy however, don't you find that sometimes you compromise too much and especially when you do so repeatedly without hesitation, like yourself and I do too at times, some peeple take you for granted and expect it from you.
Doesn't that change who we really are and eventually makes us unhappy - in the long run??
Personally I don't mind compromising but I feel others involved should do so as well at times to accomodate some of my needs as well - this of course is simply my point of view. Thanks for participating in this discussion.
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
4 May 07
At times I think it is rather a weakness of my character rather than a virtue.
Thanks for your opinion.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I think there are times you need to compromise in a relationship especially. Relationships are all about give and take and that is all compromise is. One person or the other is not right or wrong. But they come to a happy meeting place and agree half way. About education and jobs you are going to run into the same thing. In life you have to be willing to bend somewhat.
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
27 Apr 07
True...life is all about compromise!!! Thanks for participating!
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
4 May 07
When my Sweetheart and I started our relationship, we talked about eachother's boundaries right away. He had been married before (a couple of times!) and I came from an emotionally abusive family. We talked about what bothered us, and why. He told me about the things his exes would do, and I told him about my family, and we discussed why those same behaviours from others would set us off. When someone accidentally "steps on one of our buttons" we discuss it and work it out.
