When do you let your kids decide how they want their hair?

@4cuteboys (4102)
United States
May 6, 2007 8:52am CST
So I was curious what age you let your kids decide how to get their hair cut. Like letting boys choose long or short hair and the same for girls. When do you think is an appropriate age for kids to make those kinds of choices? What if you don't agree with what they want, how would you settle it?
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
7 May 07
I think my son start deciding around the age of six or seven how he wanted his hair cut. Sometimes you just have to allow them to grow up and think about it. Maybe they don't like your hair style. lol
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
7 May 07
I so wish there was an edit. :(
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
7 May 07
LOL! That was funny, and reading it made my day! :))))))))
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@Swtrose (3399)
• Canada
7 May 07
My pleasure. ;-)
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• United States
7 May 07
I say get it cut it how you want until they ask for a different style or complain about how it's cut. When they do that just ask them how they want it and if it's not too extreme, allow it.
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@deebomb (15319)
• United States
6 May 07
Letting kids chose their own hair style is a step in letting them become independent though it is a little one. I let my kids start choosing their hair style when they started taking care of it them selves. Keeping it washed and combed. This was way back in the 70s at about 10 or eleven My son of 17 wanted long hair which was the style. He had to keep it off his neck and neat. The girls had to keep it clean and out of their eyes. My youngest daughter wanted long hair. But her hair was so fine that after it got to a certain length it looked like she slept on it so she had to keep her hair short and still does.
• India
6 May 07
i think it would be best to allow our children to choose their hair cut after 15 years. then they would complete primary education and enter the world on their own
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@Darkwing (21588)
6 May 07
I don't think it matters too much at which age you let them decide how to have their hair cut. Even at a really young age they have their preferences. I find that normally, they are sensible about their hair cuts, as long as they don't go in for colours and really way-out stuff, then what harm does it do? It's probably best to discuss it with them, then give your opinion and if there's a disagreement, come to a compromise with them. Give them some responsibility at an early age, about how they should look, and go from there. It's a good learning curve.
• India
13 Dec 07
I have naturally straight hair, i don't get it treated, i used to use baby shampoo and then conditioner. i don't put harsh chemicals in my hair and don't blow dry, straighten, or curl it often. and someone told me that you should not just use hair iron alone if you want your hair straight because the heat may damage your hair. i think you should use an oil first, but i don't know what it is. i just see her putting it in my hair.As far as my hair goes my neighbor works in a salon and when we need our hair cut we just go and ask her if she can do it. We keep offering her money but she never takes it.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
11 May 07
I think 8ish is good- I mean if the boys wanted the long hair shag look and the other boys had it- I would be fine with it. If they wanted to die their hair green- No way- when they were out of the house- LOL .. My daughter is 10- She picks her style- and how she will wear it every day- She is trying to grow it out now- It's loing and really curly! So I have to have some say- if she ever wanted to let it down and not gel or Mouse it and have it frizzy all over- I'd say NO! but within reason is fine with me.
@bhawnam (1436)
• India
7 May 07
i dont have kids yet but my mom decided on my hair cuts and shampoos and conditioner till i was 15. after that i was aloowed to make decisions on such matters.
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
7 May 07
i think it doesnt really matter when comes to just cutting the hair etc, they can decide how long and style they want there hair, the only thing my parents said was no colour in my hair til im 16. it was just a thing my parents decided with all of their children, and still to this day im not really into colouring my hair, a couple weeks back i got red streaks (not very noticeable in my hair) but it was only 8 washes and that will do me for a while i wont worry for a probably a yr or 2 before trying to colour hair again, just not worth it i think.
• Malaysia
7 May 07
i'm still a teenager.. and in my opinion.. kids should be allowed to decide how they want their hair to be when they reach the age of 13 - 20.. i think they're already matured by then.. maybe 13 is still a little immature.. 15 and above should be fine.. anyway.. it's their hair right.. they have the right to do what they like to it..as a parent.. you can only give suggestions but never ever try to scold them for having such hairstyles.. you'll make them angry and it's very common in boys.. i've seen my cousin quarel with his parents juz because he want to keep his current punk style..
• United States
7 May 07
I'd say whenever they want to. I'd never cut my daughters hair, when I have one, until she told me to! Thats how my mom did it. I had my hair NEVER cut until I was 10. I decided it was too thick and always horrible to brush for us both to handle. So I had it cut. Now a days I keep it medium length and easy and get it cut every few months. As for little boys, keep it short but not shaved. Yeah thats the way to go!
• United States
6 May 07
When they can express an opinion. My husband doesn't agree, though, so we have to work on him when one of the kids wants a hairstyle he doesn't really like. My thoughts on hair and other style issues are that it's not a moral, safety, or health issue, so I'm not starting a fight over it. If their school had a dress code forbidding certain styles I would require them to follow it but also support them in trying to change it respectfully if that was their desire. When they're grown, it's not going to matter that they had pink hair at 14. It will matter if they stopped listening and talking to me at that age b/c I was too controlling.
• United States
6 May 07
My daughter has made decisions about how she wants her hair since she was like 4 and she is 6 and a half now. I do have some restrictions like she wanted her hair cut like dora the explorer and she wanted it shorter and I told her no so she was happy about it. Other than that she and I will talk about it. I don't let her put dye in her hair or anything like that and I think she can do that every now and then once she turns like 10 or 12 just to have fun. I think it depends on the child and the maturity.
@calvin222 (1607)
• India
6 May 07
Practically speaking make them keep their hair your way till they reach the age of rebellion. and just before they go out and get it cut trimmed streaked in rebellion, tell them ok you can do it. its face saving to give in before they rebel and do it anyway. timing ofcourse is of paramount importance. the above also applies to what they want.